Amoafoa

@ralphlaurenfragrances Ralph’s Club is my new everyday scent. Opening with lavender and sage notes over a deep smoky vetiver, it’s rich without being overpowering, masculine yet soft. I find it to be a unisex fragrance, easy to wear for day or night, and with this bottle, makes for a great gift for a loved one. https://www.instagram.com/_amoafoa_/p/CZAEwCmqqK7/?utm_medium=tumblr

2021 was the first year I made a vision board. I managed to achieve a number of the things I had on it, and the ones I didn’t taught me some useful life lessons. Key among them has been to reframe my goals as input goals rather than outcome goals. At the end of the day, I’m only really in control of the work I put in and how consistently I show up for myself. I’m leaving a few of my favorite lessons below and you can click the link in my bio to read all 21 lessons I learned in 2021. ✨ Finished is better than perfect. ✨ We overestimate what we can achieve in a day, and underestimate what we can in a year. ✨ Take intentional breaks. ✨ Feel impostor syndrome and do the work anyway. ✨ There will always be one more thing you need. Don’t wait to start. What lessons from 2021 are you bringing into this year? https://www.instagram.com/p/CY9gk_Pq_4T/?utm_medium=tumblr

I feel incredibly overwhelmed by your response to my childfree post yesterday. It’s literally the most read blog post I’ve ever done. I’m still getting back to everyone who left a comment here, on Twitter, and on the blog, and I’m thankful to have a community that is so kind. Here’s to making the choices that honor us, whatever they may be ❤️ https://www.instagram.com/p/CY4XMNtqxer/?utm_medium=tumblr

In the spirit of audacious sharing, I’ve done a long-read on the blog about wanting to be childfree by choice. I’ve been pretty vocal on here about my philosophy of willful unmarriage, and it’s opened up the space for some cool, interesting conversations. And so, while for some reason it feels like a bit of a taboo topic, I wanted share how I came to the decision of choosing a future without children and my feelings about it. Link is in my stories! https://www.instagram.com/p/CY12JCKqaWZ/?utm_medium=tumblr

Last year we were sexy babes, this year we’re ✨audacious babes✨ Happy New Year my dears! https://www.instagram.com/p/CYrfoDjK5Fd/?utm_medium=tumblr

*gently taps* Is this mic still on? https://www.instagram.com/p/CXePtOEKAdb/?utm_medium=tumblr

Spent so much time making art, I became it https://www.instagram.com/p/CW8w-MIqIaX/?utm_medium=tumblr

A mocha vision wearing @meshki https://www.instagram.com/p/CW1EsKlqdAY/?utm_medium=tumblr

Maintaining beauty in @revolve @superdown #revolveme #revolvearoundtheworld #blackfashionista https://www.instagram.com/p/CWtTo0uqfir/?utm_medium=tumblr

Currently drowning in anxious energy, so here’s me when I wasn’t 💀 what’s something that made you smile today? (at Akosombo, Volta, Ghana) https://www.instagram.com/p/CWqy-zWKMR-/?utm_medium=tumblr

Day 12/30. What would you name this chapter of your life? An intentional ceremony. Recently, I’ve really felt struck by how fleeting our time really is, and it’s made me feel more inspired to show up for myself. I’m now officially closer to 30 than I am to 20, and for me right now, and for 30 year old me, I want to take the risks, the chances, and make the memories I feel called to. What would you call this chapter of your life? (at Akosombo, Volta, Ghana) https://www.instagram.com/p/CWoLvcgKKo1/?utm_medium=tumblr

Cozy in @skims I’ve shared this on my Stories, but this set from the Skims cozy collection truly feels like a cloud. I 1000% recommend if you love your home loungewear (especially if you’re going into Autumn/Winter right now). I think the pieces from this collection would also make great gifts for loved ones this holiday season✨ https://www.instagram.com/p/CWlmHqpq_2e/?utm_medium=tumblr

I want to live the rest of my life, however long or short, with as much sweetness as I can decently manage, loving all the people I love, and doing as much as I can of the work I still have to do. I am going to write fire until it comes out of my ears, my eyes, my noseholes--everywhere. Until it's every breath I breathe. -Audre Lorde https://www.instagram.com/p/CWd4eMAqhrp/?utm_medium=tumblr

On earth we’re briefly gorgeous 🌺 Dress by @loveshackfancy , contour from my mama https://www.instagram.com/p/CWWKB3GKXhb/?utm_medium=tumblr

‘You can love what you see in the mirror, but you can’t self-esteem your way out of the way the world treats you’ - @gabunion There’s been some conversation online this week telling people who exist in marginalized communities or whose bodies are deemed undesirable by social constructs to work on self-love. And self-love is important, but it doesn’t solve colorism, racism, fatphobia, transphobia, or any other structural bias towards people’s identities and bodies. If you’re struggling with self-love and you don’t see yourself in media or see representations of yourself that are multi-dimensional, humanizing, or kind, just remember that you’re not somehow failing- the world is built to teach you to dislike yourself. If you can’t find them irl, perhaps you can find communities online that are uplifting. Self-love can be a roller coaster journey, and that’s okay. And hopefully, we can build a world that treasures everyone. https://www.instagram.com/p/CV52wWgqS8i/?utm_medium=tumblr

I’ll be honest with you. The last few weeks have been hard for me as a content creator. I love the work I do- I’ve spoken before about the immense gratification I feel when an image comes together, when a story connects with someone, when a sentence that just came to me perfectly captures how someone else feels. But lately, I’ve been filled with a lot of anxiety about growing, and the numbers of it all. I feel like I need to be growing more, and feel really defeated when it doesn’t feel like that’s happening. Beyond trying to practice an abundance mindset (which these stunning views remind me to do), I don’t really have the answers for how to feel better, even though I know that I shouldn’t be worrying about numbers. So, I thought I’d ask. What do you do when you feel like you’re not succeeding at work, or in a metric that everyone says is incredibly important? (at Akosombo) https://www.instagram.com/p/CV0ttCFqw8j/?utm_medium=tumblr

Day 11. When was the last time you were brave? I turned 26 today. When I was about 15, I created a plan for my life that involved/heavily relied on structures and working within established institutions. It felt safe, comfortable, even easy. And I could have had that life. But, I continued to choose unknowns that led me down the path I’m on now. Largely unstructured, creating a world that I envision but don’t entirely have a pre-existing blueprint for. Most days, that scares me. Today is one of those days. And so as I rolled around in bed, willing sleep to come, I remembered just how far I’ve come, and how much joy I’ve gotten from my journey. So, even though the uncertainty of my current path scares me, I’m choosing to be brave, and to keep on going. How have you dealt with uncertainty, getting older, finding bravery? (at Akosombo) https://www.instagram.com/p/CVvUkHoq6qv/?utm_medium=tumblr