Live Fiercely

Here’s what I didn’t know/understand/realise:

- my inner world shouldn’t be my main focus as I was escaping my reality

- I was an alter too

- Integration means to integrate trauma memories and not necessarily “get rid” of alters - it’s part of healing and it’s a choice for someone to make

- my alters didn’t need to ensure they were “completely different” from one another to be valid (that includes text dialect and likes/dislikes)

- Ollie didn’t need to use “Little speak” in order to fit in as a child part

- it’s okay to say “I don’t know why/how that happens but it does for me”

- it’s okay to not know an answer about the disorder/yourself - we are all learning

- I shouldn’t feel pressured into revealing my trauma history

- it’s okay to have realisations after you’ve announced different thoughts about what might be going on

I met someone recently who was starting out on their journey of allowing themselves to accept their DID and it brought back so many memories of all the little things that used to make me feel I had a set standard to live up to/that I was wrong for not understanding how it all worked and my focus may be in the wrong direction

Please don’t mock others and their experiences or shoot them down - instead, if you feel you need to give advice, please educate gently 💕 take into account this realisation might be a difficult thing to swallow and that it’s certainly a natural response for someone to get defensive when they’ve held a belief or concept for so long, or if they have a lack of understanding about the mechanics of it all - or you know what, even if someone says “I hear you, but this is what I feel is happening to me right now” that’s okay too! It can take time and sometimes it’s difficult to self reflect

No one has all the answers and we are all on a journey to heal 😊 let’s heal and work together!

Some nt: Me too, like, there’s home me and work me and drunk me…

Me:

alternatively

when u wake up and are in control of the body

Shes like...so are your alters like symbolic?

Have you ever seen the United states of tara?

Oh and for intellectual reasons and curiosity what are your alters names? Did you name them...?

Persecutor alter: No

Host: I do

Protector: I know

Host: I’m sad

I’ve honestly experienced more racism from self-proclaimed “feminists” [libfems🙄], trans activists/allies, and genderists in the past six days than I have from any radfems in the past six months.

I don’t wanna go into detail again because this shit is exhausting to me, but I’ve been called a mule, a mammy, and an Uncle Tom by WHITE liberals/leftists/“kweers” who swear they’re “on the right side of history”.

To attack a minority, all these fatherfuckers need to do is say they are “problematic” or offensive to some other obscure-ass community, and all of a sudden, they give each other the green light to yell slurs they would never DARE to.

A gender critical gay guy I’m mutuals with on Twitter was called an “inbred f*ggot” and accused of incest for some fucking reason by straight men who believe they are actually fighting the good fight and helping marginalized communities.🤷🏾‍♀️

All other black radfems I know have experienced the situation of some 30 year old “kweer” Tumblr feminist™️ tryna whitesplain intersectionality to them, as if some white “nonbinary flower prince UwU” has more right to a theory made to describe BLACK FEMALE experiences than we, black women, do ourselves.

All other radfems of color have seen some ignorant ass “leftist” say that the radical feminist movement is only full of privileged white women, then dismiss, ignore, and silence our voices when we say that there are radfems of all races, classes, and backgrounds all over the world, from Brazil to Palestine. All other radfems of color have seen the term “white feminism” — coined to discuss the specific exclusion of WOMEN OF COLOR from feminism — appropriated and weaponized against (mostly white) radfems to try and accuse them of racism for daring to include only females in feminism.

I’ve seen Jewish radfems being compared to the party that killed their families, Nazis, and the alt right for believing biological facts. Shit, I’VE been called a fucking fascist for saying that male people can’t be women, regardless of how they “identify”. This white TIM on Twitter actually had the audacity to say that I must be some white conservative dude “pretending” to be a black woman just to say shit. “Woke” folks are so fond of stripping “marginalized” people of their identities when we don’t comply to their agenda. As if I stopped being a black female as soon as I stopped drinking their Kool Aid.

This leftist dickhead dudebro who was bothering me and another black radfem called the two of us anti-black/misogynistic slurs and language, then tried to excuse his nastiness by saying that “all of his knowledge on gender was informed by black feminists” (then tagged some). Humph. As if reading from a black woman gives you the right to call any of us slurs. These fatherfuckers sound EXACTLY like right wingers they claim to hate so much going “I’m not racist, I have a black friend!”.

These folks appropriate actual struggles and trauma and human rights disasters such as slavery, the Holocaust, segregation, apartheid, etc, to make themselves look oppressed and use nonwhite peoples as props in their “arguments”. 😒🙄 Somehow, they always manage to compare women wanting to keep our sex-based protections to fucking white supremacy.