1. Donβt date a boy who cancels plans last minute. Especially if heβs canceling for someone else. You are not a second choice. You are not a third choice. You are a first choice or you are nothing to him.
Do you understand me, baby? You are worth so much more than that, donβt let him push you around.
2. If heβs rude to you, drop him. I donβt care how many times he says βjust kiddingβ or βbaby, I didnβt mean itβ you keep your head up, your shoulders straight, your chin high and you demand to be treated as the goddess you are.
3. If he doesnβt hold your hand in front of his friends or wrap his arms around you when youβre with his family then he isnβt worth it. Date someone who canβt keep their hands off of you. Date someone who aches with the need to feel your skin on theirs.
4. Make sure he has goals, aspirations, dreams. Make sure he has a plan of some sort. If he doesnβt have any of those what are you guys supposed to talk about? What are your 2 AM conversations going to look like?
5. Find out his hobbies and interests and make sure theyβre similar to yours. If you want to travel, date someone who will drop what theyβre doing just to take you on a random adventure. You donβt want to be stuck with someone whoβs idea of a good night is sitting on his futon with cheesy Dorito fingers while you watch him play video games.
6. If your brother doesnβt like him or if he rubs your sister the wrong way, trust their instinct. Thereβs probably a reason. I canΒ guaranteeΒ you, darling, if you bring him home and we can see in his eyes that you light up his entire world than we will love him just as much as you do.Β
7. Baby, if he ever lays a finger on you, you fucking leave him. Donβt think twice, donβt look back and donβt you dare accept his apology two days later.Β
8. If you canβt trust him you shouldnβt be dating him. If you have to go through his phone to sleep better at night heβs not the one for you.
9. Youβre going to fight, youβre going to argue, that is all part of a relationship. But baby, if he is contradicting everything you say solely for the sake of an argument, just walk away.
10. Iβve seen anger and rage in your grandfatherβs eyes. I saw it everyday for 17 years, baby. If losing a football game makes him so mad as to not want to speak to you, than you are giving yourself to the wrong boy. Heβs going to grow, and heβs going to get meaner, and heβs going to hurt you. Leave now. Β
11. If his laugh doesnβt claw itβs way into your memory and his smile doesnβt make you feel like the entire universe is right in front of you than you are wasting your time.
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