anunhappyman

Bazı adamlar, korkaktır, incitmekten, dokunmaktan, sevmekten ve sonrasında acı çekmekten korkar. Bazen acaba söylersem, kaybeder miyim korkusu ile başka birisi ile beraber oluşunu seyrederler. Bazı adamlar, elini kaldırsa anca sevdiği kızın saç tellerine değer elleri. Hayatı boyunca bir kez bile doğru düzgün sevilmemiş olması nedeniyle; en çok onlar sever. Bazı adamlar o kadar çok sever ki.. Uğruna onlarca sigara, onlarca şarkı ve onlarca kilometre gidilebilir. Bazı adamlar büyük cüzdanları ile değil, büyük yürekleri ile konuşur. Cebinde eve dönüş parası yoktur; “karnın aç mı, bak doğru söyle” diyebilir. Bazı adamlar aptaldır; olmayacağını bile bile , başkasıyla olduğunu bile bile genede sevmeye devam edebilir. Bazı adamlar cesurdur. Normalde kafasını eğerek geçeceği bir ortamdan yanında sırf sen varsın diye, göğsünü gere gere yürüyebilir. Bazı adamlar kekemedir, bir çok defa denemesine rağmen seni sevdiğini söyleyemeyebilir. Bazı adamlar çok kıskançtır, biraz da komik; seni en komik anında bile kıskanabilir. Bazı adamlar biraz babana benzer. Biraz da annene. Eve geç kalma, o elbiseyi giyme, o konuştuğun kimdi. Bazı adamlar bitanem, hayatından öylece geçip gider, tutamazsın. Gel diyemezsin, dön diyemezsin, özledim diyemezsin. Öylece bakarsın arkasından. Gidişleri de adamca olur..

Some people are good at being in love. Some people are good at love. Two very different things, I think. Being in love is the romantic part—sex all the time, midday naps in the sheets, the jokes, the laughs, the fun, long conversations with no pauses, overwhelming separation anxiety… Just the best sides of both people, you know? But love begins when the excitement of being in love starts to fade: the stress of life sets in, the butterflies disappear, the sex becomes a chore, the tears, the sadness, the arguments, the cattiness… The worst parts of both people. But if you still want that person by your side through all of those things… that’s when you know—that’s when you know you’re good at love.

As a single footstep will not make a path on the earth, so a single thought will not make a pathway in the mind. To make a deep physical path, we walk again and again. To make a deep mental path, we must think over and over the kind of thoughts we wish to dominate our lives.

Suddenly I realized that I wanted everything to be as it was when I was younger. When you’re young enough, you don’t know that you live in a cheap lousy apartment. A cracked chair is nothing other than a chair. A dandelion growing out of a crack in the sidewalk outside your front door is a garden. You could believe that a song your parent was singing in the evening was the most tragic opera in the world. It never occurs to you when you are very young to need something other than what your parents have to offer you.

To be desired is perhaps the closest anybody in this life can reach to feeling immortal.

I firmly believe in small gestures: pay for their coffee, hold the door for strangers, over tip, smile or try to be kind even when you don’t feel like it, pay compliments, chase the kid’s runaway ball down the sidewalk and throw it back to him, try to be larger than you are— particularly when it’s difficult. People do notice, people appreciate. I appreciate it when it’s done to (for) me. Small gestures can be an effort, or actually go against our grain (“I’m not a big one for paying compliments…”), but the irony is that almost every time you make them, you feel better about yourself. For a moment life suddenly feels lighter, a bit more Gene Kelly dancing in the rain.

Promise yourself to be so strong that nothing can disturb your peace of mind. To talk health, happiness, and prosperity to every person you meet. To make all your friends feel that there is something in them. To look at the sunny side of everything and make your optimism come true. To think only the best, to work only for the best, and to expect only the best. To be just as enthusiastic about the success of others as you are about your own. To forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the greater achievements of the future. To wear a cheerful countenance at all times and give every living creature you meet a smile. To give so much time to the improvement of yourself that you have no time to criticize others. To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear, and too happy to permit the presence of trouble. To think well of yourself and to proclaim this fact to the world, not in loud words but great deeds. To live in faith that the whole world is on your side so long as you are true to the best that is in you.

Every struggle you had in your life shaped you into the person you are today. Be thankful for the hard times they can only make you stronger