the problem with the near universal assumption that being a (cis) woman or ""an afab"" makes you safe to be around is that it only really even remotely functions as a proxy for "being part of a marginalized group makes you vulnerable and less equipped to harm those with privilege over you" in contexts where no other axes of oppression are at play
there's a reason white women's tears are so dangerous. white women can weaponize their perceived fragility against Black women, because the prevailing cultural and systemic idea isn't "the most marginalized are the most vulnerable," the prevailing idea is that white, cis women (and/or ""afabs"") are the most vulnerable. and Black and trans women know firsthand what a dangerous crock of shit that is
I suspect this is part of why the trans men who like to pull the "afab" card against trans women also tend to be the ones who shout down trans women trying to point out how especially marginalized and vulnerable we are in comparison to them, from the wage gap to murder statistics to housing discrimination to social power dynamics
how can they weaponize their perceived vulnerability against us if the true dynamics are laid bare?
very curious what percentage of these men are white btw
