cumDenyHer V2.0

So someone requested a level 5 tease. If you’ll remember, that means a week long task consuming your life. Here is the information given to me.

I (still) live with my parents but I live in the basement which they don’t really come down to.

I normally use a vibrating tooth brush, my fingers, and a wooden hairbrush

For the purposes of this tease: 1 = toothbrush, 2 = fingers, 3=fucking with wooden hairbrush

During this week, wear nothing to bed.

During this week you aren’t allowed to wear panties.

During this week you aren’t allowed to use a towel to wipe your pussy or dry it off ever. Leave it wet each time and you may only wipe your legs up after each task. Never between your legs.

Now, when you wake in the morning, first thing you need to do is check your phone, pull up this page, and set it from 1-3.

Now google “Random Number” which you see produces a google page providing a random number generator which you can set a high and low range for. Set it to 1 - 3.

Now click it, first for the edging tool, then again for the amount of time. So if you click 1-3, use the toothbrush to bring yourself to the edge, and hold that edge for 3 minutes before stopping. When you stop, take a picture if your dripping wet pussy with your phone. You’ll save all your pictures from this week to remind yourself later how horny you’ve been.

Congratulations, you can check tumblr! Oh but wait, click the 1-3 button again and that will give you how long in hours you must wait to do the whole thing again. Set an alarm on your phone accordingly each time.

Now if the alarm goes off and your someplace where you can’t edge, right away, set your alarm for an hour right away. If you miss your time by more than an hour, subtract 1 from your chances to cum. Only exception is before you go to sleep, you can turn off the alarm.

Oh yes, you’ll have a chance to cum. If you get all 3 numbers the same for a particular edging session you’ll get to add 1 to your chances to cum. At the end of the day, if your chances to cum are a positive number then you get to cum that many times. Do one roll before each to find out how you get to cum: toothbrush, fingers, or hairbrush. The moment after you cum, take a picture of your pussy, and hold up a finger 1, 2, 3 so you can document how you came. :)

Now, if the number is negative no cumming for you and your negative "chances to cum” number carries over to the next day.

Now, what are your odds of that? Well its 1 in 9 that you’ll get to add a chance, so in a given day, pretty good! As long as you’ve edged 9 times and haven’t missed a single one by more than an hour, you have a pretty good chance. If your awake for 18 hours, assuming you get 6 for sleep you’ll do the exercise 9 times. But, your going to have to be pretty focused to make that happen aren’t you? Most people have just enough going on in their lives, to make them forget something like this at least once or twice a day...in which case your pussy will remain dripping and needy, which will make some great photographic moments. You should have quite the collection to remind you what a naughty little girl you are. Oh, I might suggest that you carry your toothbrush and brush with you at all times while your out walking around in your purse. Will likely help your cause! Then you can pop into a restroom at the supermarket and meet your challenge. :)

No other touching at all during this tease.

The only time you can clean your pussy up is in the shower, but not touching it to clean and no using the water to masturbate.

Well, I’ve been asked to do something to help someone enjoy their orgasms a bit more. You see, left to her own devices she cums quite a bit but they aren’t nearly as intense and enjoyable. We simply can’t have that. The whole point of orgasm conditioning is that you end up horny, and wet, just aching for the amazing orgasms that your learning to have!

So here’s how this game works:

You earn credit by getting right to the edge of an orgasm and holding it there for 10 light brushes on your clit after your on the edge. Each credit get’s you a chance at filliping a coin! Congratulations! You’ll want to make a small heart on a piece of paper for the day to keep track!

However we can’t have you just getting chances willy-nilly. That won’t do at all. So each time you earn one chance, the number of times you brush your clit while close to an orgasm will go up by 5.

So let’s say you want to earn 10 chances in a day:

The first time you’ll brush your clit lightly 10 times once close then take your hands off. The second time, 15, the third, 20, fourth 25 and so on.

Now to use your credits flip a coin! You need 4 heads in order to earn your full orgasm! So if you only edge 4 times, all 4 would have to be heads. If you flip 8 times, half the tosses have to be heads!

There’s a tiny catch however. If you get two tails in a row you loose all your chances for the day.

Oh, and you can’t save chances across days.

It was like a glass closure. A box of my popcorn soul, but really real; in that way that a dogs love is real. In a way that the things we spend our lives hiding from never are. So I took that pill, or to be more precise pills. One does nothing but make you wait for a future that isn’t a rusty tooled dentist appointment scheduled every day from when we start fucking ourselves over meaningless trash in our dreams until we perform our ritualistic drowning or unscripted chemical analysis of whateverthefuckthatjustwas or for my Mom, when she begins to clean.

I choose risk. Crazy obscene risks for things that can’t be and shouldn’t be done by anyone; at least not that way. But I’m searching, pill by pill, for a prescription that means to me what Dino’s mean to Dino Dana. A self defining, no no, life defining task that will shape my meaning like the Air Jordans which paid all the bills through the divorce. And I can do it because I already have faced the terror of my own rejection and failure every day and night in that semi-reclined psychosis of my tooth-extracting judgment. Its fucking nothing to me and I’ll gladly leave the idle dentist school for a shred of a chance that I have to ride on the passenger side of the death proof car driven by Victor Crumb or Vance Cullen.

While my mom wonders why I can’t be happy by scrubbing away ever spec of finite dust and holding a cold hard grudge for 3 decades.

But there is one problem. I care now, drinking my own grape juice. Somehow I’ve come to believe that its the same shit as in those pills but for the whole train wreck waiting inside that orange baboons cock-hole that will get spewed out onto some non-consenting lawsuit. I’m a real boy now and the possibility is really real and I can see it like Florida can finally see the freezer truck for bodies. I have something to lose. 

Ruined Orgasms - What are They, and How to Have One

I was talking with someone the other day and she brought up that she had forgotten how to ruin an orgasm. In thinking about this a bit it occurred to me that it truly isn’t that simple. I think “ruins” are an important part of Orgasm Control and is a wonderful way to mind-fuck someone: make them believe they are getting to cum and then, ruin it!

But its a complex issue at heart and it can be different for different folks. So let me start with a simple definition:

A “Ruined Orgasm” is an orgasm in which the feelings of pleasure and satisfaction differ significantly in both a physical and emotional way.

To be clear, this is MY definition. There are other definitions around that primarily involve halting touch once a person reaches the point of no return, and as such, the ensuing orgasm is less pleasurable than would otherwise occur. But I feel this is incomplete for two reasons:

1.) No touch orgasms themselves can be just as intense and satisfying as a touch orgasm. Indeed, cum-on-command no-touch orgasms can sometimes result in the conditioned person cumming more intensely than they usually do when simply masturbating and it can be amazingly satisfying.

2.) Orgasms that have full touch can leave a person feeling horny, unsatisfied, and like they haven’t even cum. So even a full touch orgasm can be a ruined one.

That’s why I define it by the outcome and not by the method. 

Biochemistry (Skip if you Don’t like Nerd Things)

My suspicion is that in a Ruined Orgasm less Prolactin and Ocytocin is released than normal. The feelings of pleasure are still there but they aren’t as intense or body/mind displacing. You get the feelings of orgasm, but not the feelings of euphoria that wash away nor the dimming of the arousal. You cum, but don’t get the relief of euphoria, nor the dissipation of arousal.

The withdrawal of touch I think is likely a good way to cause this, as Ocytocin is the attachment hormone. If you were experiencing sudden withdrawal of physical touch in such a situation I’d expect that Ocytocin levels wouldn’t be as high, thus potentially causing a ruin. This might also cause Prolactin to fall, which would reduce the feeling of being aroused.

TLDR: There’s Biochemistry Nerd-Stuff that I Think is Involved.

Three Techniques to Ruin an Orgasm

1.) Bring yourself to the edge using one type of touching, then push yourself over the edge on accident and if you start cuming change the touch to something very very different that requires focus.

And example of this is using the tip of your finger to very gently and slowly brush your clit once a second until you begin to get close. So close in fact that you can’t keep going once a second without cumming. Switch and go more slowly until that too makes you very very close. This time however just keep going trying to do as many as you can without cumming. Eventually though, you’ll tip over the edge.

When you do, start taking a single finger and tap firmly on your clit once, then pause. Then twice, and pause, then three times, and pause, until you get to 20. The goal is to tap hard enough that its almost a spank. Don’t stop before you reach 20, nor stop before.

2.) Try and have a small, teeny tiny orgasm. 

That’s right, just thinking about having it be a ruin can make it a ruin. Touch your self and get close, teasing and playing until you feel the need strongly to cum. When spend 5 minutes there teasing, before finally just pushing yourself over the edge. Don’t stop touching, but don’t touch yourself too intensely either. Instead just focusing on touching and breathing so that you have the smallest lightest orgasm possible.

The mind moves first, then the body follows, so make sure you stay focased!

3.) Talk while you’re cumming.

Orgasms in women shut down the verbal center of the brain. So try making yourself cum while reciting the words to a song you know well. The fact that you’re cross connecting nerves between speech and singing will help activate this area of the brain that’s normally shut down during an orgasm, and can often help with a ruin.

Summary

Give each of these a try and see what creates the most intense sensation of a ruin. Leave feedback (anon or not) to let others know what worked for you. Everyone’s different and its always the job of a Dom to figure out just what makes you tick!

Happy Ruined Orgasms!

Similar looking in some ways, in others these two couldn’t be more different.

Today we’ll be exploring both of theses as sex toys. One is very intense, the other is very delicate and light. But its also an over simplification to say that the makeup brush can’t feel intense, and that the vibrator can’t feel light.

When it comes down to it, this is the thing about tease and denial, as well as orgasm control and orgasm conditioning I like most: it gives you permission...no, it gives you the command to explore different feelings, and see how your body responds.

Do you know why tickling works? It’s because your body naturally reaches out to try and explore the world around it. A light varying touch like a tickle makes the nerve endings reach out and become more sensitive to try and get more information about what that touch is. The resulting overwhelming sensation produced in the brain just happens to trigger the center that deals with vocal responses. So when our body reaches out and tries to understand what’s going on, it elevates the sensations all over our body and becomes overwhelmed and we laugh (and also cry if we are laughing hard.)

So let’s take advantage of this shall we, and document that journey.

Part One: Initial Arousal

Start slowly turning the vibrator on low, and lightly rubbing it on your clit in circles slowly. Do 10 circles that take about a second each, then rest for 10 seconds counting out loud. Keep track of how many “sets” of these you can do before you start to come close and write down that number as your “arousal number.”

Part Two: Making your Body Reach out For Sensation

Now take the makeup brush and lightly brush your clit the same number of times as your "arousal number.” These should be kept light but can go about two a second.

Part Three: Observing Increased Sensitivity

Now back to the vibrator with the same 10 circles as before and the same 10 second pause. Write down your new “Arousal Number.”

Most likely it will be much lower for 2 reasons:

1.) You were already turned on

2.) Your nerve endings are becoming more sensitive.

Part Four: Dialing Up Sensitivity.

Now you’ve got your two numbers, the first arousal number and the second.

Brush your clit very fast and light the number of times that matches your first arousal number.

Now brush your clit very very lightly with the vibrator set to low the number of times for your second arousal number.

Switch back and forth as many times as you can until you can’t do anymore without cumming.

Part Four: Exploring your Increased Sensitivity

Now take the makeup brush only and lightly brush your clit once a second. Set a timer and do this for 10 minutes. If you find yourself getting so close you might cum, just stop and take a few deep breaths for 10 seconds watching the timer then start again. Don’t stop until you’re all the way through the 10 minutes.

Part Five: Uncertainty. 

Adding uncertainty can add excitement and intensity the experience. So to do that in this situation use this link to roll two die:

1.) If its 1-4, add 3 minutes to your time and try again.

2.) If its 5-8, keep the time the same as last time and try again.

3.) If its 9-12, hold the vibrator on high on your clit and CUM.

Part Six: Afterglow

Push your self hard and hold the vibe on your clit as long as you can. If that means you end up cumming multiple times so be it. But as soon as you stop cumming or have to pull the vibe off switch back to the brush, and lightly brush your clit in a way that doesn’t overwhelm you too much, and mostly just feels nice. 

If you’d like to let me know how it went, what your numbers where, or even if you hated the experience, I’m open to feedback and notes. It will help me continue to refine and understand the range of responses and feelings people have, and will help me as I move forward.

General Instructions for The Week

This week we are going to focus on maintenance tasks; those things you should be doing every day even if your not currently on denial.

(Though I might recommend switching your orgasm days: one day you can orgasm as much as you like, the next, not at all. To do this flip a coin for the week. You can cum on either heads or tails depending what turns up when you flip the coin at the start of the week.)  

This will help to keep your arousal in an appropriate place:

Spoiler ALERT! Don’t read this if you haven’t made it all the way through the week yet!

Sunday: No panties, No Touch (Heads)

So you’ve had a super busy week! If you’ve flipped Heads, your a bit unlucky though for this challenge.

Sunday is a day of rest, and so your going to rest from touching your pussy. Oh, and also rest from wearing panties. Now, Sunday might also be a day for church, and that’s okay. You can think of this an exercise in celibacy, even when your tempted. After all, yesterday was quite the day and if you head a Heads, you didn’t cum...you just edged. And now, today you don’t get to touch at all and get the constant reminder of a bare pussy.

I’m not cruel though! You can flip your coin for next week, and if just so happens to be tails...meaning you won’t get to cum tomorrow either...well you can cum right at Midnight: once and only once.

General Instructions for The Week

This week we are going to focus on maintenance tasks; those things you should be doing every day even if your not currently on denial.

(Though I might recommend switching your orgasm days: one day you can orgasm as much as you like, the next, not at all. To do this flip a coin for the week. You can cum on either heads or tails depending what turns up when you flip the coin at the start of the week.)  

This will help to keep your arousal in an appropriate place:

Saturday: Edging Day! (Tails)

So today is edging day and the instructions are simple: get close to cumming as many times as you can!

You have 20 minutes to do that. You can do them in 5 minute segments or in a single 20 minute segment. But count them (might want to have a piece of paper to make a little heart on after each to keep track.)

General Instructions for The Week

This week we are going to focus on maintenance tasks; those things you should be doing every day even if your not currently on denial.

(Though I might recommend switching your orgasm days: one day you can orgasm as much as you like, the next, not at all. To do this flip a coin for the week. You can cum on either heads or tails depending what turns up when you flip the coin at the start of the week.)  

This will help to keep your arousal in an appropriate place:

Friday: Hands Free (Heads)

This should be a good warm-up for the weekend! Since you’ve been touching so much its time to switch it up.

You can start touching of course…bring yourself close again like every day rubbing your clit or however you like. Once close spread your pussy lips as shown above and then do some squeezes. 200 squeezes to be exact.

Then you can do the same later in the day for 400 total.

General Instructions for The Week

This week we are going to focus on maintenance tasks; those things you should be doing every day even if your not currently on denial.

(Though I might recommend switching your orgasm days: one day you can orgasm as much as you like, the next, not at all. To do this flip a coin for the week. You can cum on either heads or tails depending what turns up when you flip the coin at the start of the week.)  

This will help to keep your arousal in an appropriate place:

Thursday: Vibrator Day! (Tails)

So today is vibrator day! First rub your clit to get close then turn that vibrator on and just hold it motionless on your clit…once your close, move the vibrator around to different parts of your pussy (or if that’s too sensitive and you might cum, rub it on your ass.) The important part is that you don’t break contact.

Two sessions for 10 minutes or one 20 minute session is perfect.

You’ll notice I put clit day and vibrator day right next to each other so you get one or the other. Now, if you were feeling lucky that you could cum on clit day, you probably aren’t feeling as lucky now!

General Instructions for The Week

This week we are going to focus on maintenance tasks; those things you should be doing every day even if your not currently on denial.

(Though I might recommend switching your orgasm days: one day you can orgasm as much as you like, the next, not at all. To do this flip a coin for the week. You can cum on either heads or tails depending what turns up when you flip the coin at the start of the week.)  

This will help to keep your arousal in an appropriate place:

Wednesday Clit Rubbing Day! (Heads)

So today is clit Rubbing Day! Everyone’s favorite day. :) If you flipped heads at the beginning of the week, congratulations! But we can’t just do plane old clit rubbing can we? Of course not!

No instead, first edge by rubbing your clit however you like. But keep a nice even pressure and pace. One that feels perfect for you getting close, but try to stick with the same speed and pressure from the time you start till your close.

Now we are going to count up to 500 rubs. Once your close get naked in-front of a mirror. If you don’t have a mirror, just use your phone to record the session. Now, start rubbing your clit again that same even pace and pressure you used to bring yourself close and count up!

When you get close to cumming, pause! Take your hands off, and just look at yourself in the mirror or on you phone screen slowly counting to 15, then start again where you left off counting.