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As a caretaker of a 1 -3 year old little you duties and responsibilities are more so than most. More for all the little jobs, and less for how hard they really are. 

Here is a list, not necessarily in order of importance. These an vary from relationship to relationship. 

1. Diaper checks/changes. These are mandatory. Checks should happen every ½ hour to 1 hour. Just putting a diaper on your abdl isn’t going to satisfy them. Checking them tells them you accept them and are thinking about what is going on. It brings about regular interactions. recommended sticking you finger inside to feel. Why it invades a space of theirs that they arn’t used to. a reminder of just how vulnerable they are.  

2. Make their food. give them 2 options. then make it, cut it up, then make a big deal about it. If you feel inclined feed it to them. Do not under any circumstances give them formula though. Formula can actually hurt adults. Baby food is acceptable. When they are done, make sure to clean up after them. 

3. Bath. Bathing your little is essential. It is a very bonding exercise. I personally recommend that every couple should bath one another. Take your time. wash them down thoroughly. Make sure to coo them and play with them during this exercise. If you want to, get some bath toys, and bubble bath. Bath time is fun time. 

4. Rule enforcement. As the cg/dd/md you need to set up rules. These are mandatory. no ifs/ands/or buts about it. Every couple should have different rules. Some to think about are things like, mandatory baby talk, No taking diaper off, No walking, keep pacifier in your mouth, ect…   Once these rules are put down you need to set up disciplines with them. Best to write down everything as well. Start out small with corner time, ignored for x amount of time. The last rule and one you should rarely use is to end it. That punishment should be the last resort. Once these are set; don’t let them break them with out discipline. Consistency is key here. 

5. Bottle or Sippy cups regularly. As the cg you are in charge of looking after the well being of your little/abdl. This includes their liquid intake  At least once a day you need to bottle feed or sippy cup feed your little. This should be done while holding them. Again it tells them you care, It is good cuddle time for bonding, as well as it reinforces who is in charge. This also means that they have to use their diaper regularly. 

6. Moderate electronic time. Any good parent knows that to much electronic time is bad for their kids. So moderate how much they are getting. If they refuse to comply then you need to unplug what they are doing. Again reinforces who is in charge. 

7. Make decisions for them. There is a lot that fits into this category. Everything from their clothing to what time they go to bed. these all need to be moderated. as a little/abdl. There are many more things that could go into this category. the point is limit them down. If you are going to give them a choice, give them 2.

8. Make a schedule. This isn’t mandatory, and really helps more with lifestyle than anything. Anything that is going to be more than 4 hours, i would recomend making a schedule. It helps for you to know what to do, as well as let your little to know what to expect. 

9. Activities. Will be doing a list of possible activities later. How ever for now you should be trying to do activities outside watching a movie with your little if you are doing this more than once a month. These allow you to break up the monotony of what is going on. These can either be in the community, or in the house itself. There are tons of them out there. So pick one that seems fun and appropriate. 

She looks up from her book. “In your pull-up? Are you serious?”

Now he wants to shake his head, but it’s true; he can feel mushy poop pressing up against his bottom. He chews his nail. “I was playing outside and I really needed to go…I tried to make it to the toilet, but I just…”

“You didn’t make it? Where did you go?”

“Out in the hallway. Like right outside the doorway. I’m sorry, Mommy.”

“You didn’t leak and get pee on the rug again, did you?”

“Noo, I didn’t.”

“Quit chewing your nail, honey. Come here.” She pulls up his sweatshirt, revealing the white waistband poking up over his pants. She gently moves his hips and he takes the cue and spins around.

“Oh, wow, you’re super saggy back here, aren’t you?”

He whines. “I knoww. I know, Mommy.”

“And you also know very well that pull-ups are only for just-in-case when you can’t make it to go pee, don’t you?” She spins him back around and he nods.

“And you know that you need to tell Mommy if you have to go number two, right, baby?”

“Uh-huh…”

“Why is that?”

“Because you’re the mommy and I’m the baby.”

“That’s right, sweetheart. Take your fingers out of your mouth. I’ll go get you your pacifier instead. Clearly you need it right now.” She gets up, leaving him standing next to her chair, twisting a little in place. He’s still chewing his nails.

“Wait, Mommy, I need to go pee again,” he calls out after her.

She comes back with his pacifier and he tries to protest as she holds his chin and puts it in his mouth. “I have to—I kind of need to…”

“You aren’t trying to say you have to pee *again*, are you, baby? Jesus, you have a tiny bladder. I bet it’s just a little trickle again, too. You’re going to make a big deal out of it and then when I finally sit you on the toilet you’ll just dribble and a little and then tell me you’re all done.”

“Nuh-uh!” He takes the pacifier out of his mouth and she swats his hand, shushing him.

“Shh, shh. Don’t get fussy with me, now. Mommy’s going to change you before you get leaky.”

He follows her to the bedroom and she helps him with his pants. And then he lays down on the changing pad on the floor. She gives him a pillow to hug and hide his face while she gets the pull-up off him and cleans him up.

“Boys should know better than to do that in their pull-ups,” she tells him as she finishes wiping him down. “I really am starting to think that you need diapers again.”

He shakes his head behind the pillow. He can hear the cap of the lotion bottle click open and she starts to rub it on. Her fingers are soft and cold.

“Ohh, someone doesn’t want to wear big, thick diapers, does he?”

He shakes his head again, squirming on the mat.

“How come you’re starting to get a little hard, then, huh?”

He squirms again, squeezing the pillow.

“Do you still need to go pee?” He can hear the drawer under the bed sliding out and the familiar, crinkly sound of the diaper being removed and fluffed.

He nods. She lifts his legs under the knee and slides the diaper under him.

“I bet you’d rather go pee in a diaper than on the toilet,” she says, slowly pulling it through his legs. “That’s just the kind of boy you are.”

He shakes his head again.

“I know, I know. It’s a little embarrassing. But it’s okay to admit that’s what you want.” She tapes him up. The diaper feels secure and soft around him. “I’m going to go wash my hands. If you’re wet when I get back, it’s diapers for another week. If you’re dry, we’re trying pull-ups again tomorrow.”

Even a lot of partners who are involved in their partners diaper wearing or diaper discipline have a block when it comes to messy diapers.

I wanted to write this article to give some encouragement to get involved in this aspect. But before we start please remember this is just poop!You poo, they poo, everyone poops, it’s nothing that crazy. Yes it can smell a bit, yes it’s a bit yucky at first but honestly it’s a bigger issue in your head than it is in real life.

Partners in diaper discipline should be using their diaper for everything just like a baby would, and pooping in your diaper or being made to do it is one of the most infantile and submissive things your partner will do.

A partner taking their diaper off to use the toilet risks damaging the diaper and allows a lot of room for cheating.

So, as this is such an important part of diaper discipline you shouldn’t be shying away from being involved. There are three areas you need to get involved in:

Making them used their diaper

Your partner should be clear that you expect them to use their diaper for poops and that you’ll force this to be the case.

Unless there is an extremely good reason, when in diapers the toilet should be out of bounds. Good reasons might be being around friends or family. Being in public or on vacation is not a good reason.

You should take measures to force this especially in the early days. Locking clothing or diaper covers are a good way to prevent the option of taking it off. But the best way is to use laxatives or suppositories to force them to mess their diaper.

There is an important difference here which is you’ll be giving them something with the intention of making them mess themselves rather than it being a byproduct of wearing. This can be helpful in making them feel accepted and that you truly expect them to use their diaper for everything.

Suppositories are my favorite as they are very predictable and don’t create a wet mess which can make the clean up tricky. These can be inserted as part of a diaper check or change easily.

If checking their diaper, get them to bend over with the diaper exposed, you should be able to pull down the back and quickly insert it using a finger or applicator.

I’d recommend using one once or twice a week but be careful being more frequent to avoid laxative dependency.

Threaten the use of laxatives or suppositories if you notice they haven’t had a messy diaper for over 24 hours. A simple comment like “I expect a messy diaper soon or I might have to help things along” can go a long way.

Also start getting them used to messing / being messy in public. The balance here is you don’t want to disturb others by this so semi public messes or timing it to minimize the time messy in public is best.

A good starting point is to use a suppository and then take them on a 1-2 hour walk/hike or even just sit in a park. Being outside and not too close to people makes this safe and non-disruptive.

Road trips are also a great time, I love forcing my baby to mess his diaper, have to sit in it for a few hours and then have to wait while we check in to a hotel before he gets changed.

On vacations we use Devrom to reduce the smell which is really fun as then he can spend longer messy in more public situations and I don’t need to rush to change him.

Them being in a messy diaper should be a daily occurrence and no less surprising than them being wet.

Checking and acknowledging messy diapers

Your partner will likely be very embarrassed to be in a messy diaper. Your job isn’t to prevent this embarrassment but show them that you expect this and prevent them from hiding it from you.

One option I like is to give them a suppository but then not allow them to leave the room. For example check their diaper, insert a suppository and then make them lay down on the floor to watch a tv show with you. A some point during them show they’ll fill their diaper but just keep watching and if they do mention anything just day you’ll check them after.

If the smell bothers you, add plastic pants at changes when messing is going to be forced and some scented candles work wonders. Devrom can be used in different quantities to reduce the smell a bit to almost completely depending on the dosage.

If you detect a messy diaper and it wasn’t done in your presence then make sure to mention it! It shouldn’t be in a disgusted way but teasing them a little is fine.

Now even if you 100% know they’re messy, don’t skip the diaper check. This will be extremely embarrassing for them and it’s a key part of diaper discipline. Ask them to come over to you and get them to expose the diaper to you. If wearing jeans this might pulling them down, onesies might require some unbuttoning or you may just need to lift a skirt.

Now physically check that they are messy. I’d recommend gabbing their bum or carrying out a few smacks. Your goal here is to press the mess into them so they can’t avoid the feeling. You can also pull back the waistband to look into their diaper if you wish.

Praise is now important, tell them well done for using their diaper as they are supposed to or your glad they’re getting used to messing their diaper. It’s important they know your not disgusted by them.

Next decide if now is the right time to change them. Messy diapers should not equal an immediate change, if suppositories or laxatives have been used you should wait 30-60 minutes after the first mess as there will likely be some additional waves. With barrier cream being used I find up to 2 hours in a messy diaper is fine.

Also please prevent them from avoiding having to sit or lay down while messy. It can be tempting for them to stay standing or similar to prevent the mess spreading but they should carry on as normal until YOU decide it’s time for them to get changed.

Making them sit down to eat lunch/dinner or sit on your knee are good ways to get them (and you) used to the idea that they have to go about their lives as normal even when messy.

In public situations not shy away from acknowledging it but use more discrete language, “that smells like it might be more than a fart darling”, “let’s maybe look for somewhere to get you changed” and giving their bum a squeeze or pat is a good way to show you know they’ve used their diaper.

In public I also normally prefer to wait until we’re home or back at the hotel even if this means they’re messy longer than normal. So some spray deodorant can keep the smell down.

Changing a messy diaper

You might be tempted to avoid getting involved here and just let them deal with it. They’ll be embarrassed so will also likely prefer to quietly go away and clean up.

Please try instead get involved with their change, it’s not as bad as you imagine and can be an incredibly bonding experience. If this is a hard limit for you then let them clean up but you should be the one who puts them into their fresh diaper.

Willing to give messy changes a go, good on you and you won’t regret it!!

First being prepared makes it much easier. Ideally you should have a dedicated changing area setup but if not, lay out the required elements as below:

1. On top of the plastic changing mat or similar place a disposable pad. You can use bedwetting pads or seat protector pads for this. This will catch anything which escapes the diaper and can be thrown away at the end to simplify clean up.

2. Have a pack of ADULT sized wipes open with a few out of the pack ready. Adult sized ones make this so much easier than baby wipes.

3. Optionally, put on some disposable gloves, these can be helpful at first when you’re still new at messy changes.

4. Have baby powder and barrier cream nearby as well as a diaper disposal bag.

5. Have a new diaper unfolded, fluffed and ready.

All of the above ideally should be always setup and ready to reduce changing times.

Now ask your partner to lay on the changing table / mat. Help them to remove any clothes covering the diaper. Now comes the change:

1. Un tape the diaper and pull the front down exposing their groin. Is their poop in this area? If yes, use the front of the diaper to scrape away as much as possible and then use a wipe to get 95% of it off.

2. Next get them to expose their bum to you, they can do this by placing their feet flat to lift it up or by grabbing their legs. If your partner is small you might also be able to do this yourself with one arm.

3. Use a few wipes to quickly get the majority of poop off them and place the wipes into the diaper.

4. Quickly remove the diaper and roll up and tape closed. This will reduce the smell.

5. Use some more wipes to now get them 100% clean. Remove the disposable pad and slip the new diaper under them.

6. You can now take a minute to dispose of the pad and used diaper in a pail or bag.

7. Carry out a normal diaper change making sure to apply barrier or rash prevention cream.

Well done, you’ve changed a messy diaper and it wasn’t too bad. With some practice this will become quick & easy.

Your partner by the way will LOVE you caring for them in this way but will also be extremely embarrassed by it. This is the perfect mix for diaper discipline 👌

TLDR:

Messy diapers are a critical part of Diaper Discipline

You should expect them to be in a messy diaper daily

Acknowledge and praise them for using their diapers fully

Expect and ideally force them to mess at home AND in public AND on vacation

Always check them before they change

Try getting involved in messy diaper changes if you can

I'm totally incontinent but growing up I mastered to live and love being I diapers that I fill up every day.

It's come to my attention that not all of you littles are being raised with a firm hand. Let's fix that!

1. The potty is off-limits.

2. Only mommy touches your tapes.

3. Diapers are for number one AND two.

4. No cussing.

5. No back talk.

6. No telling mommy ‘no.’

7. No excessive whining.

8. Don’t ask mommy for a change. She’ll check you.

9. Ask mommy for permission for stickies.

10. PG stands for parental guidance for a reason, kiddo. Ask mommy before watching.

11. Absolutely no PG-13, NC-17 or R movies.

12. When mommy says diaper check, you stop what you’re doing, put your hands on your knees, and bend over.

13. Give mommy your phone before bed.

14. Bedtime is 9:00pm. Not a minute later. 15. Failure to mess your diaper at least once a day will result in a week of suppositories to reset. 16. Every single one of baby’s holes belongs to mommy. Act like it.

17. Tell mommy when you have big feelings. (Almost) every tantrum is avoidable.

18. Quiet hands, little one.

19. Spit-out pacis will be coated in lemon juice and reinserted the first time. You won’t want to let it happen a second time.

20. Eat all the food mommy gives you. Every last bite.

21. Take all your medicine. No tedious questions about names or side effects.

22. Just because mommy bounces you on her knee doesn’t mean you have permission to make stickies. And don't tell me to slow down. Control yourself.

23. Thank mommy after each punishment.

24. Warm enemas are for slip-ups. Cold enemas are for misbehavior. Cold, soapy, retention enemas are for brats. Choose wisely.

25. Ask mommy before you spend any more than $10.

26. If you don’t pick before on the third ring, expect to find yourself over mommy’s lap.

27. Company or not, no covering your diaper at home.

28. All of mommy’s friends are “Mr.” or “Mrs.” to you.

29. A big, stinky mess in the back of your diaper isn’t an excuse not to bounce on mommy’s knee or get strapped tight into your car seat. If it was, nothing would get done.

30. Only drink out of the sippy cups mommy gives you. There’s only so much laundry she can do in a week.

31. You can hump your plushies if you’ve been good. Don’t even think about making stickies though. Mommy checks each change.

32. Naughty behavior at dinner will result in baby going to bed with plastic panties and an unchanged blowout.

33. When mommy puts on your boots and mittens, it’s time to crawl, munchkin.

34. If you have a messy accident in public, be sure to let mommy know immediately. Clear voice. Speak up. You know how mommy feels about mumbling.

35. You are expected home immediately after work. Mommy has access to the traffic report, so don’t even consider trying to be sneaky.

36. Speaking of, mommy needs access to your phone’s location at all times. And you better hope it’s never offline. “Bad service” is a myth.

37. It’s okay to cry during a spanking. Mommy will comfort you as soon as she’s done, sweetie.

38. Enemas aren’t just given for misbehavior. Trust that mommy knows what’s best.

39. Morning chores must be completed before a morning change is given out.

40. Ask mommy before drinking caffeine. The answer might not always be yes.

41. You either sleep naked or in one of mommy’s t-shirts. No exceptions.

42. When mommy’s friends are over, sit pretty and speak when spoken to.

43. Always hold mommy’s hand when out and about.

44. No talking back. Mommy’s word is the law. You will know when she wants your input. It’s rare. 45. When mommy puts your pacifier in, she’s also the one who decides when to take it out. 46. No trying to cover your diaper in public. Mommy works hard on your outfits.

47. Report your misbehavior to mommy immediately to avoid extra spanks.

48. Don’t stifle your moans when mommy touches your pretty little spot.

49. Be good for mommy.

50. Mommy loves you.

As regular readers will know we’re big advocates for 24/7 Diaper Discipline but this isn’t always possible for your situation so this short guide are some options to explore.

Firstly these are still about diaper discipline not random diaper punishments so there has to be a level of consistency and regularity to it. 24/7 is most effective by being constant but the suggestions below can be ways to get started more easily.

Most of these can be combined and you should try layering them up until you can make the leap to 24/7.

Diaper Discipline Weekends

From after work on Friday until Monday morning they’ll be in diaper discipline. This should be without exceptions for any weekend activities so they’ll quickly get used to being diapered and using in public.

This should happen every weekend so another neat trick is to reduce them to 5 pairs of underwear to be used in the week which are then put aside to be washed over the weekend.

If you not combining this with other diapering in the week you should make this more intense to ensure it isn’t all fun for them. Incorporating a baby day, forced messing and/or bondage can be a good way to achieve this.

Diaper Discipline Evenings

Every evening after work they’re promptly diapered which will be their toilet until the next morning. Use exposed diapers or abdl clothing at home to add to humiliation elements of this.

One night a week make them sleep restrained in a spare bedroom after taking laxatives for a punishment element.

Diaper Discipline Vacations

Keep them in diapers for the whole of your next vacation. From leaving your house to returning they should be diapered.

For the best results inform your hotel/resort they’re incontinent so a medical trash can is included in your room which they’ll find highly embarrassing.

As your away from people you know experiment with being more open about their diapers, keeping them in thick medical ones at all times, leaving them visible in the room, dressing them in less discreet clothing and openly asking them how their diaper is or if they’ll need a change soon.

Swim diapers are also recommended and you can insist on this by saying the hotel would be concerned if they weren’t wearing one.

Baby Staycation

Take a few days off work and potentially combine with a weekend to give them a stay at home vacation as a baby. This should be 3-5 days where they spend the whole time at a baby age of your choice.

This will be hard work for you but can be fun and can be a great stress reliever for your partner too. At a minimum this means 24/7 diapers with no toilet usage, you taking care of all their checks and changes, and baby clothes / exposed diapers at all times.

The rest should depend on the age you pick:

Newborn:

Immobile (locking mittens, booties and other restraints)

All food puréed and drinks fed to them in bottles

No talking / pacifier at all times

Oral laxatives each day to simulate regular loose bowel movements

18 hours sleep each day, wake them up twice in the night for new bottles

Age 1:

Locking mittens and booties to force crawling

Food fed to them and drinks in bottles

Baby talk only, pacifier at most times

Mix of suppositories and oral laxatives used to give them lose and firm messes

Baby tv allowed

15 hours sleep each day

Age 2:

Locking mittens at night

Food eaten using their hands, drinks in sippy cups

Limited single word talking allowed, pacifier used regularly

Suppositories used randomly

Baby tv allowed

13 hours sleep each day

You could even start at newborn and progress them up a year every day or every other day.

Random Diaper Discipline days

Each week pick a 3 day period where they’ll be in diaper discipline. The timer starts for 72 hours when you say and diapers become their toilet, best used when diaper wearing is possible at work.

Week on, week off

Simple, follow 24/7 dd rules every other week.

50:50 DD

Your partner must be in diaper discipline 50% of the days in a month. They earn a day off with every day in DD and can spend these when they like up to half of the days in a month.

This % can be slowly increased so it’s 70:30 and 7 days of DD are required to unlock 3 days off.

Combine with other rules to reward higher DD elements, maybe they only earn a day if they mess that day, or they get a bonus day for a day trip out wearing & using thick diapers. Get creative!

I sidle up behind him in the middle of the bookstore  where he stands next to a shelf, reading the dust jacket of a book, wrapping my arms around him from behind. 

He’s taller than me, so I stretch onto my tip toes to press a kiss to the back of his neck and whisper, “Diaper check, Cub.” My fingertips teasing gently along his stomach.

He flushes instantly, taking a step closer to the shelves, wanting to hide. “Mama nooo whyyyyyy.” He complains, trying to pull away from me. I tighten my grip and chuckle. “I don’t need one…”

“Because we have to see if you need a change, baby boy.” I murmur, my hand sliding down his front to his crotch, cupping my hand around the subtle bulge of the diaper and giving it a squeeze. “See? This isn’t too bad, is it, baby?” I comment quietly, feeling him relax in my arms, as he always does when I touch him.  Satisfied that the front of the diaper was okay, i pull away just slightly to lift his shirt and pull the band of the diaper that sticks out of his jeans to check the back. After settling the diaper and his shirt back into place, I pat his bum and I turn him around to press a kiss to his chin. “There’s my good boy. Quick and harmless, yeah?”

“Harmless for you…” He grumbles, turning back around to look at another book on the shelf that I knew for a fact he had no interest in; he just didn’t want to look me in the eyes while he’s blushing. “I don’t need diapers you know.” He swears, glowering at the book he’s holding. “Big boys don’t need diapers.”

An ABDL/caregiver relationship is special and unique, but like other power exchange relationships it requires consent, trust and a mutual understanding of what each individuals needs and wants are. This is by no means all the activities you may engage in, but it is a good starting point to respect boundaries and negotiate play. Both partners fill out Y for yes, N for no and M for maybe on each activity and then show and discuss what you want to try, hard limits and ideas that will require more research or discussion.

[ ] DIAPER WEARING

[ ] DIAPER WETTING

[ ] DIAPER MESSING (#2)

[ ] DIAPER CHANGES BY MOMMY

[ ] DISCREET PUBLIC DIAPER WEAR/CHECKS

[ ] 24/7 OR LONG TERM DIAPER WEAR

[ ] BATHROOM USE RESTRICTIONS (NO GOING WITHOUT PERMISSION)

[ ] CONSENSUAL NON-CONSENT MOMMY HAS ALL POWER AND CONTROL

[ ] MOMMY FEEDS BABY IN HIGHCHAIR

[ ] PACIFIER USE

[ ] DRINKING FROM BOTTLES

[ ] BATH TIME

[ ] SIMULATED BREASTFEEDING

[ ] ACTUAL BREASTFEEDING (LACTATION)

[ ] ENFORCED CHASTITY

[ ] MOMMY CUCKOLDING

[ ] ANAL PLUGS

[ ] STRAP ON PLAY

[ ] MOMMY DRESSES BABY

[ ] SLEEPING IN CRIB

[ ] ABDL NANNY OR BABYSITTER (SOMEONE OTHER THAN MOMMY LIKE A FRIEND)

[ ] ENEMAS

[ ] GENDER PLAY MOMMY CAN DRESS BABY IN EITHER GENDER CLOTHING AS SHE SEES FIT

[ ] TEASE AND DENIAL

[ ] PROSTATE MILKING

[ ] SPANKING OR CORPORAL PUNISHMENT

[ ] MAID DUTY

[ ] ORAL SERVITUDE *CUNNILINGUS, ANALLINGUS, ETC)

[ ] RULES, CHORES, PUNISHMENTS

[ ] BABY ACYIVITIES (COLORING, CRAFTS, CARTOONS ETC)

[ ] SIMULATED DIAPER MESSING (MUSHY BANANAS, ETC IN DIAPER)

[ ] LAXATIVES OR SUPPOSITORIES

[ ] PANTY WEARING

[ ] BABY TALK ONLY

[ ] BODY MODIFICATION (TATTOOS, PIERCINGS, ETC)

[ ] BODY WORSHIP (FEET, ASS, BREASTS)

[ ] BDSM AND BONDAGE

[ ] DIAPERED AND DRESSED AT FETISH EVENTS

I am sure there are plenty more great ideas out there! Add some of your own!

“You’re too much for just one daddy to handle,” he teased when he dropped me off at the airport. “I hope your other daddy gives you all the bottom fucks and discipline you so desperately need, pumpkin.”

I stuck my tongue out like a brat and he laughed. With one last kiss, I was off.

The flight wouldn’t land at my final destination for four hours yet, but my ordeal had already begun as soon as I’d arrived at the airport. One full bottle of water per hour, and only one potty break allowed, before the end of the first hour. Those were his instructions. My bladder ached just thinking about it. So did my cunt.

A text popped across my phone as I cheerfully sipped my first bottle. “Don’t forget, just one potty break, pumpkin. You’ve got 30 minutes left to take it. After that, little girl, you won’t be using the potty without supervision until you can prove you’re a big girl, or the end of the weekend. Whichever comes first. ;)”

I blushed furiously and smiled, darting embarrassed glances to the people around me, afraid they’d see the secrets they couldn’t possibly see. “I’m not worried about it,” I shot back with fake nonchalance, still grinning like a foolish lamb excited for the trip to the lion’s den. Feeling every ounce that giddy fool, I quickly added another quip and sent it before I could think. “Maybe I’ll even drink an extra bottle. Piece of cake.”

I giggled to myself and fiddled with my phone, switching between nameless apps and reading without attention. Too excited and nervous to really focus on anything.

At the appointed hour, I bounced into the nearest bathroom and took my final respite, and came back to the gate just as the plane was boarding. My phone buzzed with the incoming text, “I hope you enjoyed your last trip to the potty, little girl. It’ll be five bottles now, since you’re such a big girl. Daddy’s orders. See you in a few hours. 😘”

“Daddy, that’s not fair! You’re not playing by the rules.” I hastily replied back, but the plane had finished boarding and I was forced to turn off my phone before I could work up a better plea or get a reply.

Four bottles of water and hours squirming in a narrow seat later, the plane finally landed with an aching jolt to my bladder. I spent the flight thinking the driest desert thoughts I could manage, trying not to dwell on the ache and slick of my cunt, on all the delicious, devious threats daddy had teased for the past few days leading up to the trip. I was miserably unsuccessful, and the way my panties clung to the skin between my legs was evidence enough, if any was still needed, that my thoughts had stayed snuggly in the gutter for the duration.

Hands clenching and trembling from a prolonged simmer of arousal, and the inevitable swelling ache in my bladder, I finally turned my phone back on to three missed texts from daddy. “Aww, pumpkin. You know daddies make all the rules, and we never play fair.” Then a text that set my face on fire, a filthy warning, “if you wet yourself before I pick you up, I’ll have to spank you in the parking lot before we leave.” And lastly, a reminder that I had 20 minutes left to drink the last bottle of water, “or else…consequences ;)”.

Torn somewhere between “gods I want that” and “I have to pee so bad I might not get a choice”, I collected my things from the plane, exited with as little jostle to my bladder as I could gracefully manage. I chugged the last half of the final, damning bottle of water as I descended the escalator to arrivals. Daddy stood waiting at the bottom and grabbed me up in a hug as soon as I stepped off. He squeezed and I gasped, the throb of my bladder an agonizing thrum in my head.

Already laughing in that mischievous, mean way of his, he leaned in to whisper in my ear, “are you desperate yet, pumpkin?”

Huffing, I pushed back against his chest and declared that I was quite all right and it was a very pleasant flight.

Wicked smile and narrowed eyes focused onto my face as his hand discreetly pressed into my belly above the pubic bone. Right there. That evil asshole. I whimpered loud enough to blush and embarrass myself and I contemplated biting his arm in revenge. He chuckled in that maddening way that set my ire aflame and my cunt to dripping. “Let’s get out of here.”

I nodded eagerly and practically dragged him in the direction of the parking lot. My desperation was escalating quickly and I regretted not begging to use the potty while we were still in the airport. “Um, daddy…?” Gods, I hated the high pitched, helpless, quivering note of pleading in my voice. It was needy. It was just the thing that sadist liked to hear, that made his cock twitch and his willingness to give me what I wanted evaporate. If it ever existed in the first place.

Before I could finish the question, he pulled me around a corner and up to the side of his car. He opened the back door and nudged me into the backseat before I could form a coherent protest, pushing on my chest til my back rested across the seats. I was breathing erratically from excitement and desperation alike as I watched that wicked grin spread across his face again. He rested one hand firmly against my cunt through my skirt. The other reached for something on the floorboard, but I was so turned on and terrified of having an accident any second now I couldn’t tear my eyes from my tormentor’s face. His glittering, evil eyes. The way his nose flared as he got excited too.

Then there was a diaper in his hands. And the plug I hated so much. The one that felt too fat, that stretched in a way daddy knew that I liked but would also pretend not to.

The moment felt so overwhelmingly intense, I just cried out his name. Need, want, desperation, frustration, spite and more coloring the tone of my voice.

“It’s okay, pumpkin,” he cooed. “Daddy knows what you need.”

Melissa and her mother wanted a baby for themselves. Thomas didn’t know that they meant HIM in nappies, plastic pants, and eventually, in baby clothes.

One thing that can always make me little is a nice bottle of milk! Sometimes regular milk can get boring tho; so here are some things that can spice up your plain milk life hehe!

💤Angels tears!💤

♡1 1/2 cups of milk in a bottle or sippie

♡1 tbps of sugar or more hehe!

♡A little vanilla extract

Mix it all up and heat to your liking!!

💤strawberry shortcake 💤

♡1 cup of sliced strawberries

♡ 1 1/2 cup of sugar or more

♡ 1 1/2 cups of milk

♡ drizzles of Hershey strawberry syrup

I would recommend heating it on a stove on low-medium so everything mixes nicely!

💤 sleepy smooches 💤

♡ 1 1/2 cups of milk

♡ 1-2 tbsp of honey or more

♡ a sprinkle of nutmeg

♡ a little cinnamon

You can also heat this one on the stove or in the microwave but it’ll come out great either way!

💤 THE GINGERBREAD MAN 💤

♡ maple syrup or honey

♡ a sprinkle of cinnamon

♡ a sprinkle of nutmeg

♡ a pinch of ginger

♡ a drizzle of vanilla

♡ 1 1/2 cups of milk

Heat up and mix nicely while you think about the GINGERBREAD MAN!!

Lots of inspo from @blueplushpup

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DNI DDLG/DDLB/MDLB/MDLG/ADLB/KINK

We speak with lots of couples or ABDL partners who want to go 24/7 but practically it’s hard and instead they find themselves bouncing around different rules, periods of wearing with lows of feelings of shame and highs where they worry it’s an addiction.

We’re advocates for 24/7 as it normalizes wearing to prevent these highs and lows but I do understand this isn’t always possible. Also trying and failing at 24/7 multiple times isn’t good either.

When 24/7 lite is perfect:

- Your partner currently wears diapers around 50% of the time

- There are times were they currently can’t or don’t feel comfortable wearing diapers (work, friends, family, etc)

- They experience lows where the desire to wear goes away or they feel shame

- You are supportive of them wearing & using diapers more

So what is 24/7 lite:

Your partner will be diapered most of the time and you will normalize it in your relationship. Your involvement can vary but it can’t be none. There will be agreed times they don’t have to wear and flexibility for 1 cheat day a week where they’re not diapered.

Recommended rules:

- Your partners default underwear is now a diaper

- When in diapers, they are your partners toilet, no exceptions

- Allowed exceptions to wear underwear:

- working in an office or with colleagues

- spending time with friends or family

- taking part in sport

- For clarity, these aren’t exceptions:

- Being in public, going to the store, out for dinner

- Travelling by car, train, bus or plane

- Vacations

- Overnight (even if staying with friends / family and you have your own bedroom)

- Cheat Days:

- 1 cheat day is allowed per week

- It resets on Monday each week and doesn’t carry over if unused

- Either partner can invoke the cheat day, this should happen in the morning before they’re diapered for the day.

- A cheat day lasts until the next morning

- Your involvement:

- Changing them into a fresh diaper every morning

- Changing their wet evening diaper into their thick nighttime diaper

- Checking they are diapered when they should be

- Their diapers:

- At home and overnight = thick medical or ABDL diapers

- Traveling and vacations = thiner medical diapers allowed but recommend megamax level of protection where possible

- You can substitute their underwear during exceptions for pull ups, training pants or childish underwear if you wish

Are you ready for this?

24/7 Lite is still a big lifestyle change so you need to ask yourself if you’re ready to help your partner do this and:

- Accept your partner as being primarily a diaper wearer

- Be comfortable with the idea that they’ll be peeing and pooping in their diapers including times when you’re together

- Be willing to provide encouragement to keep them wearing and using their diapers

- You’re happy to deal with the extra work of bringing diaper and changing supplies with you on day trips and vacations

- Ready to make changes to your home life to normalize their diaper wearing

Other changes you should make:

- Have a diaper bag packed and ready at all times, this can be a backpack and include at least 2 diapers, wipes, powder, a changing mat / disposal mat, diaper disposal bags and a change of clothes in case of leaks.


- Stock up on diapers, you should have at least a month of diapers available so around 100


- Setup a dedicated diaper changing area. Ideally this should include an adult changing table, all the supplies you need and a diaper pail.


- Don’t hide their diaper wearing in the house (unless you have guests coming). Their diapers should be visible in the changing area and you should encourage exposed diapers or clothing which doesn’t hide them around the house.

Getting Started

- This change shouldn’t be thought of as being for a few weeks but a long term and potentially permanent decision

- I’d recommend throwing away their underwear so only a few remain for exception times and have a way to secure these to prevent the temptation to cheat (lockbox / safe).

- Set up the changing area, I do feel this is an important step in accepting this as being a reality.

- Make sure you have at least a 1 month diaper supply (120+ diapers)

- Review and agree the rules together and decide a starting date.

- Optionally, start them on Devrom a few days before to reduce the smell of BM’s and lower their embarrassment when getting used to messing their diaper regularly. It may also help you to normalize them being messy around you without accidentally giving a negative reaction.

- When the day comes you should take the lead and diaper them and remind them of the new rules.

- In the first few weeks give as much positive reassurance as possible, telling them they’re good for wearing their diapers, when they wet them, when they’re messy, etc.

When is the time is right to switch to true 24/7

24/7 Lite might be the perfect balance for you but it’s not unlikely that the time might come to switch to true 24/7.

I’d recommend having at least a few months of 24/7 Lite working well before changing things but if you’re now used to seeing them diapered while dry, wet and messy, and diapers changes, wearing in public all feel routine it could be the right moment to increase things.

To do this you can decide to first remove cheat days meaning at home and when together they’ll always be diapered. Then switch to pull ups for exceptions and throw away all their underwear. Finally transition them to thinner diapers around colleagues, friends and family.

A theme of questions I’ve been getting from partners is how can they can get more involved. Specifically, being that taking on the role of the person forcing their partner to wear/use diapers doesn’t come naturally and so they never seem to do it.

I can’t stress enough how important it is for you to be in control of your partner’s diaper wearing and babying. Being accepting is a great first step but they’ll never really feel accepted if you’re not actively involved.

The good news is it’s not that hard and using some of the ideas I’ve already shared I’ve put together this article as a guide to situations which you can leverage to take control.

This can be learned and become natural over time, I know as I wasn’t wired with a natural ABDL mommy role.

Scenario examples where you can get more involved:

Partner not currently diapered:

They come back from work

- Meet them at the door with a diaper in hand and take them straight to get changed.

- Check their underwear upon arriving home. Comment that it smells like they had an accident (even if a lie) and say you think it’s best you get them diapered to avoid any in the house.

You’re away

- If your partner is at home or will come home and you’ll be away, leave a diaper and maybe some ABDL clothes out with a note telling them to get changed into this.

- Leaving for a few days? Hide their underwear and replace it with a note saying diapers are their underwear while you’re away.

- Ask for a diaper check over a message or video call, if not diapered, tell them to put one on.

- Require them to ask before changing and deny it until it looks near leaking.

They ask not to be diapered

Maybe they’re embarrassed, just not feeling it today or it will be inconvenient for some reason, you have a few choices:

- Tell them that’s not an option and they’re getting diapered anyway (this should be the default)

- Tell them you’ll allow it but as a consequence they’ll get some form of punishment. This should make them think twice so might be something like “you can wear adult underwear today but you’ll be getting a smacking and suppository tonight” or “ok but you’ll be diapered 24/7 for the rest of the week”

- Tell them to prove they deserve adult underwear. (This one needs a few hours spare so is best when they’re resisting wearing as they’re bored of it, feel ashamed, etc.) Your goal here is to prove they need diapers = they have an accident. Make them drink 3-4 large glasses of water and then say that they can use the toilet in 3 hours time to prove they don’t need diapers. Most won’t make it near that and will either beg to use it or have an accident. If you’re feeling nice when they ask to use the toilet, say no and diaper them or alternatively make them wet their pants before diapering them.

- A variant of the above also works if they don’t want to mess their diapers. Swap the water for 1 or 2 suppositories and set a time of an hour. The consequence of resisting and then being proven to need diapers should be long term, e.g: “ok now we know you’re not a big girl you’ll be using you diaper for everything for the next few months and then maybe you can try again”

It’s bedtime

- Have a diaper and some cute ABDL clothing laid out waiting for them.

- Ask them if they’re ready for bed and if they say yes, tell them that it doesn’t look like it and babies need to be diapered for bedtime.

On the way to the toilet

Stop them and tell them babies don’t use that and to go put on a diaper or better still, diaper them yourself.

You notice the toilet isn’t clean

If you go to the toilet after them and notice some stray pee on the seat, toilet surround or floor (all common with boys) or if they’ve left skids, then tell them off for being messy. Most importantly tell them that if they’re not grown up to use the toilet you’ll put them back in diapers permanently.

The first time this can just be a threat but on the second time you should enforce this and diaper them 24/7 for at least a few days but ideally a few weeks.

Underwear Inspections

Another great way to trigger some diaper wearing time is to inspect their underwear. After peeing many males leak a small amount so checking their underwear after they used the toilet can yield a small wet patch. Equally check at the end of the day but this time focus on the rear, and tell them that you can smell poop (even if you can’t).

Then use these findings to tell them they’re obviously too little for adult underwear and take them to be diapered. Again as before, this should last a few days. You can also step things up more slowly by going to pull ups first and then diapers.

During Sex

Experiment with mentioning diapers or them being a baby during sex. You’ll likely find this turns them on more. Little things like saying:

- “Do you feel like a big boy/girl not wearing your diaper tonight”

- “I think I should diaper you after this”

- “I prefer you in diapers for this, maybe we’ll make that permanent”

- “Will you cum so we can get you back in your diapy”

- Etc

Going; on a drive, to see a movie, a day trip?

These should all be used as reasons for your partner to be diapered. Tell them that you want them diapered as it would be easier and pick an appropriate diaper for the occasion.

For long drives or movies I’d recommend a thick diaper. For day trips a thinner diaper, which can be changed, may be better. Remember they likely will object to wearing out of fear or it being inconvenient but this is exactly why this is a perfect opportunity to diaper them.

They’re already diapered:

They say they’re going to the toilet

- Stop them and tell them to use their diaper. Likely this means they need to a poop but don’t relent and tell them their diapers are for everything. This is one of the most powerful things you can do to show them you accept their diaper wearing and be actively forcing them to mess their diaper.

They walk past you

- Try give them a “diaper pat” when you’re nearby or if they pass you. This shows you know they’re diapered and that you accept it!

- Stop them and do a diaper check. You can do this by squeezing the front and back of their diaper through clothing but ideally get them to expose their diaper to you. This shows you accept them and are expecting them to have used their diaper.

You’re sitting together

- If their diaper is exposed, make a small comment about it, like “These diapers look cute on you”

- If the diaper is hidden by clothing, do a small diaper pat or squeeze it to show you know it’s there

- Make a comment on their diaper’s state, like “you’re already a bit wet”, “I might need to change you soon”, “it doesn’t look like you’ve used your diaper yet”

You’re about to head out of the house

- Quickly check they’re wearing a diaper either subtly by lifting a shirt to see the waistband or even better is to get them to show you their full exposed diaper by dropping their pants or lifting their skirt.

- If longer than an hour ask if they’ve got their diaper bag with them.

They need a change

If you notice their diaper is nearing capacity you have a few options:

- Tell them they need a change and guide them to the changing area to do the change.

- Say that it looks like their diaper is getting full but you’ll change them in a bit. Delay it an hour and if they do leak tell them how you might need to switch to thicker diapers

- Don’t mention it but just bring diaper supplies to where they are and without comment start the changing process. Make it as if this is the most normal thing in the world.

They’re smelly / messy

You notice that they’ve messed their diaper, this might be expected or a surprise but it’s very important you don’t react negatively.

Some options:

- Mention it in a teasing but not disgusted way; “oh, do I smelly a messy diaper”, “I think my baby might need a change”, “Is someone a messy baby”, etc

- Check their diaper by pulling back the waistband or if it’s not exposed, grab and squeeze the back of their diaper through their clothing.

- Ask them to come over and sit on your knee. This is one of the most embarrassing things as it will cause their mess to spread and they’ll feel very babyish. Cuddle and bounce them for maximum blushing.

- Tell them you’ll change them in a bit. Making them wait even a short while shows you’re in control. For even greater effect, tell them that you don’t think that diaper is full yet so you’ll check them again in an hour. Or my favorite is to say I’ll change them but after lunch, dinner or some other activity that means it will be at least an hour and they’ll have to sit in it.

- Shower them with praise. As I mentioned they’ll likely be feeling some shame so tell them how good they are for using their diaper as they’re supposed to.

- Ideally when the time comes, change them yourself, but if not, be waiting with their new diaper after they’ve cleaned up.

You’re in public

- Lightly smack or squeeze their bum to remind them they’re wearing a diaper and you know it.

- Ask them if they’ll need a change soon

- Check their diaper subtly, this works best when you’re out of sight of others such as in an elevator or on a secluded section of a hike.

- Comment that their clothes hide their diaper well, or point out their waistband is showing.

- See a sign for a restroom? joke that they won’t be needing that.

At bedtime

- Prepare a bottle for them (milk, juice or water) and feed this to them in bed. This feels incredibly loving and should become part of your daily routine. It’s especially good if your partner struggles to sleep or is stressed.

- Insert an adult pacifier into their mouth before sleep, perfect straight after their bottle.

- Make a comment that you hope their diaper will hold all their accidents tonight

- Place mittens onto their hands (ideal for partners who like using their phone in bed)

- Give them a teddy to sleep with or read them a bedtime story.

During Sex

- If they’re diapered then it’s likely you’re using a vibrator or similar. Try also physically interact with their diaper at the same time to make it so you’re more intimately involved in it.

- Most importantly after the orgasm DO NOT allow them to change out of a diaper. This is a time they’re most likely to experience shame so actively tell them they’re good for being diapered and keep them diapered. If they do need to change it must be into another diaper. This is probably one of the most important pieces of advice I can give!

In the mornings:

- Check their diaper physically by touching, squeezing etc

- Make a comment that you’re glad they’re diapered otherwise they’d have wet the bed.

- Keep them in their night diaper and ABDL clothes until after breakfast or longer if possible (normally at weekends).

- Tell or encourage them to mess their diaper as then they can shower to clean up. Or force the matter by inserting a suppository or fleet enema.

- Re-insert the pacifier and/or give them another bottle.

Having a meal:

- Make them wear a bib. For maximum effect wait until a meal where they spill something on themselves and then introduce this rule.

- Feed them a meal. This can be fun!

- Make them sit in a highchair! These can be made using a director’s chair and an accessible feeding table and it’s worth the investment as it will make them feel very babyish sitting in an exposed diaper eating with with their hands or baby cutlery.

- Give drinks in a bottle or sippy cup.

Other situations:

It’s their birthday, Christmas or you just want to get them a gift

- Buy them a diaper / ABDL related gift and ideally from now on at least one but potentially even all of their gifts from you should be ABDL related. This unprompted involvement from you will show them how accepting you are of it. They will be delighted I guarantee!

- Gift Ideas:

- New ABDL diapers; buy a few packs of adult diapers. I’d recommend ABDL ones as they’re prettier and also you can buy a few different styles which they might not have.

- ABDL clothing; onesies are the easy option but to really wow them try something like shortalls, rompers, footed onesies.

- ABDL accessories; bottles, pacifiers, bibs, mittens or a new changing mat are great choices. These are especially good if the ABDL side has been something you’ve shy’d away from to date.

- Sexual; Some bondage gear like a straitjacket, bed restraints or locking clothing is a great gift. Or a Chastity cage will fill a boy with excitement and fear.

- Small filler gifts: baby powder, rash cream, etc

- As part of their gift, change their diaper wearing frequency or rules. “For Christmas I’ve decided that from now on you’re always going to be diapered at night”. “You’ll see I’ve got you some new diapers and from now on you’ll only be in these ABDL diapers, even in public”

Clothes shopping

- When clothes shopping ask them if this will fit over their diaper

- Make comments about certain items being good for hiding their diaper or “I think this might show your diaper a bit much”

- Comment on items being too adult for them or things looking childish as being perfect

- Make them wear a diaper out shopping so they can make sure things fit well

Grocery shopping or at a pharmacy

- Buy baby essentials regularly

- Comment on the baby diaper aisle that it’s a shame you can’t buy diapers their size here

- If you see adult diapers stop and look and ask them if you should buy some.

- Add a pack of goodnights to your cart if they fit them and comment that these might be useful for when you’re not in diapers.

- Buy suppositories, laxatives, etc

You have a vacation coming up

- Check they’ve packed enough diapers

- When they’re not around remove any underwear and replace with diapers (if you want them 24/7 for the trip)

- Discuss how them being diapered will impact the vacation. “I wonder if they’ll be somewhere I can change you on this day trip”, “Can you google if there’s accessible restrooms available at …”, “I wonder if I should ask the hotel for a medical trashcan in the room for your diapers”

- Buy a swim diaper if you don’t already have one.

Summary:

- Find reasons to diaper your partner even at times where it will be inconvenient

- Try increase the reasons and frequency of their diaper wearing over time. I’s start with 25% of the time they’re diapered and work up from there.

- Encourage and force them to use their diapers

- Interact with their diapers and acknowledge the fact they are diapered

- Introduce baby elements as much as possible

Many couples I speak to the diapered partner has a desire to be forced to wear 24/7 but either this isn’t practical in their lives or their partner isn’t ready to get that involved yet.

So I wanted to put together a short guide on how you can implement diaper discipline and forced regression in a ad hoc and none full time way.

With 24/7 diaper wearing the discipline & domination parts come significantly by you removing their toilet privileges in a near total way which results in it being the discipline they need. If you’re instead only going to make them wear on an ad-hoc basis then you need to make some changes.

First although they’re going to be wearing a lot less you need to be more involved when they are wearing. Secondly it has to be unpredictable for them. And finally it should be more intense than 24/7 wearing to make up for the reduced regularity of it.

I did this to my partner before we decided 24/7 was the right path so here as some tips to get you started.

Look for opportunities to make them wear diapers where it will be more embarrassing while still protecting their privacy

- Going on a day trip? Surprise them by diapering them in the morning and packing a diaper bag for them to carry.

- Long drive? Thick diapers are required.

- Staying with friends or family? Diaper them up for bed!

Force them to use their diapers

- Once or twice a week force them to mess their diapers with the help of suppositories, enemas or laxatives.

- Use locking clothes or diaper covers to prevent them from removing their diaper so they have to use it.

- Lock the door to the toilet in your home

- Don’t give them permission to use the toilet in public

- Make them lose control in a semi-public way. You don’t want to expose others to smelly diapers but giving them a suppository and sending them to get groceries or go out for a walk is a favorite of mine. Or hand a suppository for them to insert at the end of a meal out or when on a drive and still an hour or two away from home.

Take control of their first diapering, checks & changes

- Surprise them by walking into the room, with diaper supplies in hand, and diapering them there and then.

- Tell them that they can’t ask for checks or changes and do these yourself

- Check them in a physical way, making them drop their pants or lift skirt

Vary the amount of time they’re diapered

- Sometime it might just be overnight

- Other times enforce 24/7 diapers for up-to a week

- Don’t tell how long each session will last

Throw in extended 24/7 periods

- Going on a 1 or 2 week vacation? Surprise them by diapering them and telling them that you’ve packed no underwear for them.

- Got a quiet month at home? Tell them you’re going to test them being diapered full time for a bit

Make it more embarrassing

- Tease them when they’re diapered

- Threaten then with being made to wear 24/7

- Force them to use their diaper in front of you

- Make them have their diaper exposed in the house or enforce abdl clothing only

- Don’t change them until they leak and then switch to thicker diapers

- Use more babyish diapers or make a male partner wear girly diapers more

Combine diapers with other humiliation elements:

- Male partner? Dress them as a girl when diapered

- Use bondage alongside their diapers; restrain overnight in a spare bedroom, use a straightjacket & suppositories to make them feel helpless, shackle their ankles to their desk in an exposed diaper while working from home, use locking onesies and covers regularly

- Chastity! Lock them up while diapered and experiment with pegging

- Butt plugs? Going out but don’t want them to mess? Plug them up.

- Role play. Nurse & patient or teacher & school boy/girl work great with diapers

- Pull ups or abdl underwear when not diapered

Use forced regression alongside diapers as much as possible

- When at home and in diapers they should not be dressed as an adult. Onesies, shortalls, exposed diapers, baby dresses, etc…

- Use pacifiers and bottles regularly

- Make them wear a bib while eating. Or step things up and feed them yourself

- Tell them they’re a baby, only babies wear diapers, etc

- Turn a spare bedroom into a nursery simply by replacing the sheets, adding some plushies and keeping a few piles of diapers and supplies visible.

How much and when?

With all of these ideas to try the question comes up of how often should they be diapered and how do I decide when that should be (especially if not a natural mommy/daddy).

As a minimum I’d recommend they’re diapered 25% - 50% of each month. In terms of deciding when you should make them wear, I used to do this at the start of each month and week.

At the start of the month I’d look at our plans for the coming month and see if there were any big events to add diapers to. These for example might be a vacation where they could be diapered 24/7, a weekend away, day trips, etc.

Then each week I’d decide how to get 2-3 days of diaper wearing in. Normally this would involve at least a full day at the weekend as well as some nights and maybe a day when he was working from home. Try pick a mixture of at home and in public diaper wearing time.

For forced messing I’d think when would be best for this. A weekend day at home works well especially when using laxatives where the effects can last a while. Suppositories are easier to plan around and can be inserted as part of a diaper check.

For the rest feel free to plan in as much or little detail as you like but keep it a secret from them. I started with very detailed plans which became less detailed as a gained confidence in the mommy dom role.

A tip from me is I setup a separate calendar on my phone to keep track of when he should be diapered and used a simple code to keep it discrete, naming the calendar “chores”:

- cook = they’re diapered

- garbage = forced messing

- clean = diaper change

- break = diaper check

- Etc…

The beauty of this is I could have notification reminders on for all of these and it doesn’t give anything away even if somebody sees it. In the early days, these reminders for me to check and change him were very helpful.

Diaper pats

Forehead kisses

Back rubbies

Frequent infantilization

Bedtime snuggles

After work babying and regression

Morning cuddles

Nini stories

Cute hand holding

Gentle teasing

Cute reminders

Diapee checks/ potty checks

Paci or thumb for suckling

Holding hands to cross the street

Being dressed, instead of choosing yourself

Diapee/ pull up changes... especially extra blushy ones

Stuffies, all the stuffies

Bath or shower time!

Bath/ shower TOYS!

Constant regression!!

And thank you for reading my silly baby thoughts!