Nerd is my Gender

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I’m adorable 🥺

I look so chill in this

Man I wish I had my hair dyed like that—

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*heavy breathing* I’ve never been tagged in one of these before hehe

I wasn’t even tagged but I wanted to make one lol

Umm… uhhh…

Help, my partner just told me that they may be poly, and I’m monogameous. I want my partner to be able to have a boyfriend without me having to also be involved with him and they’ve told me that’s okay, but I’m really not comfortable with the idea of having to share them sexually.

I KNOW I can move past this, but in order to do that, I really just, want to know: Can a situation still be happy and positive even if one of us is monogameous (in this case me,) and I only want my partner like that and not their now crush? I feel like an asshole because I’ve been really happy it just us but then I also don’t want to deny them this person if they really need them and ugh =( This person currently doesn’t live in our city either so until they moved back my partner would have to leave the city to visit them and I just...I want this for them so much, but I just....can’t stand the thought of being alone at home while they’re with them and happy together and it kills me because more than ANYTHING I want to be able to let them have everything they feel they need to be happy while we’re together, but my feelings are just making it near impossible and I feel awful because I know how important this is and their crush is to them =(

Does anyone here have any advice or stories of dynamics similar to ours? I’m also looking for friendly and active poly blogs to check out to see if I can get even more help. Thank you!

Mod Ash:

I have a lot of impostor syndrome going on about it, but in the last few moments before they took away my phone before they wheeled me in for my hernia surgery this summer, even though there’s only like a 1% chance something would go wrong, I edited my Twitter bio because I wanted people to know, just in case.  

Agreed! There are many different aspects of ADHD that affect every aspect of life, not just in the classroom. And developmental disorder does have a negative connotation to it.

“A Bisexual Wet Dream” by Verity, illustration by Kitty,

I am a bit tired of seeing posts on Tumblr making fun of cats who act hungry even when their bowl is almost full. Those are funny and good-natured posts, but every cat guardian should realize that cats, just like people, don’t generally do anything unless they have to (or have a good reason to).

One of the reasons might be that it’s just…..hard to get all the food out? Especially if the sides of the bowl are near vertical. Like, think about how would you get food from the “corners” of a bowl with steep sides if you had to do it with your mouth? Like, your chin is….in the way… And the smaller the bowl is, the more food ends up in those “corners”. Yesterday I watched a cat trying to eat food beyond the center of the bowl for like 5 minutes, and failing miserably (albeit hilariously).

But there’s something else I want to talk about.

Another reason your cat might not be getting all the food from the bowl is something that’s usually called “whisker fatigue” or “whisker stress”. Here’s a quote from PetMD:

You can think of whisker fatigue as an information overload that stresses out your cat. Because whisker hairs are so sensitive, every time your cat comes into contact with an object or detects movement, even a small change in air current or a slight brush against her face, messages are transmitted from those sensory organs at the base of her whiskers to her brain[..]. That barrage of “messages” could stress out your cat, eventually causing what some people call whisker fatigue.

So basically if your cat’s whiskers have to be constantly touching the bowl for her to get all the food out, it might be a little like looking at your uncle’s internet explorer: pop-ups everywhere!

This also might be a reason why your cat takes food out of the bowl and drops it on the floor to eat.

Not all cats experience this, but some cats are definitely helped by giving them a flat dish. 

There’s a cat, Julie, at the shelter where I work, who would literally show signs of pain when getting her kibble from a regular bowl. If she ate at all, she would eat very slowly, sometimes taking every kibble out of the bowl with her paw, and then eating it from the floor. It stopped completely when I switched her to a flat bowl. My own cat used to take her wet food out of the bowl, throw on the floor, and then eat from the floor, which of course resulted in huge mess (wet food…on the floor…). Again, she stopped when I got her a flat dish.

There are special dishes sold on amazon (search for “flat cat bowl” or “whisker stress bowl”), but it can also be, like, a plate. 

Jazz:

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“While I think most US measurement systems are hot garbage and need to…”

Yes but there’s a lot of numbers between 0 and 100°C and we use them and know what they mean. I know Farenheit, I can even make the conversion in my head, but the numbers will never make sense to me. In the end preferring one system over another is about which one you’re used to.

My issue is more about how people passionately say Farinhite is this horrible scale and Celcius is superior. I’ve literally seen all caps internet arguments about it. Like you said, you can get used to either and be fine. But I don’t think that means one is better than the other. And I think for weather, people just learning would acclimate to Faerienhight faster. 

I’m all in with the metric system. I would happily start training my brain tomorrow if this backwards country would get on board. I am so sick of 5,280 feet equaling a mile. I want those sweet base 10 unit conversions. I want them reeeal bad. 

But I don’t think Furrynhight needs to go. It makes sense to me and I’m okay with keeping it. 

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