Asks of ADHD

Oh, its very much a symptom. This is due to executive dysfunction. 

It’s why ADHDers are said to live in the present (and dont forget the time blindness). 

I don’t actually have any good advice for this. Its very hard for me too. Meds help a lot with this.

Yessss... I have the same. And the sheer amount of people too.

ADHD can bring about sensory hypersensitivity.. afterall, due to our difficulty controlling our attention, in such an enviroment, we would have difficulty tuning it out. 

You’re welcome!

Anxiety due to other people’s interest in you or your interest in others?

I can’t say its inherent to ADHD but ADHD can cause difficulties with socializing/ relationships in general which can lead to anxiety about future relationships I guess.

Try thinking about/ exploring what the anxiety is and where it comes from.

I’ve heard some good things about these meal replacement products from ADHDers.

Personally I like cooking so I don’t think its for me, but it is definitely a viable option for some.

Internal motivation is when you’re motivated to do things for the sake of it/ personal growth/ genuine interest.

Externalizing your motivation means you are assigning external rewards as motivation/ when there is an external outcomes to your task.

Eg, deciding to reward yourself with some sweets every 30 mins of study.

Yoooo, you’re not responsible for how others feel.

If they’re always snapping at you, you have full right to call em out. They might not mean it, they might not have bad intentions, but you are being affected by it.

You don’t have to take shit from anyone, ADHD or not, if it negatively affects you.

Yes, people with ADHD should be given considerations but even ADHDers can be little shits. 

They gotta learn to take responsibility for their actions too. 

You are not being ableist. I’d advise you to sit down and talk to them heart to heart. 

ADHDers don’t do confrontation well cause of RSD so a calm non accusatory discussion would be best. Focus on how their behavior is making you feel. 

Assure them that you’re not blaming them, but that it is affecting you negatively nonetheless. Good luck.

Sure! Here’s an invite link: https://discord.gg/MegRFKp 

I’m sorry to hear you’ve been feeling that way. Hopefully the community on the discord server will be helpful for you. 

and I never really got examined by doctors for this stuff after that because “she’s just a girl. Did she daydreams or has trouble paying attention or (any number of other adhd symptoms) she’s just being a girl.” So is if bad to use those words for myself so I can find others like me without an official diagnosis? Sorry for the log asks (2)

Whether self-diagnosed or formally diagnosed (which you might actually have been, if your doc wanted you give you meds), it’s definitely ok for you to find support and ideas for managing symptoms in the ADHD community.

Self-diagnosis is something a lot of people do when they can’t get a formal diagnosis for one reason or another. It’s not ideal, but most people are pretty accepting of it. @actuallyadhd has a great post on self-diagnosis that you probably wanna look at: self-diagnosis.

Without a formal diagnosis, you won’t be able to get accommodations in school/work or things like that, but you can still get support and information from people with the same experience.

Daydreaming is a very common ADHD thing. Also, the extent to which you describe it sounds like maladaptive daydreaming. 

Maladaptive daydreaming is not currently recognized as a disorder in the DSM-5, but there is ongoing research, and a question scale (the Maladaptive Daydreaming Scale or MDS) has been developed to help determine if a person might be a maladaptive daydreamer or not. Maladaptive daydreaming is reported to correlate pretty strongly with ADHD.

Ah, short term memory issues...aren’t they fun? The irony is very much appreciated! 

Most people are fine with self-diagnosis. 

In an ideal world, everyone with ADHD would be professionally diagnosed so they could get whatever treatment/accommodations they need. However, this is not that world, and sometimes people can’t get diagnosed for various reasons.

@actuallyadhd has a very good post on self-diagnosis (or just search for it on their blog). If you continue to learn about it and still feel that ADHD matches your experience, it’s ok to say you have it or think you have it. 

If you do have the chance to get formally diagnosed, I’d suggest you strongly consider it. 

And yes, ADHD is highly hereditary! Your mom having ADHD means you have roughly a 1-in-3 chance of having it too. 

Sounds like it might be a sensory issue for you. And yes, sensory issues can be related to ADHD.

Funnily enough, I remember seeing a post in the adhd tag on Tumblr talking about how much they loved watching the “How It’s Made” show as a sort of visual stim.

Everyone reacts to sensory input differently; a really good stim for one person is another person’s sensory nightmare. But having strong reactions (good or bad) to sensory stimuli is something many ADHDers experience. 

(Sensory processing disorder itself is also a common comorbid with ADHD.)

Congrats! Hope your appointment went well! 

Yes. Trauma can worsen just about any previously existing mental health issue, including ADHD.

I try not to be awake around that time, haha. But I do have bad anxiety and it does seem to ease up a bit in the early morning hours (although sleep deprivation doesn’t help in the long run). I don’t know why.

Anyone else?

That depends on you. Why don’t you try writing a list of the pros and cons? If you feel the benefits of the job are worth sticking with it for a while, stick with it. If not, don’t.

Whatever you pick, try not to feel guilty about it (don’t second guess too much). Just keep working toward your goals. :)