Any Time is Play Time

Positions

Here are some common positions, listed starting from the easiest for a beginner and progressing to some that require a little more experience:

Side lying on your left, top leg crossed over bottom leg: in this position you’re aligning the natural shape of your colon with your partner’s penis.  It makes for easier penetration and ease of control on both sides.

Missionary with legs up: in this position you tend to open up more.  Also it is easier to feel more of a connection to the person that you’re having sex with than with just the excitement of the act of anal.  Seeing their face can clue you into how they’re feeling and allows you to adjust as needed.

Doggy: Once you’re comfortable with anal doggy becomes a better position.  It allows for a lot of movement from both people and for deeper penetration.  Go crazy (after adding some more lube hehe)

Froggy: this is kind of the reverse cowgirl of anal.  Usually the giver will be in a sitting position and not laying down on his back.  Word to the wise, if you enjoy this position, do your squats!  Your legs will start to feel the burn quickly otherwise!

Post care

If you ejaculate inside of her keep in mind that it will not ooze out.  She will most likely need to push it out at some point.  Still, pull out slowly, taking care to stay on top of the towel, grab a wet wipe for yourself and pass one to your partner.

If you were the giver make sure to reassure your partner, make them feel loved and cared for.  Ask if they need anything.  Then feel free to take a minute to disappear to the bathroom to rinse off with warm water and soap.

If you are the receiver, make sure to let your partner know how you feel and that you love them.  Use a wet wipe for initial cleaning on the bed and then go to the bathroom to rinse off with warm water and soap.  I like to keep either witch hazel wipes or cotton squares and a bottle of witch hazel.  Why you ask?  Because it helps reduce inflammation and it is a natural antibacterial.  It doesn’t hurt that it also smells good.

After you’re both back in bed snuggling, talk to each other, share what worked what didn’t how you felt and what you’d like to try (or to avoid!) next time.

It is common for the receiver to feel like they need to pass gas or poop soon after anal sex. Giving each other some time and a little privacy might be helpful :).

Conclusions

How to prepare

Receiver

The most important part for both is to talk a lot before you start trying anything.  That way you both know where you stand, what you know and what you’re comfortable with.  After that you might want to pick which kind of lube to use (more info on that below!) and which way you’d like to start (more info on training below).

Since stimulation of the anal sphincter makes most of everyone feel like they have to poop there are a few ways to “stay ahead” of the game.  Keep a good diet, high in fiber and water.  Not being constipated and not having poop which is too soft keeps your bum happy.  A happy bum is healthy and not sore.  Also, it almost always guarantees periodic bowel movements.  Try to make sure that you’ve poop at least a few hours prior to starting your booty time (even if it is just training).  You might want to wait a while if you are particularly gassy since that usually means that something is in there and it is moving hehe.

Most people obsesses over cleanliness, which is a good thing!  From personal experience and from all my research here’s the two best options: while in the shower, with a tiny bit of mild soap on your finger, insert it slowly and gently until past the sphincter.  If it comes out clean you’re all good.  If not, repeat until clean.  For those who are more experienced and will go longer or deeper the best thing to do is to do a light (water only!) anal douche.  You can get an enema bottle from the store, empty the contents and refill with water.  Insert it and squeeze until the water is all out (try to avoid pushing in any extra air).  Wait until your body feels like it needs to come out and push it out.  You can repeat it a few times until the water comes out clean.  This method should not be used too frequently as it can with too much use thin the mucous lining of the colon and remove some of the helpful bacteria down there.  Save it for those times when you know that your booty is going to be getting most of the loving ;).

How can the porn stars feel so sure of themselves while doing anal?  Well, I’ve read some interviews and this is more or less why.  They usually fast that whole day, they might even do one real enema during the day or several douches.  If you’re totally empty then there’s absolutely nothing to worry about.  Still, I find that to really enjoy sex I need some fuel, the whole day without eating is usually out of the question for me.  If I really want to go all out I’ll fast after lunch, stay super hydrated and make sure to eat right after we’re done!

All in all, remember what your anus is for.  It expels waste, anal sex can be a little dirty and many times it is!  Make sure that you are comfortable with that and that your partner understands if the porn star preparation routine is not for you!

Giver

As the one doing the penetration you have a lot less physical prep to do.  Your job is mostly emotional prep.  Make sure to talk to your partner, make them feel comfortable enough to be completely open and honest about how they are feeling.  Make them feel sexy/wanted/horny!  The more excited, the more relaxed they’ll be and the more enjoyable the experience will be for both.

Be ready to be slow and stop on command.  This can be terribly hard if it is feeling amazing for you but if you push it too far the first time might be your last time.  Make plans ahead of time and discuss what you’d want to happen that time.  As you both become more comfortable things might be able to progress to being more spontaneous with time.

You as well, remember anal sex is on many occasions at least a little dirty.  Poop happens in anal, so does gas and making your partner feel bad about that is not going to get you any farther in your quest of the rear treasure!

First experiences with it

The first boyfriend I has who was brave enough to put in a request.  Then again, I knew nothing that would be helpful about it.  He knew what he had seen in porn.  That made for disastrous experience after disastrous experience.  It was that bad and we didn’t even ever manage for penetration to happen.  Anal sex has to work for both partners and both partners have to be patient.  Most importantly the one receiving has to be ready.  If you are not ready it will be a painful experience, physically and sometimes emotionally too.

Learning about it

So, after that relationship I decided to do some research of my own.  I was curious and determined to find out if it was something as enjoyable as the porn stars made it seem.  If they were able to be so relaxed, open and clean there’s no reason why any other human being (including you and me) shouldn’t be able to as well.  There are some things they do in preparation which are a little bit more involved than what you need to do at home but we’ll go over them too in case you want to go all out (which can be fun too!).

Anal sex can be safe, clean, fun, and most importantly pleasurable!  But first a few words of advice (then we’ll jump right into prep, training and getting down with the booty!).

Safety First

Always wear protection: if you are with a trusted partner who you know is clean then by all means go bareback but make the decision carefully.  It is a lot easier to catch STDs anally so take care of yourself and of those who you play with. 

Hemorrhoids: If you have active hemorrhoids which are flaring, wait until they have subsided.  Treat them as instructed by your doctor.  You can aggravate them and end up with a pretty painful situation.

Go slow/Listen to your partner: you can cause injury to your partner (even anal fissures) if you go too fast or are too forceful.  You can also cause your partner to feel violated and trust can be lost and the relationship can end up damaged.

Keep alcohol to a minimum: at least until you are more experienced.  The reason being that alcohol numbs you and increases your pain threshold.  Something that would cause you to say stop and prevent injury while sober might not feel so bad after a few drinks.

Don’t go ass to mouth or ass to vagina: these are two very easy ways to get infections.  Of course, your body your choice but I like to err on the side of caution when my health is at risk!

It has been decided that if I want to have my pussy used at all, it needs to be trained as thoroughly as my other holes.. :)

So, now I have a special new toy! (http://www.minnalife.com/products/kgoal) 

This toy is intended to be used by vanilla people for kegel exercises.. But has been repurposed by Sir to train and objectify his slut’s holes. He says that if he bothers to take my belt off, it better be worth the hassle. ;)

How it works: The big part goes in my pussy, and when I squeeze it, it vibrates. The harder I squeeze- the more it vibrates (yay!).. And if allowed- the handle can be toggled on and vibrate for clitoral stimulation (double yay!).  

This toy has bluetooth and an app for my phone, and can record  how hard I’m squeezing. It fits under my metal belt, and you can still hear the vibrator depending on how hard I squeeze. 

I can already imagine some scenarios where I’m muzzled, locked up, and unable to communicate except for making noise with the vibrator. I can also envision some tasks where I’m not allowed to squeeze at all. Sooooo much fun to be had!

My only complaint is that it’s kind of a big toy for me and somewhat difficult to get all the way in my pussy. Thankfully, I can deflate it a little, and its pretty soft.