A Stands For Awesome!

1. In the childhood flashback scene, Anna makes all the characters marry, while Elsa is visibly disgusted

2. Elsa is 24 and hasn't ever had so much as a crush

3. Elsa's insanely beautiful so it's ridiculous that no one ever asked her out in the 6 years between Frozen I and II

4. "Let It Go" still applies to her being queer, since she has to hide her lack of crushes

Not a meme but I think it’s still pretty cool?

Be yourself. Love who you want. Be free.

Happy pride month to all the aces and aros who are constantly being told that your experiences aren’t ‘enough’ to make you queer! Who are constantly being told by strangers that your own lived experiences are actually just misogyny, or internalized homophobia, or literally anything other than what you say it is!

Happy pride month to all the aces and aros who are constantly being told that your identity isn’t a real thing, that it’s just a phase, that it’s only a ‘symptom’ of something else that can be ‘treated/cured’, or that you’re just looking for a way to ‘feel special’!

Happy pride month to all the aces and aros– whether or not you’re sex/romance repulsed! Whether or not you are currently in or have pursued those kinds of relationships in the past! Whether or not you still enjoy those things, but experience them differently than everyone else!

Happy pride month to all the aces and aros who’ve had people in your life try to ‘fix’ you or make you feel guilty for not feeling the same things they do! I’m sorry you had to endure that kind of treatment! You don’t deserve it, and you’re wonderful just the way you are!

Happy pride month to any aces and aros who feel that your ace/aro-ness is tied to other factors, such as trauma, or neurodivergence, or anything else! That doesn’t make your lived experiences with your sexuality any less valid, and I’m glad you’ve found the language and a community that gives you a sense of belonging, acceptance, and understanding!

Happy pride month to all the aces and aros who are also queer in other ways, and are constantly being told to leave your ace/aro-ness at the door when you enter queer spaces and dialogues!

Your struggles are real, your identities are valid, your voices matter, and I’m glad you’re here!

💚🖤⚪💜

We get a constant influx of therapist horror stories. Therapists who say asexuality is not valid, therapists who try to ‘change’ their patient’s asexuality, therapists who insult and degrade asexual clients, and so on.

But we also get stories about therapists who are understanding, supportive, and knowledgeable about asexuality. And I want to make an accessible collection of such therapists.

Finding a therapist/counselor that suits your individual needs is always a challenge. Our choices are very often limited due to budget and travel constraints. We choose therapists that fit all our interests and needs - for some people, that means a very specific field, and therefore less options to choose from.

Aces deserve therapists that treat us right. We don’t need to be satisfied with a therapist that doesn’t understand asexuality. Our money can go towards brighter horizons.

If you know a therapist that;

Understands asexuality as a sexual identity

Respects asexual clients

Has experience with asexuality and the asexual experience

Is flexible and accommodating towards a diverse community of asexuality

Please send us their name and location! All submissions will be collected in a Google doc, meant to clearly indicate who is safe for aces, and where they are available.

We will require the therapist’s full name, and their city/state/country of employment. Bonus information (that’s not required, but would be appreciated); their price range ($-$$$), and their specific fields of speciality (LGBT issues, trauma, teens, etc). This list will be worldwide.

Thank you for helping us build a safer world for us!

Or you support none of us. And I do mean all- aces of every race, gender, ability, romantic orientation, religion, history, degree of sex favorability/repulsion and place on the a-spec spectrum. Aces who are neurodivergent, aces who are neurotypical. All aces.

Also, shout out to my fellow aces, I love you, you’re all awesome & valid. 

…I was thinking about the fact that somebody said they weren’t behind lesbian Carol Danvers because they saw the relationship between her and Maria as queerplatonic.

Both are actually pretty well supported by the text, esp. if you bear in mind that the movie was set in the 1990s and they were both mil types, so…late 90s and 00s kids, you don’t understand how much tighter the closet door was back then. If they were a couple and it came out, Mar-Vell might not have been able to save them from a dishonorable discharge.

Then my thoughts went to a different relationship in the movie.

The relationship between Danvers and Fury.

This was the obvious place to put the Obligatory Heterosexual Romance, and they didn’t. A decision I honestly applaud. The last thing this movie needed was an Obligatory Heterosexual Romance.

Some of the criticisms of the movie are that it “emasculated” Fury. Mostly because he does the dishes.

But it got me thinking about the character of Nicholas J. Fury as presented in the MCU. (We’re ignoring the comics here).

Up until this movie, we’ve seen Fury mostly as the ruthless, competent spymaster. He treats everyone as assets. He values people by what they bring to the table. He doesn’t care who you are or what planet you are from as long as you can do your job.

This movie was Fury’s origin as well as Captain Marvel’s. They explicitly show Carol as why he feels that way.

Except that there’s no indication he actually felt differently. All he needed was to expand his horizons. Perhaps part of it was being a black man in intelligence.

But at no time in the history of the MCU have we seen Fury look at a woman in a sexual manner. The dish washing scene was the intimate moment where the kiss would have happened in the Obligatory Heterosexual Romance. Instead, it was rendered explicitly platonic.

And hello, headcanon:

Fury isn’t straight.

It is absolutely supported by the text and never contradicted: Nicholas Joseph Fury is not attracted to women.

So I mentally ran another analysis based off of the hypothesis that Nicholas Joseph Fury is, thus, gay.

And that didn’t fit either. The MCU has never been afraid to queer code (and I suspect if it wasn’t for Chinese money and censors we’d see more overt queerness). Furthermore, I don’t see Samuel L. Jackson as being at all uncomfortable with a bit of homosexual tension.

Now, it makes a good amount of sense to set the “ruthless spymaster” archetype aside from romantic entanglements.

But combined with the fact that he doesn’t look at Carol’s breasts once, this has led the text to inadvertently support a different analysis:

Tl;dr: The MCU has had an aroace character from day one. It’s Nick Fury.

This time of year can be frustrating for people in the aro/ace community.

I will be here, whenever you need to talk. 

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