Ask The Garden System

We are a DID system with about 15+ active alters. The body/ The Garden is a two-spirited anishnaabe femme in our mid 20s. We figured this would be a fun experiment to allow folks to get to know our system better and maybe allow folks to get a new perspective on DID and dissociative disorders.

Some of our Frequent Fronting Alters include

[ ] Hibiscus (Hibi for short)

[ ] Airia

[ ] Dee

[ ] Abba

[ ] Crow

[ ] Pekoe

[ ] Starlight

[ ] Momento

[ ] Vix/Vixen

[ ] Rose

[ ] Calyps

[ ] Gaia

Before we begin however there are some common ground rules:

[ ] This is purely to share more about us and discuss our experiences with DID, please respect our boundaries and understand we have a right to not disclose any personal information we're not comfortable with

[ ] Middles and Littles may choose not to interact much. Please understand that while our body may be mid 20s, Littles and Middles still operate within the mind frame of children. They are alters and results of extreme trauma. Littles and Middles ARE NOT KINKS OR KINK RELATED. (Just don't be a creep 💀)

[ ] We will share our personal views and experiences with dissociative disorders, however we do not wish or plan to engage with system discourse or "controversial" topics. Thank you

[ ] Please remember that all alters (especially fictives) are real people with real feelings. We are not characters. We are not OCs. Treat us like real people.

[ ] Be respectful, no homophobia, racism, transphobia or any other form of hate. The block button is a press away.

♥️🧡💛💚💙💜

We here at the Garden system thought it would be a fun little experiment to share with you some of our sexualities and gender identities within the system! We consider ourselves lucky as a system to be able to experience so many different forms of gender and attraction between alters in a way most others don't get to. So without further ado! -Hibi

Hibi: Pan-Sapphic, Two-Spirit

Dee: Aroace Flux, Two-Spirit

Crow: Pansexual, Masc

Abba: Bisexual, Femme

Achilles: Bisexual, Pangender

Airia: Bisexual, Non-Binary/Agender

Amy: Pansexual, Femme

Calyps: Lesbian, Non-Binary

Fait: Queer, Demigirl

Gaia: Lesbian, Femme

Melodee: Queer, Two-Spirit

Momento: Bisexual (Masc Leaning), Masc

Mori: Agender, Asexual

Pekoe: Pansexual (Masc Leaning), Demiboy

Rose: Pansexual, Femme

Sanji: Straight(?), Masc

Our system has WILDLY different tastes based on whose fronting!

Pekoe prefers sweet drinks like sweetened Matcha lattes or sodas but Momento prefers dark black coffee

Abba LOVES spice on everything and will literally make her food so hot that if she switches out the rest of us can't eat it but some of the others can't handle spice at all!

Little bit about me;

(we appreciate and love each and every one of you tho! Thank you for supporting our silly little ask blog and we hope y'all keep em coming!)

Song: Is what it is by Chance Pena

Decade: the 90s, a lot of my outfit styles are based off what I imagine a goth mom wearing in the 90s.. also I love our retro collection and would kill to play some of our favourite games when they first came out

Morning or Night: ....Neither? I'm an afternoon/evening person. I have most of my energy in the middle of the day and I'm big on just sitting with the sun during golden hour sunset.

- Dee

One of my go-tos is July.. it's got a lot of personal stuff attached to it for me. It's also fun to strum and sing. -Dee

People often are curious about how our system views dormancy. When we started as a system we were surrounded by people who would treat dormancy like a permanent death. We knew other systems who would straight up hold funerals for their dormant headmates and that never sat right with us? (No shade if your system does view it permanently. Not tryna get into any discourse) But for us we more viewed it as "an alter simply fulfilling their duties and getting to rest" SO this manifested in our headspace as what we call a dormancy tree. Basically when an alter is ready to go dormant they simply lay down beside this big great oak tree in the center or the woods and close their eyes and rest. Then roots cover the alters form and absorb them into the tree. They stay their until/if they come back at which point the tree releases them and they wake up again (usually but not always taking on a new role instead of their old one).

It's hard to say for specifically just me. A lot of our hobbies tend to overlap between alters. We all play music, we all draw, we all sing.

It's kinda both??

I was a VERY different person when I was host. I gave up hosting due to some.. not so fun trauma.

I don't think I'll ever be that person again but I've mostly made peace with that.