—if you had to mature too early. if you prioritize the right and the rule. if you have a softspot, nonetheless, for the vulnerable. samuel

—if you have strong morals, if you are sharp and steadfast. if your relatives strain you. nathan

—if you self harm. ahiyah

—if you are fatigued and much is asked of you. if you keep sacrificing regardless. if you are an old soul. elijah

—if you spit in heaven's face. if you love others more than yourself. if you have bad hair days. elisha

—if you feel that you have many parts. if you shift endlessly from feeling safe, to feeling hopeful, to feeling fear. if you know hoy and pain more than anything else. isaiah

—if you know righteousness. if your voice precedes you. if your heart is heavy and you know the reason for it. jeremiah

—if your visions haze. if harm is removed from hurt. if you're into that. into shibari. ezekiel

—if you are into smut and self-effacement. if you regret how you present yourself. hosea

—if something is pouring out of you. if this is a new hole. if you remember the repayment you're owed. joel

—if heaven has to feel righteous. amos

—if you are part of the resistance. ovadiah

—if it is right for you to feel angry. if you know your needs. if there's a fetal position you find yourself in. jonah

—if you see how this ends. micah

—if you are reliable. if you are in your room often. if you read and read and read. if you are residing and postured, stylish and formal in rhetoric. huldah

—if you are a poet. if you offer solace to others. if you solace yourself. nahum

—if you are the result of hate. if you rave and repeat yourself. if your visions mean something. havvaukuk

—if the pain feels natal. zephaniah

—if the return feels familiar. if you find homes in many settings. haggai

—if you need to restore something, or, restore yourself. if you know the shape that needs to take. zechariah

—if your voice is not your own. if something feels off. if your memory is strong. malachi

—if you feel the heat. if there is a finality to you. if these visions are not visions anymore. daniyyel

An old reliable is something that has been proven to work and is likely to increase your quality of life. For example getting in shape to improve your dating options if you live somewhere that has thinness as the beauty standard, seeking higher education if you want to increase chances of social mobility etc.

They aren't perfect solutions and people will disagree on just how necessary they are but they have worked and they've worked for many people from many walks of life. You go for an old reliable when you don't know what you're doing with your life or where to start and all you know is that you'd like things to be different.

The basics are things at the bottom of the pyramid, you start with these when you don't know where to start but you know what you want to do. If you want to lose weight but know very little about weightloss and nutrition you start with downloading myfitnesspal or using a calorie calculator and adding a vegetable to your meals, if you want to get fit you start with a walk or a youtube workout video.

Starting with the basics allows you to build up a new habit without getting stuck in the information stage and getting overwhelmed or procrastinating.

Again it is no perfect solution, its just a stepping stone. Its easier to jump from a daily walking habit to a treadmill habit to a lifting habit than it is to go from sedentary to 3 hrs of lifting 7 days a week and that's just the truth.

We have a tendency to get stuck in the info hoarding stage and mistaking that for self improvement but reading about resistant starch and saving pins on the perfect high protein no calorie no this no that breakfast bowl won't help you if there is no implementation, you'll benefit way more from taking a simple action than you will from reading about complicated ones.

You don't stick to basics and old reliables forever mind you, you simply start with them, build up a habit and then start implementing all the thing that will be necessary for you to have the life you want.

start building and maintaining a social circle. this is very basic advice but ever since quarantine it seems like many people do not know how to speak to people, make friendships and create a network and it really is such an important part of living well. additionally it appears to me that many people seem to think that hiding away from the world means you're ''healed'' or ''unbothered'' or are ''protecting your peace'' when really its all social incompetence.

the human is a pack animal and we're not meant for isolation.

thank you for the question love. I'm still in my twenties and I don't know everything so I'll give you what I can, mostly based on what I have learned, what I've read and what I believe.

Education is absolutely paramount especially if you are a woman.

Get your wellness together as early as possible and keep it together.

Finances must be in order ( learn how to save and how to invest, learn the signs of shopping and gambling addiction and how to avoid them, pick jobs that will make your finances better and break bad money habits.)

Learn how to pick a high quality partner

Figure out what you want in a partner and start dating with intention.

Figure out what you want in life and go after it.

Learn how to run a household properly.

Take your sexual health seriously.

Don't judge yourself too harshly but understand when not to sugarcoat.

Engage with your hobbies as much as possible.

Maintain a healthy sense of self.

Make decisions you know will age well.

Audit your habits and get rid of bad ones as quickly as you can.

An influencer trying to sell you a course is a scammer. ( take this one seriously)

Build up a good social circle.

Eat well but take advantage of your youthful metabolism.

Make time for things that feel good without self-judgement ( still learning this).

Don't treat the decisions you make in your twenties like they don't matter because they do.

Prioritize long term happiness over short term fun.

Be hot.

I think more women need to start cheekily standing up against people, especially men who try to make them feel uncomfortable, who try to demean and who push against their boundaries and who are just absolute weirdos.

I love twiggy's attitude here because she isn't rude, bitchy or combative but she also isn't letting a weird pseudo-intellectual loser make her feel less than or drag her into his nonsense. She's sweet and soft-spoken about it but she managed to put him in his place and expose him for who is, a small mediocre creep who thinks he is smarter than he is.

I definitely feel like I myself have been far too lenient with people especially men regarding who may speak to me and how and its a habit that won't serve any woman and hasn't served me.

I think many women have a fear of standing up for themselves because they don't want unfortunate labels attached to them but figuring out how to balance being outwardly polite and sweet with just enough bitchiness to cut someone down to size is something I'm cultivating and I think it will serve me very well.