mod Daft, he/him, adult. i was a big AO3 user for years and all i got was this PTSD. ask box is open for experiences and opinions; the main priority of this blog is providing information and supporting victims, not discoursing. please note that the entire blog is TW: csa, grooming, and other common triggers.
I am a CSA survivor who was primarily groomed through adults I met on AO3. Regardless of debates about the content hosted there, I have spent years recovering from the effects of sexual abuse perpetrated by the website’s users, and making this blog and speaking out has been very healing for me.
I’m happy to field questions about my opinions on site moderation, alternatives to AO3, and other issues with fandom, but the primary function of this blog is to provide a safe space for myself and other CSA survivors to trade information and express ourselves.
For this reason, I’ll be prioritising the ‘safe space’ aspect of this blog, and I’m not really interested in discoursing or debating with people who strongly disagree with my views. I am also largely inactive and may take a long time to answer any asks or comments.
EDIT: I’ve noticed that a lot of the critical anons and replies I get attempt to cover issues I’ve already gone over in the essay I used to launch this blog, and I would appreciate if you read the essay in question before making bold assumptions about my views.
I’ve included a few more links to longer posts I’ve made if you’re interested in the topics I’ve covered here:
“I’ve gotten a few questions about what I would like to change about AO3 culture.“
“Is it bad that I still use AO3?”
“There’s a post going around pro-ship tumblr that proudly proclaims that only 0.7% of works on AO3 qualify as CSEM”
Brandelyn Wiser/akumakawa warning post
Racism on AO3 and in fandom
It’s hard to exclude or blacklist triggering content on AO3
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My name is Bilal. I am a 35-year-old father of four children 👨👧👦 from Gaza. I lived a simple life with my family. I worked hard every day to provide my children with a decent life and a better future.
But the war took everything from us… 💔
In a sudden bombing, my home was destroyed, and the place that once brought my family together became nothing but ruins. I lost several members of my family, and I, my wife, and my daughter were injured, leaving us with deep physical and emotional suffering.
After losing my home, my job, and my only source of income, I became unable to work because of my injuries. My responsibilities became greater than my ability to provide. Today, I live with my children in a small, worn-out tent ⛺ that does not protect us from the heat of the sun ☀️, the cold of winter ❄️, insects 🐜, or rats 🐭 that have become part of our daily struggle.
Even the little food we manage to get 🍞 does not remain safe for us, as the rats eat it, and my children cannot eat it afterward. We are living in extremely difficult conditions, trying only to survive through fear and hardship 💔.
The tent where we live is located near the yellow line, and we have nowhere else to go or a safe place to shelter. It breaks my heart to see my children suffering while I cannot provide what they need 😢.
I ask kind-hearted people ❤️ to stand with me and help us provide medical treatment for my wife and daughter 🏥, secure the basic needs for my children, and help us overcome these unbearable circumstances after losing everything.
Because of the war in Gaza, I lost everything — my home 🏚️ and my work in law, as I am a law graduate ⚖️. My wife and my daughter Malak suff
Please donate whatever you can to help us and stand by us during this difficult time 🙏. Your support can give my family new hope and help my children have a safer and more dignified life 🤍.
Please share our story with anyone who may be able to help 🤲.
Thank you to everyone who extends a helping hand and feels our pain ❤️.
My name is Mohammed, I live in Gaza City and I am 19 years old. I have lived through the full horrors of war — hunger, displacement, fear, relentless bombings, destruction, and so many other painful experiences 🥹😭.I never created a donation link before, and I haven’t received any kind of help throughout this devastating war 🥲💔.
I was so happy when the ceasefire was announced, and I dreamed of starting a small shop to earn a living. But sadly, the war returned — even more violent and destructive than before 😭.Our area has now been declared a dangerous combat zone, and we lost our home — the only shelter we had 💔.
Worst of all, my father was seriously injured: he tragically lost one of his hands and an eye, and he is now completely unable to work or support our family 🥲😭.
Prices have skyrocketed, and we have no source of income. I’m launching this donation campaign now with a broken heart but a little hope 🥲.
Please, for the sake of humanity and for the sake of my family, consider making a donation to help us survive 🙏💔.
I just created the donation link, hoping that someone out there might lend a helping hand.
My name is Mohammed. I am 18 years old and live in Gaza City. I am still at the beginning of my life, dreaming of a better future. My father
I am Jaafar from Gaza. I am currently in northern Gaza, and we have not yet been displaced to the south. Things are very difficult here — the cost of moving to the south is $1,000, and a single tent also costs $1,000, if we can even find a place in southern Gaza. The south is overcrowded, and renting a plot of land costs $1,000 per month, or even more depending on the area. 🙂😢
I started a donation campaign in the middle of the war and received good support, but due to personal circumstances, I recently created a new link, and unfortunately, I have only received a small amount of donations so far. 😓💔 I appeal to you to help me with my new campaign and donate whatever you can 🥺😭. Every amount you give will save the lives of my family and me and may help us cover the cost of moving to southern Gaza! 😓 Thank you, and I pray that God blesses you and provides for you 🧡🫂
Here is the donation link ⬇️**
Hello, my name is Elizabeth Barnes and I am a US citizen organizing this campaign on behalf of my friend Jaafar, who is raising funds to sup
Traumatized in Ireland While my Family is Facing Death and Starvation in Gaza
Has it become normal Now that the defenseless civilians in Gaza face death and starvation on a daily basis?
Hell No!
F*ck No!!!
Voting ended onNov 14, 2024
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1. @el-shab-hussein and @nabulsi # 151 on the spreadsheet of Vetted Gaza Fundraisers List]
2. @riding-with-the-wild-hunt Here .
I contemplate the happy faces of people around me here in Ireland and reminisce about the happy normal life my family and I had before the war. A life that turned into a distant memory for us and was replaced by an unending series of horrible nightmares.
Unlike my family in Gaza, people here have access to drinking water, all types of food, electricity, and a roof over their heads. Above all, they are safe, and I cannot help but wonder if they genuinely do appreciate these blessings in their lives enough.
People seem relaxed and laughing wholeheartedly around me in Ireland. I wish I could laugh too, but I am crushed way beyond recovery on the inside. I was evacuated by my Irish college after five months of living the horrors of war in Gaza. I hope you will never know what it feels like to live in constant fear and worry and be horrified by the most sickening and scary nightmares every single night while you are far away from your family in such circumstances.
When did my people in Gaza cease to be human beings worthy and deserving of a normal life? Has it become normal now for my family in Gaza to be starved and killed while the whole world is watching the genocide? If that is the case, then you will have to excuse me if I seek every avenue to bring them to Ireland and start a new normal life like all people here around me.
I was assured by the Irish Reugee Council (IRC) and lawyers in Ireland that there is hope I can reunite with my family in Ireland. In difficult times, it is hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel. For me and my family, you are literally our light and hope for a better life.
SOS!
Please donate, reblog and share.
People say: "Family always comes First," and to that, I say: "Amen!".… Mahmoud Khalaf needs your support for Death chases my family in Gaza;
We’ve made it to 98% of our goal. But my family is still stuck in unbearable conditions in Gaza.The heat and daily reality in the tents are beyond human endurance. Please don’t stop now. You are our only hope.
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I am Inas, a mother of two young children: Muhammad, 7 years old, and Hala, 5 years old. They should have been living their childhood like all children—safe and warm in the embrace of their father. But the war has stolen that dream from us😭😭😭
Six months ago, my husband Anas, a kind-hearted man who endured a life of poverty, was killed by a random shell while on his way to work as a taxi driver. Since that tragic day, I’ve been left to carry the unbearable weight of life alone.
I held a diploma in international secretarial studies and was about to start a job to help support my family. But the war shattered not only our home but also my hopes and dreams. We’ve been displaced six times and now live in a tent that offers no shelter from the bitter cold or the ever-looming fear.
My young children face relentless hunger that weakens their fragile bodies and a cold that knows no mercy for their small hearts. Each day, their cries for warmth and food grow louder, and each day, I feel more helpless to provide them with even the basics of life💔😭😭
I appeal to your humanity, to your compassion. We need your help to survive, to find a safe shelter, and to feed my children. Your generosity could be the reason Muhammad and Hala continue to live and find hope amidst this darkness🥹
Please, help me keep the light of these innocent children from being extinguished by this cruel world
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Woah you fetishize the concept of abuse that's so crazy transgressive no one's ever done that before it's not like woven into the fabric of our bigoted societies or something
Please help my daughter's sweetheart alleviate her suffering.
Because of the tent life and the spread of infectious diseases and many epidemics, she deserves a better life like other children; she has the right to play and study.
We cannot afford to buy medicine due to our difficult living conditions. Please save my daughter; every donation makes a difference in Habiba's life.
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genuine question, do you know what "creator chose not to use archive warnings" means? astolat tagged that fic correctly, clicking on a fic with that specific warning means that you as a reader are signing up to anything. anything. if you have potential triggers, avoid that tag.
(i'm assuming the post you're talking about is this one)
that post being four years old, i'm surprised it still gets read/commented on/discussed, but i will take this opportunity to clarify my point:
i agree that this is the function of that tag and that when used correctly, ao3 is a well-categorised archive of fanworks. my point was not that. it was that when i was fourteen and hadn't read fanfiction much before, this wasn't clear to me and as a result i read something that was a triggering topic. plenty of followers of this blog have shared similar stories with me.
that it needs to be explained to people over and over that "creator chose not to use archive warnings" could mean anything at all on a publicly available website popular with kids and teens is more the issue i'm getting at here. i often hear that people need to curate their own online experiences, especially from the ao3 crowd, and the setup of the website hampered my ability to do so.
yeah i was stupid. kids are stupid. that's kinda my point
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I am a father of five children. Their lives were once simple and full of hope…
Until the war came and took everything from us 💔
We lost our home and our sense of security,
and today we live in a flimsy tent that offers no protection from the cold or from fear ⛺❄️
Every night my children go to sleep asking me: When will we return to our home?
All I can offer them is patience and prayer 🤲
My children desperately need basic necessities that no child should be deprived of: 🍼 Milk
👶 Diapers
👓 Eyeglasses
💊 Essential medications
These are not luxuries,
but the most basic rights of childhood 🧸
I am not asking for pity, nor am I asking for much.
I ask only for dignity, and a real chance for my children to live in safety—without fear, without hunger, and without pain 🕊️ Any help, no matter how small, and any sharing of this message, means more to us than you can imagine 🙏🤍
Hussam, a father of five from northern Gaza 🇵🇸🍉, once lived a life filled with simple joys and quiet hopes. His children laughed freely, the
My name is Mohammed, I live in Gaza City and I am 19 years old. I have lived through the full horrors of war — hunger, displacement, fear, relentless bombings, destruction, and so many other painful experiences 🥹😭.I never created a donation link before, and I haven’t received any kind of help throughout this devastating war 🥲💔.
I was so happy when the ceasefire was announced, and I dreamed of starting a small shop to earn a living. But sadly, the war returned — even more violent and destructive than before 😭.Our area has now been declared a dangerous combat zone, and we lost our home — the only shelter we had 💔.
Worst of all, my father was seriously injured: he tragically lost one of his hands and an eye, and he is now completely unable to work or support our family 🥲😭.
Prices have skyrocketed, and we have no source of income. I’m launching this donation campaign now with a broken heart but a little hope 🥲.
Please, for the sake of humanity and for the sake of my family, consider making a donation to help us survive 🙏💔.
I just created the donation link, hoping that someone out there might lend a helping hand.
My name is Mohammed. I am 18 years old and live in Gaza City. I am still at the beginning of my life, dreaming of a better future. My father
Words are no longer enough to capture the tragedy my family and I endure.
My name is Wedad Shadi, I am 15 years old, and I live in Gaza, Palestine.🇵🇸
Our home was completely destroyed, and now we live in a torn, fragile tent. We are a family of 7, and my mother, father, and my little sister Mira were injured when our house was bombed.
My mother and Mira are in urgent need of medical treatment, but we have nothing to pay for their care, not even food to survive.
My mother and my sister were injured during the war. I am terrified of losing them… please, don’t leave me without my mother and sister. They need urgent help to survive.
They desperately need medicine and medical treatment, as shown in the videos. Every moment without help is a struggle for their lives.
Please, I beg you… save them, help us, and give them a chance to live. 🙏💔
I have started school, but I could not register because I cannot afford the fees.
Please, I beg you to help us. Donate to save my mother and my innocent little sister before it’s too late. Every contribution can save a life and bring hope to a family in desperate need.
Every day we wake up to the same reality: destroyed homes, no safety, no stability, and needs that keep growing.
People think the pain paused… but for us, it never did.
Even with a so-called “ceasefire,” nothing has really stopped.
The explosions, the drones, the fear — the violations never ended.
And our suffering definitely didn’t.
Your support is the only reason many of us manage to keep going.
Your donation 🙏🙏 — no matter how small — can mean medicine, food, warmth, and a little bit of dignity in a life that’s been stripped of everything.
Please, stand with us. Don’t let this struggle fade from the world’s attention.
We still desperately need you to get back on our feet.
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Get your pussy up, get your money up. You are a woman, not a girl. A man, not a boy. Twinks aren't a race. Abandon girl math, abandon male incompetence. Disavow internal racism, misogyny and abuse culture. Accept these fucking words into your heart and you can hit the ground running toward where you want to be inside and out and I'm so fucking serious.
contrary to what this site and literally any other online echo chamber for trans women might try to lead you to believe there are ways to be a trans woman that do not involve apologia for pedophilia and incest & you should pursue these routes toward self actualization as fast as you can so weird ass motherfuckers don't alienate you from the world
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This is the second time that specific clump of white women have done the 'It's Transmisogynistic to Say That Pedophilia is Bad" thing, and I just. Anyways, like I said, we shouldn't be harboring or protecting people in our community who conflate queerness and transness and gayness with child abuse + incest, and the insistence that the former and latter are inextricably linked is so insanely transphobic (specifically transmisogynistic? To paint your sisters are inherently dangerous + saying to be a trans woman is to be the predator fundies think they are um?) and homophobic and downright stupid. I can't support the whole community, some of you are dedicated to holding up systems of abuse and rape culture.
some of you are getting way too comfortable with "it's okay to be a pedophile as long as you're only thinking about being a pedophile and talking about being a pedophile and encouraging being a pedophile on your tumblr blog, because I haven't seen you do anything with children" as if that's not the stupidest metric any human being could ever possibly have
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