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love and hate are two sides of the same parasocial coin

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not to be an old man yelling at clouds about social media but i really think a lot would already be helped if people reminded themselves regularly that no one is stopping people on tik tok/insta/wherever from lying to them, and I don't just mean the obvious shit about how that product really fixed their skin and this super special deal finally made daddy love them. i mean even just shit like "I'm a doctor/lawyer/physical trainer," like! they could be lying! who the fuck knows!! who cares frankly, either, because a doctor is still a far shot from a good doctor. and so on and so forth you get the idea. like, people would in fact do that and lie on the internet. everything on insta + tik tok should be treated as an ad until proven otherwise. people lie, kevin
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one of the things I like about hucklerobby is if they were the same age (whether they were both in their 50s or both in their 20s) then they wouldn't like each other
and idk maybe this concept may read as unromantic but I think it's actually really romantic. like a goldilocks effect they met just at the right time.

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one of the things I like about hucklerobby is if they were the same age (whether they were both in their 50s or both in their 20s) then they wouldn't like each other
i’ve only followed from the outskirts, but it’s crazy how many people are surprised that the zutaranti story ended this way. the last few weeks have been such a mess of cruelty towards zutara artists and bloggers, harassment, bad faith engagement, trivialization of real life issues… it was obvious that someone was going to take it too far. zk accounts were WARNING zutaranti&co that that certain jokes were problematic and harmful, that mistagging was inappropriate, that the use of real life issues to “win” arguments was hurtful, insensitive and racist. fell on deaf years until it got to such a bad point. and kas are still insisting with this stupid lie and justification of “fine, one of us got too far but zutaras are bad/annoying/harassers and started it!!” yet they can never name one guilty account unless they are taking a screenshot of someone who HAS THEM BLOCKED and dogpiling on them. they’ve spent so much time insisting with this narrative that zks are the “bad apples” of the fandom and therefore deserve any and all harassment that their space has turned into a cesspool and they don’t even notice.
same. i didn’t want to involve myself knee deep into that horrid hellhole of repeated, hateful, illogical discourse. the reason why zutaranti was given such a huge platform to spread her bs takes is that kas - on a general scale - agreed with her! they loved the numbers and the ratio and the constant dogpiling that targeted any notable zk acc - they loved infiltrating zk spaces and harassing users and using real life issues to justify their awful, toxic behavior, all in the name of propagating the Superiority of their Canon Ship. zutaranti did all of that - the minimization of real life issues to fit their narratives, the constant harassment and bullying, the problematic jokes and memes - for a…..cartoon ship…….that aired in 2000s…….like that’s what’s flabbergasting to me. you do not see the same kind of anger or vitriol or dedication in advocacy for actual, real-life issues! they bank on their Moral Superiority Tug of War when atla itself was created by orientalist white men who smushed varying asian cultures into stereotypical portrayals and called it a day! they’re backpedaling now by saying they’ve always called on her bs (but was too afraid to “speak up”, whatever the fuck that means) or that it was two-sided, both zks and kas are at fault - or somehow they go as far to stretch that they look “as bad” as zks now. well, no, they look fucking worse. even now, their apologies are half-meant and barely apologies at all. they’re genuinely weird people who are so convinced of their own superiority and Rightness that it’s just - polluting the fandom. zks take to their own spaces - kas have no idea how to do that. this was a lesson in the making but i’m pretty sure barely any of them will pick it up. lol
it's interesting how now they have let their friend discover where the line is drawn in the sand, they have happily denounced and distanced themselves from any association with the behaviour that they themselves enabled.
the normalisation that has occurred of treating zutara fans as if they condone real life genocide and colonialism (when zutara fans like to imagine a world where katara falls in love with a banished prince who turned his back on his nation, his abusive father, the only home he's ever known, in order to dismantle said ruling power) is absurd. flattening real people, real atrocities. for what? cartoon ship discourse? are we serious?
the joke that account made crossed a line. but why was any of the behaviour before that point even fostered in the first place?
As Taylor Swift once said, “Your nemeses will defeat themselves before you get the chance to swing,” and that perfectly describes what’s happening with the KAs and unexpectedly 👀👀 the person who’s spent all this time generating hate, harassment, and misogyny ends up being super racist and weird!!!! that’s literally indefensible
If you don’t like Zutara okay block everything related to them and MOVE ON. Supporting that kind of hate campaign only puts you in the same category as that person.
And no, none of this is funny, it’s disgusting, creepy and honestly something that should be worked out in therapy.
zuko and katara attempt to soft parent the gaang (and fail)
this is a safe space for people that love zutara but don't care for dr@mione and r3ylo btw

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I think one of the reasons anti-zutara arguments bother me so much is that zutara isn't real. everyone in their head has a different understanding of what zutara would look like in practice based on their impressions of these characters. like if you're making a post critiquing kata//ang then everyone has a concrete understanding of what we're actually discussing.
so when someone makes an anti-zutara take, it usually looks like either 1) bashing the fans for being annoying (when no fandom is uniquely awful) or 2) fighting an invisible ghost lmao. "zutara is wrong because it romanticises toxic masculinity and katara would never be fire lady". katara and zuko are feeding turtle ducks and he's helping her rebuild the southern water tribe in my imagination so I have no clue what you're talking about, I'm sorry.
I don't tend to apply strict colonial theory towards a:tla, because the second you try to, the whole thing crumbles apart. I tried to make a list of questionable stuff this show does in its canon and in its orientalism and the list just keeps going. the show's perspective is that war and genocide is bad and hurts everybody. the deeper you interrogate the political stance of a children's cartoon from 2005, the less it holds up. this is ultimately a fantasy epic story for children, written by two white men who really loved anime and the aesthetics of east and south east asian culture. (the sun warriors are based on mesoamerican and indonesian indigenous groups too). and they just smushed all of that together.
katara helps zuko earn back his throne. she canonically believes he's earned it.
basically, if you think zutara fundamentally romanticises coloniser x colonised, then I don't think I can change your mind but then there are about a billion other things that actually happen in the show that ought to render the whole thing unforgivable to you (and those that do apply these critiques to the show as a whole still have no issue calling themselves a:tla fans and actively making fanworks all these years later right?)
so I find it hard to engage with this critique when it's only ever applied to the Concept of Zutara (something which is fanon, fluid and non-canon i.e. not real) and never the actual show redeeming him anyway. aang is the sole survivor of the air nomad genocide, and he stands up on the steps of the fire nation palace as the unified nations celebrate zuko's coronation.
100% — the suggestion that zutara is some colonizer x colonized fantasy does not fit with the whole reason zuko is so popular — he redeemed himself! the character as written had the bad moral luck to be born in the royal family of a colonizing state but ultimately rejected it, and to still label post-redemption zuko as an active colonizer seems to suggest that humans are not mutable and will always be defined by their pasts. which is…pretty sad and cynical to me. not to mention the fact that critiquing a romance with him but not a friendship is necessarily ranking romantic relationships above platonic ones…which is also a bummer!
I think it's like, if people want to write fanfiction that more directly deals with colonial critique and has zuko abolish the monarchy and the gaang cut him off because they just can't get over the fact that his family was responsible for war crimes then that is fine. creative liberty and all that. but the kind of moral grandstanding over people that don't want to engage with the show in that way is just tiresome.
the show frames zuko as a sympathetic victim of the big bad imperialist, holds him accountable for the stuff that he does, and in the end grants him that same power that was used to subjugate people for a century, with the implication that he is going to implicate major reform. that is the show that everyone is in a fandom for.
I love that zuko is a theatre kid. he's having a great time sitting politely in ember island players just smiling to himself while the show goes down (until it gets personal). and I love that his issue with his mum taking him to see Love Amongst The Dragons isn't that it wasn't to his taste but that it was "butchered".
he just seems like such a closet romantic to me.
so as a zutara headcanon I really love the idea of katara gifting him something that she knows he'll like and not even really thinking about it too hard. then when he receives it he's just so struck dumb by it.
euphoria was meant to be the new skins (revealing look at the harsh realities of being an emotionally neglected teen) but in the end became a new 13 reasons why (original character archetypes completely abandoned and stretching the actors' range, in favour of whatever fanfiction the creator felt like writing that day)
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Not to hijack this post, but I'll still die on the hill that it looks like she's smiling in the second gif. You can clearly see her mouth turn down in the first one, and she's also closing her eyes, whereas in the second one she keeps eye contact the whole time. In the first one, she looks afraid and resigned. Whereas in the second one, not only is she looking straight ahead, she has her foot forward, a clear contrast to the reluctance she feels in "The Puppetmaster."
The closeup on her face also emphasizes Katara's agency in the second gif, whereas in the first one she seems very removed from what she's doing.
The reason Zuko looks so awed when he sees her in the second gif is not just because what she's doing is scary/taboo, but because of the control and will she exhibits while doing it.

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I think one of the reasons anti-zutara arguments bother me so much is that zutara isn't real. everyone in their head has a different understanding of what zutara would look like in practice based on their impressions of these characters. like if you're making a post critiquing kata//ang then everyone has a concrete understanding of what we're actually discussing.
so when someone makes an anti-zutara take, it usually looks like either 1) bashing the fans for being annoying (when no fandom is uniquely awful) or 2) fighting an invisible ghost lmao. "zutara is wrong because it romanticises toxic masculinity and katara would never be fire lady". katara and zuko are feeding turtle ducks and he's helping her rebuild the southern water tribe in my imagination so I have no clue what you're talking about, I'm sorry.
I don't tend to apply strict colonial theory towards a:tla, because the second you try to, the whole thing crumbles apart. I tried to make a list of questionable stuff this show does in its canon and in its orientalism and the list just keeps going. the show's perspective is that war and genocide is bad and hurts everybody. the deeper you interrogate the political stance of a children's cartoon from 2005, the less it holds up. this is ultimately a fantasy epic story for children, written by two white men who really loved anime and the aesthetics of east and south east asian culture. (the sun warriors are based on mesoamerican and indonesian indigenous groups too). and they just smushed all of that together.
katara helps zuko earn back his throne. she canonically believes he's earned it.
basically, if you think zutara fundamentally romanticises coloniser x colonised, then I don't think I can change your mind but then there are about a billion other things that actually happen in the show that ought to render the whole thing unforgivable to you (and those that do apply these critiques to the show as a whole still have no issue calling themselves a:tla fans and actively making fanworks all these years later right?)
so I find it hard to engage with this critique when it's only ever applied to the Concept of Zutara (something which is fanon, fluid and non-canon i.e. not real) and never the actual show redeeming him anyway. aang is the sole survivor of the air nomad genocide, and he stands up on the steps of the fire nation palace as the unified nations celebrate zuko's coronation.
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