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2021:
Researchers focused on whether kids that are spanked are more likely to share or, conversely, more likely to have anxiety, years down the li
2021:
Spanking found to impact children's brain response, leading to lasting consequences.
2018:
The American Academy of Pediatrics says new evidence and research not only show that spanking affects a child’s brain development and increa
2016:
Kids who are spanked tend to act out more and have more problems later on.
2012:
A study reviewed more than two decades of research on the effects of spanking and found nothing positive to report, only that physical punis
2010:
A multiyear study shows spanking kids makes them more aggressive later on
I haven’t pissed people off lately by reminding them that ALL types of physical punishment of kids has been proven beyond ANY reasonable doubt to have only negative long term outcomes.
So let me scream it from the hilltops:
Stop hitting kids. End of sentence.
If you think, “but I was hit and I turned out just fine” let me pre-reply: NO YOU DID NOT. You think hitting a child is ok, how the fuck does that qualify as “fine”?????? From one abuse survivor to another: please start healing yourself.
This post needs a "it's been 5 years" update, so here we go:
2022:
Spanking is a risk factor for children's social competency. However, establishing causality is a challenge, given selection bias in samples
Background There is a vast literature on the negative associations between spanking in childhood and various psychosocial developmental outc
2023:
The use of corporal punishment in schools is not an effective or ethical method for management of behavior concerns and causes harm to stude
Spanking has been linked to multiple maladaptive child outcomes. However, previous research linking spanking with children's executive funct
2024:
Corporal punishment is believed to precede various forms of violent behavior, yet prior research has yielded inconsistent findings, partly d
2025:
This technical report describes the prevalence, risk factors for, and consequences of child corporal punishment, which it defines as “any pu
Physically punishing children in low- and middle-income countries (LMICs) has exclusively negative outcomes -- including poor health, lower
YOU GOTTA BE FUCKING KIDDING ME TUMBLR
So annoying. So GD annoying.
The World Health Organization report I highly recommend because there are so many conclusions that are shocking and yet completely obvious.
For example, being exposed to corporal punishment as a kid makes it more likely for a person to commit domestic violence against a partner. In places where corporal punishment is normal, people are more likely to think that rape and intimate partner violence are normal. Kids who are spanked are more likely to be violent with and to bully other kids.
Spanking is literally teaching a kid that violence is okay and normal and it affects the whole society.
It also talks about how corporal punishment affects the brain in its development. It changes the structure of the brain and slows the development of mental abilities. Kids who get spanked have much stronger hormonal responses to stress.
Everyone: Pound cakes are very rich.
Me: Yeah I bet they're a bit more than a regular cake, probably basically the same thing though.
Pound cake recipe:
This isn't a cake this is a giant cube of cookie
#i fucking love pound cake i will go FERAL for pound cake i dont think this recipe has enough butter
This cake is approximately 50% sugars and fats how much more butter do you want
Much more butter and a bit more sugar, actually. You know traditionally, pound cake meant every ingredient was added by a pound, so really there should be 250g of sugar and 250g of melted butter, and hopefully the eggs come out to 250g as well. I'm guessing the full 455g of each ingredient is probably more than you need.
Of course, since this makes such a dense batter, you pretty much have to bake it as a bundt, but that's your classic Pound Cake right there.
That's fucking bonkers. Who invented this thing.
Cake seems to have cooked all the way through, which surprises me given how wet the batter is, but I'm scared to taste it. It smells like an imminent hospital visit.
One of my hottest transfeminist takes that I have is regarding drag and ballroom actually. Read the whole thing in depth instead of skimming it then getting mad at me.
I think that the US transfemme desire to disown drag/ballroom is a symptom of both white culture’s destruction of ancestral ties and the importance of cultural continuity, and of the predominantly white ignorance of it as a gentrified Black art form similar to how whites treat other Black art. They want a destruction of it because they see the effects and results of the gentrified version and assume that’s all there is/was.
In particular it’s frustrating because while some drag queens are cis, a lot are trans women, non-binary, or otherwise transmisogynized and drag/ballroom and the tipping culture associated with it existed in part because the transmisogynized are so fucking unemployable and it provided/s a method beyond mutual aid for the redistribution of money, through the labor of performance.
In relation to trans women, I view drag queens as a pathway to transness similar to crossdressers, femboys, (unfortunately) sissies, and similar - where although the perception of them currently may cause harm to the perception of trans women at large due to the ways they compromise with predominantly white cishetero society to allow transfemmes to explore their gender, they are, in fact, still functionally people within the spectrum of transfemininity even if they haven’t fully accepted their gender expansiveness for themselves. Harm they cause to the perception of transfemmes does not lessen them from that societal assignment, any less than we can say Caitlyn Jenner, Blair White, or Kelly Cadigan are less trans women because of the harm they’ve done to the perception of trans women. They are all, in effect, varying levels of transmisogynized whether they realize it or not.
When I was in DC I knew a lot of drag kings/queens and literally 95% of them are trans and either came to drag/ballroom as a way to explore their gender through art and/or make money bc poor, or started it and it was a gateway to unlocking their gender. Not counting the cis performers elevated by stuff like RuPaul, who is explicitly transphobic, I think I can count on my hands how many cis performers I’ve met. Hell, even with RuPaul shit a number of drag artists who have been on his shows later come out as trans (such as Bosco, who I literally grew up with), in part because they suppressed their transness publicly to maintain their career until they reached a point the blowback of coming out wound impact them less. Pulling a F1NNSTER to keep cash flowing for survival, if you will.
Iunno like. The earliest Balls we have records of were literally 1880-90s, predominantly Black (the oldest drag/ballroom performer we have records of was a Black trans woman from DC), and was one of the only safe places for trans people to exist as themselves. So I find the idea of writing it off due to a much more recent gentrification and commercialization of it as ignorant as how people often treat other demonizes or commercialized Black art.
“I just don’t like the spectacle it makes of transness and harm it causes-“
Baby all Blackness is spectacle to crackers and An Amount of modern drag is white people doing minstrelsy of all Black women - not in the sense of gender at all but in the sense of race.
Like. A lot of Black culture in the US specifically is Big and Loud *because* of the repression of it we’ve faced and the force towards respectability politics, which has echoed to queer culture because queer culture in the US is made vast majority from Black culture. Our existence is a spectacle so why not make a show out of why they hate us and try to erase us so that they can’t get rid of even more.
Hating “the spectacle” of an actual performance art form is solidly rooted in white supremacy and white cultural notions of propriety/respectability. Many aspects of “spectacle” seen in drag are directly taken from Ballroom or adapted from it/vogueing.
In summary: traditions are meant to change with situational, cultural, and environmental need but still be sustained as part of a culture. Gentrification is a poison to this that makes it harder for those the culture belongs to to practice it as it should. White ancestral shame is a poison that makes them think they should nuke everything historic/cultural that makes them uncomfortable regardless of whether it’s theirs or whether it’s something they stole and gentrified. Also yeag like,,, it’s a job/gig income predominantly for societal “undesirables” to make money when they’re under/unemployed due to marginalization. And it’s also been gentrified to *gestures at RuPaul, et al.*
No matter what you think about drag or ballroom, poor predominantly racialized trans folks still gon be doing it because it is part of our culture no matter what tv shows and big names and people who have only seen those do to it, and it’s always going to be seen as one of the “disreputable” pathways to transness that makes other trans people look down on them because of the complicated ties to transmisogyny, because until someone publicly says the words “Im also a trans woman”, WE also view them as a personification of what we fear the world sees us as—a man in a dress—rather than an egg finding their way to gender in a way we deem unacceptable because it doesn’t align with how we think it “should” be done.
And I think that’s on us honestly, not on them. If we say it can take as long or as quickly and as easily or messily for someone to sort out their gender as needed, this also has to be extended to the transmisogynized we view as “disreputable” regardless of if/when they reach a conclusion we deem acceptable or whether they die in the shell, never able to remove their masks fully.
Aight yall gon head and eviscerate me now
Also as a clarification, I am not saying that you, personally, must enjoy/like/do drag or ballroom. Im saying that drag, crossies, sissies, femboys, etc. are all transmisogyny paradoxes because of the way they interface gender exploration with surviving doing so in a transmisogynistic system by compromising for safety or a degree of acceptance within spaces they’ve found accept it.
Like, as an example, I *hate* sissies because of the racism endemic to sissy culture, but I still recognize they’re transmisogynized regardless of the harm they do or the disgust I feel towards them.
I also had someone comment on it as a facet of US cultural imperialism, of which I do want to note - drag/ballroom based on Black origins was spreading outside the US back in the 1800s/early 1900s too, there’s photos from other countries of balls explicitly influenced by Black Balls mainly started by Black folks in said countries, an example being early 1900s photos from France of both transmasculine and transfeminine Black people. While modern gentrified drag is 100% exported as part of US cultural imperialism, its original spreads outside of the US were via Black diaspora in-culture. I honestly couldn’t tell you definitively where it stuck and where it didn’t from that original wave, but it’s important to know it existed that way.
I have some physical books on this I might see if I can add to the archive tbh, if I can I’ll reblog this again with links.
Girl do you have any idea how many white transfemmes got their starts as trans women through sissy kink and some *still* claim it even after years of hormones and multiple surgeries, not just for SW reasons either. Shit, a couple of the most prominent white dolls in DC still actively identify as sissies.
Is it uncomfy as hell to know this along with the horrific racism levels innate to sissy shit? Yup! Do a significant amount of trans women still start out as sissies? Sure do!
I need yall to sit and understand im talking about the *material realities* of how the transmisogynized are treated by society, not whether it makes us comfortable or happy to fucking know it. Your personal disgust or uncomfortability with being even peripherally associated with them because of them coming across their gender in a “disreputable” way does not change whether they are transmisogynized or not.
“They can take it off while we can’t! They’re all just men!” Ok so are boymoders not transmisogynized? Are those fully in the closet not transmisogynized? Are the very societal forces that drive them to access any hint of transfemininity they can through any method they can—whether it’s playing a girl in a video game, drag, sissification, crossdressing, or becoming a femboy—not intrinsic proof of their transmisigynization BECAUSE they feel they cannot directly access that transfemininity? Because I thought we had arrived at the conclusion that transmisogynization occurs even before someone comes fully and openly out as some type of transfemme, before they say the words “I am a trans woman”, when or *if* they ever publicly do.
We spend AGES looking at people, dead or alive, and going “oh, that’s a transfemme who hasn’t gotten/didn’t get to come out as one” - We are extremely hypocritical in how we allow or disallow transmisogynized people access to transfemininity based on how we feel they reflect on us as a community. Shit, Kurt Kobain was “just” a crossdresser—and a lot of the girls HATE interacting with crossies personally—but half of the dolls on this site (rightly) claim her as a transfemme who didn’t get to come out before she died. She’s provided that access because she makes us “look good”, “despite” being a crossdresser. In this way, we treat respectability as the bar by which we determine whether we let the “disreputable” transmisogynized be recognized for what they are or not.
Do they experience the full effects of transmisogynization full time? Of course not. But transmisogynization is a spectrum, as we’ve discussed in whether eggs/closeted girls are transmisogynized prior to coming out. The “disreputable” transmisogynized often (though not always) exist in life situations where they cannot safely access transfemininity through other methods or full time, so they do not suffer the same levels of constant transmisogyny as trans women do, but to pretend they aren’t transmisogynized at all flies directly in the face of our own theories and is supported solely by politics of disgust.
Im not saying you have to go out and adopt a sissy or some shit, but we HAVE to acknowledge this shit and incorporate it into our work if we want to have theory accurate to material reality and not just incorporating transmisogyny as a policy within transfeminism.
Comrade I fully mean reputable as in ingroup amongst transfemmes, vs. “men who are just fetishizing/exploiting our identity” being disreputable. All transmisogynized people being disreputable to larger society except for how they can use and exploit us comes with the transmisogyny.
I'm fine probably
Wouldn't say I'm suffering in any sense, rather simply not flourishing
Every day is pretty nothing, as much as I laugh and enjoy mself with friends an whatnot, I get to bed empty so I feel paradoxically isolated
But that probably doesn't mean anything I'm not having a bad time right?
Nothing to complain about yea?
Not much to look forward to per se, but plenty of stuff I can't wait to get over with so that's gotta count for something right?
I don't ever pass off as particularly cheery or anything, but I don't think I express misery so clearly so It's not like I'm hiding anything, surely
Yea, I'm probably fine
I wouldn't even know where to start tackling a problem if I had any
I'm probably fine
S'not like there's any problems I recognise
yea I'm fine
Maybe I want to talk about it but even if I did what would I talk about lol
yea don' worry about it
Man who was a Blackwater Mercenary, 3 times Iraq veteran, who served as a guard at Abu Ghraib, one time Afghanistan veteran, who said he loved it, and got a Nazi tattoo to celebrate it, and was accused a couple months ago of sexual assault and abuse - which the Yankee left were cool with and defended - is also a rapist
I sincerely believe you should go to hell
Graham Platner ran on an anti-zionist, universal public healthcare, no foreign interventions, pro labor union, etc.
Susan Collin is running on a pro Israel platform, voted for the original Iraq war, voted for the anti boycott act (the one against bds), and voted for additional ice funding as well as the big beautiful bill.
Ahh yes, the unrepentant vet that happily took 5 tours in Iraq, including 1 as a Blackwater mercenary, and lobbing mortars in population-dense environment, desecrating bodies, among other patently monstrous acts and directly serving to expand the interest of the US and the Settler state, is definitely an Anti-Zionist, who is against US imperialism and interventionism. Trust the war criminal rapist with the SS totenkopf tattoo on this one.
So you think Susan Collins is better?
The median american voter btw
So you're saying just don't vote?
You make it sound like there's a secret third option that everyone else is too stupid to realize. Good things platner dropped out I guess.
I'm sorry if your beloved Obengruppenführer Platner drops out, maybe next time, the people of Maine can grow a moral conscience and not vouch for a serial killer and a rapist, inshallah

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IF YOU DONT DO ANYTHING YOU ARENT ANYONE. SORRY
Every girl like me I know feels like she was born with an expiration date, like there’s a number stamped on her forehead that says “26 years old” that says “six months after the money runs out” that says “when you can’t do this anymore” that says “as soon as you work up the courage,” and I’m one of the lucky ones, because that scares me, Sometimes I think I have an immigrant’s patriotism for this world, because it took me 20 years to decide that I wanted to live in it. Maybe that’s what hope is.
But I don’t know how to say that the greatest poet I know and her girlfriend, who looks so like me she nearly made my mom faint when she opened the door, are probably not going to last another year. So everybody told me to vote for Bernie Sanders. It’s not enough.
Now people are saying this might be the end times, but I want to remind them that we have already been living in them, for as long as I can remember, and I don’t know why it’s so hard to keep in contact with someone I don’t see, to reach out across that burden of distance with the uncertain arms of exhaustion, but I know why it’s hard to reassure somebody, when all you can say is “I’m scared, too.” How much money do you give somebody, when money is the thing you don’t have? For time, same question.
A trans woman I had never met came into my shop one day and pointed me out to her friend, she said “you are my sister,” and I said “yes, I am.” So when I saw one of my sisters out on the street with a slice of cardboard, I brought her a bottle of water and all the cash I had in my wallet, because afterward I couldn’t stop crying for six hours, and I don’t think anybody asked me why.
Maybe this is why there are so few things that feel important to me anymore. I said “the only things people like me make are cries for help” and I got 128 reblogs. Apparently, some people find that relatable.
A lot of people have told me that I’m the most optimistic person they know, and I don’t tell them that I have to be, I take it as a compliment.
The thing they don’t tell you about hope is that it’s cyclical, it needs to be refreshed every single day, Hope is just like every other kind of work you do on your body. So what does a story mean, to that? What can a poem mean, to that? I abhor maintenance. I don’t want to have to say anything anymore, I want to walk to the place where all my words are done, And build a home there. It’s not enough. All your pleas and all your promises, your fights and feats and failures, are not and never will be enough. Not for us. This world was not made for us.
So let’s build a better one. Let’s start right here, right now, just us, not with a kiss or a fist but just you and me pledging to not let go no matter what comes, deciding even when the love is gone that we’re not gonna let each other drown anymore. So I want to offer my hand, to every girl like me who needs it, and walk with you into a place beyond these empires, a place that doesn’t exist yet. And that, I hope, is enough. Because that’s…everything.
there’s this term i coined in my friendgroup i call “the charizard effect” and it can apply to anything and everything, but it was born from me explaining my feelings about the pokemon charizard. the term is basically about how overexposure to something be it by corporate shilling or fandom prominence drives me away from really enjoying something bc i’m exposed to it so much against my will i become tired of it. it came to me bc i was ranting about how tpci does not, and cannot stop reinventing charizard, and how it is popular and obtusely included in almost every region, merch, etc in every way possible and it’s highly commodified.
i dont dislike the pokemon charizard, in fact i really like its X form, but i am exposed to so much charizard in my pokemon consumption that i cant be bothered to care for it in any more than in passing. this applies to a bunch of other stuff i’d otherwise be ok with, but i always just call this aversion phenomena “the charizard effect”
making this term has done numbers for me being able to concisely express how i feel abt something. like. its not charizard’s fault i feel this way, im sure i’d feel normal abt it if it was stripped of all this over commodification, but i cannot. hence the name
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hi all,
i'm approaching my annual hrt appointment. i'm still out of job after i had to drop it due to mental and physical abuse at the hands of a person i knew who hired me, while Hal's salary barely allows us to cover rent and necessities, so we have no way of affording it out of our pockets. since it involves bloodwork, travel to another town and back, and the price of appointment itself, we're gonna need around $230 to cover everything. my appointment is on July 9th, but i have to do the blood tests sooner to get the results in time.
k*fi | p*ypal
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now i'll be able to get my blood tests done on time, which was honestly my biggest worry, since it can take days to get results. i really appreciate it <3
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thank you so much for all the help so far <3

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so if I set up a big projector screen in the back of a truck and drive out to Amish country to show cocomelon to the kids is that like unethical
unambiguously yes
hell yeah
you know how if a baby gets hurt and they’re about to cry but you can start laughing or cooing and they won’t cry but laugh or whatever instead? Yea.. don’t do that. It’s been proven that it makes them think pain is “funny” and they will turn into killers -___-
Yes unfortunately, look at what happened to my siblings after my mom would make them laugh and not cry after they ran into a door or tripped or something
-Sarah (now goes by THE MUTILATOR) -Terry (Versace) -Kyle (The Killer) -Allie (Blood-Drinker) -Allie 2 (Blood-Drinker 2 (She could have used the whole New Name thing to distance herself from the fact that our mom named her Allie 2 because she looks exactly like Allie, but she kinda just doubled down on it even though she hated the name Allie 2…. She’s just a uncreative killer now :((((((( -Fred (I Am Going To Put My Hands In Your Guts And Play With Them But Not In A Fun Way For You, A Fun Way For Me - if you dont say his whole Killer Name he crys and kills you) -Derrick (Josh)
but what about you OP?
Me? Well since I was the youngest I was entirely forgotten about by my parents and a pack of feral street dogs home invaded us one night and stole me away to raise me the dog way.
this is me now
Talk about whiplash
Alright, well it’s a movie about a guy wanting to be a jazz drummer and the instructor he has is very cruel and abusive - but although his methods have driven a past student to kill himself, in the end the main guy is able to drum solo really fast so it all works out!