algaegirlfriend

Can I let myself enter fully into the world of his feelings and personal meanings and see these as he does? Can I step into his private world so completely that I lose all desire to evaluate or judge it? Can I enter it so sensitively that I can move about in it freely, without trampling on meanings which are precious to him? Can I sense it so accurately that I can catch not only the meanings of his experience which are obvious to him, but those meanings which are only implicit, which he secs only dimly or as confusion? Can I extend this understanding without limit? I think of the client who said, “Whenever I find someone who understands a part of me at the time, then it never fails that a point is reached where I know they’re not understanding me again . . . What I’ve looked for so hard is for someone to understand.”

Most of all I want them to encounter in me a real person...if I can transparently be what I am and what I feel, then perhaps they can be what they are, openly and without fear.