Alvierre A.

Once you separate those two concepts, a LOT more possibilities come into view, because in actuality, sex is just one of many possible ways of satisfying a hunger for intimacy. Some people feed that hunger by snuggling, or hair-washing, or other forms of non-sexual physical contact. Some people fill it with shared activities and hobbies, like playing video games or board games or doing a puzzle or going hiking or taking a class together or chilling at the library. Some people fill it by talking for hours or sharing secrets they’d never tell anyone else, either in person or online. Some people fill it with small acts of service, like cooking for someone or bringing them flowers. Some people fill it with just sitting together in companionable, comfortable silence. All of these can be intimacy.

This is how sexual and asexual people can have happy, fulfilling relationships with each other – it just requires more conversations about what the two of you specifically need to mutually feel like you’re thriving in the relationship. That answer is going to be different for every single person – and that is a wonderful and joyful opportunity to explore your options and get to know yourself better! There’s no rulebook! If you feel happy and satiated afterwards (or “peaceful” or “energized” or whatever label you’d put on the Good feeling after getting this need met), then you’re doing it right.

people who are straight: yeah i’m straight