* GOTH / BITCH !

(And things I’ve never experienced before when I was growing up in fandom).

Calling shippers abuse apologists, rape apologists, racist, sexist, homophobic, ableist, pedophiles, whatever, for what they read, write, draw, headcanon, or ship in fandom. Thinking that shippers condone wrong actions in their consumption of fandom.

Anti culture. Suicide baiting, sending gore/cp to shippers, intentionally triggering and misgendering shippers, sending anon hate, ‘go choke’, ‘uglies’, erasing lgbt+ fans’ sexuality and gender by calling them cishet whenever you disagree with them or ship something they don’t like, minors in nsfw spaces by talking about them.

Taking radfem rhetoric and applying it to fandom spaces and turning around and saying you’re not a radfem (being ‘kink critical / anti-kink’).

American-centrism that dominates fandom. Believing that American laws are the ‘one true way’ even though fandom is comprised of people of every background. (example: believing that you can only ship 18+ year olds sexually even though there are people who come from countries where the age of consent is lower and age gaps are common).

Thinking shipping only applies to healthy relationships or if someone ships something they want the ship to become canon.

Thinking that people who relate to or root for the villain are condoning the villain’s actions and are probably abusers themselves.

Demanding adults leave fandom or change how they approach fandom even though adults comprise most of fandom and basically are the creators and parents of fandom (example: not interacting with minors, adding their ages onto their profiles to ‘keep minors safe’, and stop drawing nsfw fanart of underaged characters or media aimed at minors).

Thinking that minors run fandom even though adults comprise the majority of fandom. Thinking that minors deserve a safe space free of kink on tumblr even though tumblr isn’t a space for children. However, spaces for children should be sfw but tumblr is not one of those spaces.

Demanding that fandom should be a safespace (mainly for minors, gay men, and survivors).

Demanding that everyone should include social justice and morality into their fandom experience. (Everyone does not share the same beliefs nor morals).

Thought crimes. The belief that thinking about something bad is the equivalent of the action (example: having an abuse kink makes you an abuse apologist, and if you’re a woman you are contributing to your own oppression).

Callout culture.

Conflating fiction with reality.

Conflating indulgent fanfiction, media, porn, whatever, to representation. Indulgent fanfiction, media, porn is and was never meant to be representation and therefore should does not have to be accurate.

Identity politics. Demanding that the main subject of said fanfiction, media, whatever, should only be enjoyed by the audience who happen to be the main subject (example: Yaoi should only be enjoyed by gay men because Yaoi is about mxm even though Yaoi was created by women for women while Bara, a genre similar to Yaoi except includes more muscular men, was created by mxm for mxm).

Thinking that women are ruining fandom with their ‘nasty kinks’ even though men and mxm can be just as nasty and kinky (not a bad thing). Calling these women ‘cishet’ even though they’re part of the lgbt+ community.

Attacking cosplayers of characters you don’t like.

Calling fandoms such as Hetalia and Attack on Titan 'Nazi propaganda’ and those who enjoy these shows as Nazi sympathizers or anti-Semitics.

Tagging ship or character hate in the ship or character tag even though you have an anti tag for that. Fandom is supposed to be fun and no one wants to go into their ship or favorite character tag and see that negative shit.

Less fandom-y:

Anti-kinksters. Conflating bdsm with abuse. Conflating cgl/ddlg with pedophilia.

The anti-recovery movement. Shaming neurotypicals, some who might even be recovered neurodivergents.

To begin I’d like to say that the reason you’ve never experienced these things in fandom is because culture changes. 

When culture changes, we in turn must change the way we navigate it.

Not to go all waxing philosophical on you, but you can’t curse at a wall after running into it. If you saw the wall and refused to change your path in hopes it would move, the pain of collision is your fault. 

(That metaphor can’t be reversed, so don’t attempt to twist my logic. You seem like the kind of person to try that.)

Anyway, I’ll be breaking down each of your bullet points since you really wanted me to ‘discourse’ with you the other day. This is gonna be long as fuck and I’m putting it under a cut because I’m considerate.

Tw: Talk of pedophilia, and general discourse negativity.