alleviate

normalize not forcing people to choose you. If someone thinks they can get better elsewhere – let them try. Respectfully.

growing up and maturing is realising that people including yourself make mistakes. all of us learn from it. we grow and be better, for ourselves. not for anyone else’s sake. maturing is knowing you’ve done something wrong, accepting it and continue to work to become a better version of yourself.

it's not overreacting, we all have different levels of sensitivity. if it hurts, it hurts. no explanation needed

You’ve grown into someone who would have protected you as a child. And that is the most powerful move you made.

sending love to all my folks with unsupportive, neglectful, controlling or abusive parents. if you’re still living with them, please remember it won’t have to be this way forever. do your best to protect your own self and your privacy! you don’t owe them anything, no matter what they tell you. i am rooting for you and i want you to know you deserve a better life than living in the shadows of shitty parents.

Don’t listen to anyone that tells you you should be “over it” by now (including yourself). There is no timeline for healing. 

There is no "right" or "wrong" way to react to trauma. There is only survival. You do what you can until you can get out and get safe, and that is the only thing that should ever matter. You deserve to be respected for how you cope with your pain. But you also deserve to be respected enough to know you're worth the effort to heal and seek recovery if you so choose.