Someone recently asked me how I stay motivated to exercise and strength train, and honestly, I think a lot of it boils down to building sustainable habits and staying consistent over expecting to feel motivated every day. Yes I have my main internal motivators, such as wanting to feel better in my own skin and alleviating my body dysphoria and being healthy and strong. Plus, things like seeing my progress and getting stronger at the gym is very motivating to me, and I take monthly progress photos. BUT your feelings and motivation will fluctuate (and that's normal), and when that happens, it is the habits and routines that keep you on track. You also go to work/school/somewhere else etc whether or not you feel motivated to do so. Because sometimes motivation follows action and not the other way around and moving your body releases feel-good hormones. Exercise can literally change your brain.
This doesn't mean you can never skip a workout (I have for sure) and I think the all-or-nothing mindset can be one of the reasons why some folks feel they can't keep up with a workout routine. I think it is important to let go of that mindset tbh. Because *something* is always 100% better than nothing and the best routine is the one you can keep doing week after week consistently. To get long-term results, it is important to build sustainable habits and routines that become a part of your lifestyle. If right now, that is working out once a week, then great! That is your starting point and when that feels easy to maintain, you can add a second day etc. Working out 2 times per week is already great, especially for a beginner. On the topic of skipping workouts though, I do have a rule of sorts: I can only skip one workout, but not two in a row if I’m not ill or really worn out etc. Doing my best to stick to this rule makes sure that I’ll stay consistent with my habits. And having a sustainable routine ensures you don't get so tired that you need to skip workouts, at least not very often, which is of course the goal here. Making exercise as accessible as possible is also important when it comes to sustainable habits, and for many people, walking is very accessible.
Which leads us to the topic of walking and getting more steps in - the same rule of thumb and gradual progression applies here as well. First, get a step tracker, personally I use a phone app for that. If you currently get 4K steps each day, try reaching 5-6K. When that feels easy, try reaching 8K. Then maybe 10K. Also don’t sweat about reaching 10K every day, and instead look at your weekly average. Remember to have rest and recovery days and listen to your body, but stay consistent. If going on a longer walk feels difficult, you can try going on mini walks - walk for 15 minutes several times per day, take the stairs instead of a lift to get more steps in while running errands etc. Everything counts when it comes to movement. The point is just to get your body moving.
So my advice is to start with a routine you can do consistently. For me, that was going for a 1-hour walk every day. That's it. No strength training yet (if you can do it right from the start, that's great tho!), just walking almost every day for the first 6-7 months or so. Plus a healthier diet with less sugar. Notice how I also didn't do things "perfectly" right from the start because I just walked and didn't strength train. But this was a sustainable routine for me back then after several very sedentary years. It was sustainable and relatively easy, so I kept doing it day after day, week after week. Because it’s the consistency that builds long-lasting progress and results. Make starting as easy as possible for yourself and build up from there. In my case, I first built a solid habit of walking every day and then started incorporating strength training into the mix. The walking routine had a positive impact on my energy levels and mental health, which in turn made starting strength training easier. And I started with home workouts because that felt like the easiest first step.
This is not to say that building those habits happens overnight and establishing new habits takes work and time. You are kinda trying to rewire your brain in a way. But when it comes to building new routines, the main thing is just to start somewhere. You can make those routines "perfect" later. But you need to start and keep at it - do it "imperfectly", but keep showing up. And even if I say it's important to prioritize habits over motivation, that doesn't mean training shouldn't feel fun. It is fun! Moving is fun and energizing. And maintaining those habits often becomes easier the longer your stick to them. Nowadays walking is just something I do as a person; I feel weird if I don't move my body and go for walks. It has become a lifestyle at this point. I love nature so I try to go on long forest walks as often as I can. I need to walk longer to reach the forest area tho, which in turn motivates me to walk more so it's a positive cycle. But of course, this wasn't the case 3 years ago when I was still very sedentary. If you have friends who are also into walking or hiking, going on walks together can make the time just fly by (I once went for a 4-hour forest walk with a friend and barely noticed the time flying by)
Of course sometimes there will be days when you just don't feel like training, but you do it anyways out of habit. Because you know it is good for you. Because you know it will get you closer to your goals. Each step and workout counts. Because showing up for yourself is important to you. Because taking care of yourself matters and is important. Because when you feel good, you can also take better care of other people in your life. Yes on some days you might feel super tired and on those days it's important to listen to your body and rest. That also doesn't ruin your routine, you just take one extra rest day or maybe even a week because you needed that to get stronger and then you'll get back to training the next day