When someone asks what is a key ingredient in a relationship? My natural response is effective communication. I do agree, though, that there is a variety of other aspects in a partnership that are important as well; such as romance, sexual intimacy, patience, tolerance and compassion. Nevertheless, I believe that efficient communication is the portal which allows a couple to enter the path toward a successful long-term relationship. Relationships experience many phases, different levels if you will. When the lust, passion and those "butterflies" in the stomach begin to fade, what's left? It is crucial that a couple builds and maintains a solid foundation through this journey. This is no walk in the park; it requires a lot of work, commitment and patience. Some may say "love is not enough." I personally think that's just a "cop out." I believe many people/couples are becoming lazy and oblivious in relationships. Choosing to walk away or avoiding relationship issues seems to be a trend that continues to be on the rise. Many fail to see that a departure from a relationship is not the answer. The inability to cope with relationship issues will not disappear by walking away; it will remain within the individual and only be transferred onto the next relationship. Having conflicts and disagreements in relationships is normal and actually healthy. So, what positive transformations can possibly come about from these struggles? First, the tighter connection and bond that is gained by the couple. Second,the coping endurance necessary to manage future conflicts or disagreements. Third, the ability to grow, mature, move forward and progress in the relationship. Being able to respectfully speak to one another, expressing each others' feelings without the fear of being judged, actively listening to each other, and being honest and truthful will preserve a relationship as long a both parties have these goals in common. Everyone is worthy of having a joyous relationship!-Angie Antonatos
