You cannot shame me for acknowledging that reality exists. Also, I'm a trans woman. I have faced a lot of abuse and discrimination. The only reason I'm not dead is because three people- a true friend and my friend's parents- cared enough to rescue me. No one else did, no matter how much I begged. They were the only people who actually helped me. We aren't comfortable but we aren't starving or homeless.
That seems to matter more than my thoughts or actions, so I'm mentioning it. Let's get on with the conversation that shouldn't be controversial but is for some reason.
The oppression of people with uteruses has existed pretty much since the dawn of agriculture, when having a greater population gave you an advantage over the others. Controlling people with uteruses and forcing them to give birth meant you had more people to work the fields and fight wars. This is also when slavery was probably invented. Farming, especially when you don't even have copper tools, is very hard. (I'm not justifying it at all.)
It should also be noted that successful pregnancies and childhoods went down when humans started relying on agriculture. They didn't have the resources we have today, so many had nutritional deficiencies. At risk people- babies, children, pregnant people, disabled people, elderly people- often die from malnutrition. This even more so pressured people with uteruses to have tons of babies.
There's also something to be said for the instinctual belief that children of your blood are better, which led to polygamy and a strict control over how much a person with a uterus was allowed to interact with their fellow humans. People with penises were even subjected to mutilation to prevent them from reproducing. Visibly intersex or disabled babies were often left to die.
We don't know a lot about attitudes towards queer people, (particularly because white people and Christians in specific liked to erase us from society and the historical records), but we know that minorities tend to have a bad time.
And before you say that this is all in the past, I want to remind you that not everyone gets to grow up in an ultra privileged bubble. Not even in the imperial core.
"Oh but TERFs believe in sex based oppression!"
They do. They believe that sex based oppression is the primary and the worst oppression. False. They believe that anyone who has a penis is privileged. False. They believe in harming trans and intersex people. Wrong. They believe that trans women are predatory invaders and trans men are traitors or damaged girls, and their opinions on intersex and nonbinary people fluctuates but usually they treat them like they're evil or damaged. Wrong and false.
Those beliefs are not based on reality. There is no historical or modern evidence of these claims. There's no scientific basis, because a person cannot be born evil.
No trans or intersex person is damaged, or brainwashed, or evil, just for being trans or intersex. As I keep saying, your identity doesn't tell anyone anything about your thoughts or politics. Your actions do.
TERFs also tend to be bigots in other ways, like racism. They are very nasty towards women of color.
"But if TERFs talk about sex based oppression, it must be false!"
The thing you have to realize is, bigotry that is rooted in a little bit of truth is often more effective. For example, you may have seen that study on Fox News's reports. They constantly talk about crimes committed by people of color, particularly immigrants and Black people. They talk less often about crimes committed by white people. The reports are generally factual, but they're not proportionate to reality.
Fox News makes it seem like crime is always committed by people of color. They make it seem like people of color are the enemy. That POC are violent and dangerous. They tend to ignore crimes by white people because it doesn't help their racism. If they do talk about white crime, the white people are usually called mentally ill, liberal, queer, or some other marginalized group.
TERFs do the same thing. They constantly talk about that one evil trans woman they heard about, and how she represents all of us. Any attempt to fight against their transmisogyny is taken as defense of her bad actions. They put bait out, by talking about "males," and pretend they aren't dog whistling. They hijack conversations about misogyny to turn it into a rant about how "men" are all evil, and it's baked into the DNA. [It's impossible for a trans woman to be safe or understanding or compassionate, doncha know. We just think we're the victims when we're really the villains. \sarcasm]
TERFs especially like facts that they can distort. For example, researchers asked trans people if we detransitioned. Some of us did. The TERFs then used this to say, "see? The regret rate is high! Ban transitions!"
What they did not say, is that the researchers asked why people detransitioned. Most people said it was because of how they were treated or that they couldn't afford it and such. Very few people stopped because of their own choice.
And like most bigots, TERFs don't usually help anyone. They are more focused on harming people. Feeling righteous and harming people is easier than helping people. TERFs use sex based oppression as a weapon. A justification to be as abusive as they want. They see it as the primary or only oppression, so they reject intersectionality and oust people who could be allies.
When I talk about sex based oppression, I talk about how we need to push medical research into studying all bodies, and I don't exclude trans and intersex and disabled bodies. I put out the alarm that research is finding that pain medication may not even be effective in non cis perisex men. I talk about how everyone should have bodily autonomy, including reproductive freedom and freedom from forced procedures, like sterilization and mutilation, and the right to raise your children even if you're poor or disabled. (It's seriously messed up that the USA will take children from loving homes, and give money to strangers to raise them.) I'm very insistent on everyone's right to withdraw consent, especially men and children who get excluded from the PSAs. I push for the right for people to present how they want, for the right for people to look obviously queer or disabled or indigenous. For the right to wear what they want, whether that's a burkini or a bikini or a scuba suit or swim briefs. I criticize body shaming, for fat or skinny or disabled or trans people. I could go on.
If you think that's the same thing as what a TERF does, just because I acknowledge that sex based oppression is a reality... I'm not the problem, here.