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me in December

Somehow the vagina has been lost and erased in a sex-crazed culture manipulated into a penis-pleasure culture. People with vaginas have been forgotten, and manipulated into believing that our sexual pleasure is not important enough by men who can’t locate a clit, and joke around about how the female orgasm is “non existent.” Most cis-women, don’t even know about their own anatomy, and for cis men, they simply don’t care. So we’re going to break it down for you.

The Vagina- by lexi4prez.

your first time, is not supposed to bleed. bleeding only occurs when you are not aroused enough, and your vaginal walls are not self-lubricated enough for entry or intercourse to be pleasurable. The hymen is a part of the vagina that STRETCHES, with enough lubrication it will stay stretched and pleasurable. It will only result in blood if it is “torn” hence the myth of the “cherry pop.” Personal experience: I did NOT bleed from my first intercourse. And that is completely, and should be commonly, normal! lexi4prez, someone with a vagina, confirms this.

you do not “pee out of your vagina.” The vagina/body has three holes. The anus, the vagina, and the urethra, a small opening above the vagina. We do not pee out of the same hole used during sex/periods. Please, look at a diagram. 

the clit, commonly joked around about being difficult to find, is societies ability to erase the vagina’s pleasure. Located in any diagram of the vagina out there, the clit has over 8,000 nerves (the penis only having 4,000) and exists for sexual pleasure. To have your sex partner ignore the face you have a button like organ that only exists for your pleasure, is a way for society to once again, not care about your enjoyment in sex. If you enjoy sex, make sure you’re enjoying it with someone who wants to please you.

the tightness myth- commonly used by men to shame women for having multiple sex partners. Time and time again, people have proved this theory to be wrong, but it’s still a thing. The vagina comes in many different sizes, for one. Some people with vaginas have a smaller vagina, and they are tight a lot of the time. During arousal the vagina expands in anticipation, and once penetrated, tightens around whatever is inside.If the vagina feels extremely tight, it’s because they are not aroused. This can lead to blood, pain, and an awful sex experience. No matter how many times you have sex, your vagina goes back to its normal size. IT ONLY STRETCHES WHEN YOU ARE AROUSED. Another way we have been manipulated and shamed for having sexual pleasure.

labia shaming- the labia majora is the part of a vagina that is outside of your labia minora. The minora is the part of your vagina that is slangy used as “lips” and these are almost all different. Every vagina has a different labia, some are small, some are long, some are shriveled, some are thin, they are all different. Its BASIC human anatomy and has nothing to do with your tightness/looseness.

discharge- another way for cis men who know nothing about the vagina to shame us for being “dirty.”  Vaginal discharge is a part of the vaginas self cleaning, from fluids made by glands inside the vagina that carries bacteria and dead cells. This self cleaning keeps the vagina clean and prevents infection. The amount also varies, as can odor and hue. It depends on multiple things: being sexually aroused, pregnant, menstruating, breastfeeding, etc. Do not let anyone shame you for your bodies natural cleaning.

orgasms- oh the myth about the “female” orgasm. This is one of the biggest lies and selfish manifestation of a culture who doesn’t want cis women to enjoy sex. you can orgasm from your clit, penetration, blending of both, and basically good sex. The vaginal orgasm is something that can be achieved from rubbing a vibrator on your clit for about 10-15 minuets, and should not be forgotten because your sexual partner doesn’t care. It might take a bit of time, but it is not difficult. Read up about different kinds of orgasms and better ways to achieve them, as there are too many ways to be explained here.

and finally, FGM. Something that is the result of a culture who does’t want women to enjoy sex at all costs, and needs to be discussed. Female Genital Mutilation is the removal of exterior vaginal genitalia. Its surprising how many people do not know about this. It is an official violation of human rights, and it serves no health benefits, only future problems. FGM is practiced in more than 29 countries, and over 130 million women in the world have been victims. It is commonly ignored by society, and its vile and only done to eliminate a woman’s chance at sexual pleasure. The procedure is done from any age, usually 5-15, and done by an older woman with a rusty knife. It causes extreme pain, severe bleeding, risk of infection, and difficulty in passing urine and menstruation. It can also result in problems with future pregnancies. Please do your research on this, as it is the ultimate, most severe effect of the way the vagina has been told it is a sin by cultures everywhere.