Another reason to question the people, who want above ALL else for you to have kids.
They will rarely tell a story, that's goal is to give you baby fever. Or point out what a blessing children are, or how funny kids can be. That involves a teenager.
99.9% of the time, they will tell you a story about a; baby, Most common. Babies do a million cute things a day, and are easy to sell to people who are on the fence. A toddler, who will misspeak often and hilariously, and love on there parents endlessly. A middle schooler, who's experiencing first crushes and underwhelming school achievements, who wants to grow up just like there parents. And pre-teens, who are still good kids, excelling in school and starting to date.
1% of the time, will they tell you a story about a teenager. Why? Because there teens suck.
Case in point; my older sister is constantly on my ass about getting pregnant and having a baby. Always tells me how amazing babies are, and how great motherhood is. She tells me stories about her toddler son holding there fat cat and wobbling around the house cutely. About her baby son babbling "mommy" for the first time. About her middle schooler son winning the spelling bee, and saying he wanted to work the same job as his hero daddy. The catch?
Her son is 16. Currently. He is 16 right now. And she, since he was 14, has not told me a single story about him, with the goal to convince me to have a baby, about him in the current area. Why? Because in this year alone he's been suspended from school for trading drugs with another suspended student, caught making out with one of his many "girlfriends" in the bathroom during PE, told a teacher to "kill himself", and tried to light the bleachers on fire during a game but wasn't successful.
Her son is a dumpster fire of a human. He is nothing to brag about or be proud of. (Obviously some of this is his parents fault for how they raised him and shit, nature and nurture blah blah blah) And since he was 14, and started acting like this, she hasn't told a single "cute" story about him. All her stores are from 13 years old and down.
And most other people on the internet and real life, are the same. There teens are / were dumpster fire people. They conveniently gloss over there failure as humans teens and instead brag about what cute middle schoolers there kids were.
Another case in point, I had a coworker trying to push me to have a baby. And she'd always show me pictures and talk about her youngest child (about 3) and gush about how cute the baby was and all the cute and heartwarming things she did!
She got cold as fuck whenever I brought up her two teenager daughters, both who got kicked out of school for bullying and trying to stab another girl. Suddenly she would have nothing to say. Or would switch up and start talking about how parenting is so hard. Right after gushing about how parenting was so easy and rewarding.
A sadder, story of this too was the local nurse at the clinic. Who would always talk about how everyone should become a parent, how it was amazing and most fulfilling thing you could do! How not having a child was selfish and bad. How you'd never be happy without a baby. And about ever two years she's be pregnant again. Of course, the thing she never talked about? Her teenager, who committed suicide after being assaulted by a school teacher. After she refused to believe them, after she refused to take them to therapy and pulled them out of school so they couldn't talk to the school council. Refused them mental health medication... They committed suicide in there bedroom. And she never breathed a word about that child ever again. She took down every family picture with them in it, she never visited the grave, she held a funeral for about 5 people and all 5 said she didn't cry or seem upset at all. And even now, her three kids who are teens and pre-teens, are acting out violently. And she laughs and changes the subject when people bring it up. Instead choosing to exclusively talk about her youngest children who are all darling little angels. And about her baby fever to have a other precious baby.
People want you to have a baby, because once you have a baby, you are stuck with a teen. You are trapped with someone who will grow out of being a cute lovable baby, and will become an independent human being, who can very easily become an asshole.
Also watch, how the people with the most dumpster fire teens, are pushing the hardest for you to have a baby. How the people who are cut off from there adult children are the most aggressive about your choices about babies. Why? Because they want you to be trapped. Because it makes them feel better about raising fuck ups. It makes them feel better about fucking up. And it normalizes how fucked up there parenting is. It obsolves them from blame. Once you have a trash fire teenager too, they'll point the finger at you and laugh, "oh, it isn't so easy now is it!" It's about getting even with people who called them bad parents. It's about making everyone feel sympathy for them, by forcing you to become a bad parent just like them.
Trapping you with an asshole, that you will be, legally, trapped with forever.
