💥THE RIGHTEOUS WOMAN IS BEST💥
💠Righteousness is not measured only by lengthy prayers, abundant fasting, or visible acts of worship. It is also revealed in how a woman honours her husband, safeguards her marriage, fulfils the rights entrusted to her and then turns sincerely to her Lord.
🔰Ibn al-Jawzī رحمه الله relates that Riyāḥ ibn ʿAmr al-Qaysī رحمه الله, (also known by his kunyah Abū al-Muhāṣir) said regarding his wife (Dhuʾābah al-ʿĀbidah):
💢"Whenever she finished the ʿIshāʾ prayer, she would perfume herself, use incense, dress in her finest clothes, and come to me asking, 'Do you have any need?' If I said yes, she would remain with me. If I said no, she would remove those clothes and stand in prayer until morning."
💥Riyāḥ رحمه الله then said: "By Allah, she truly delighted me!"
💢 What a beautiful balance between fulfilling the rights of one's spouse and worshipping Allah subhanahu wa taala. She did not use voluntary worship as an excuse to neglect her husband, nor did she allow the comfort of married life to distract her from Allah (subhanahu wa ta'ala). She first presented herself beautifully to her husband, offered him her companionship, and attended to his rights. When he had no need of her, she devoted the stillness of the night to standing before her Lord.
💠Her actions were marked by iḥsān-excellence. She did not merely ask whether her husband needed her; she prepared herself with perfume, incense, and beautiful clothing. She understood that her husband was among the most deserving of her beauty, affection, kindness and good companionship.
🍃What does a person do when no one requires their attention and no one is watching? The answer often reveals what truly occupies the heart. When her husband had no need of her company, she did not waste the night in heedlessness. Her comfort and sanctuary were found in standing before Allah (subhanahu wa ta'ala).
💥Her worship was also hidden. While others slept, she stood before her Lord until morning, possessing deeds known only to Allah (subhanahu wa ta'ala), tears witnessed only by Him, and private conversations with Him in the darkness of the night.
🛡️This is the beauty of true righteousness: it does not make a person harsh, neglectful, or difficult to live with. Rather, it produces gentleness, consideration, affection and the fulfilment of rights. Her devotion to Allah (subhanahu wa ta'ala) made her a source of tranquillity and happiness within her home.
💢This lesson also applies to husbands. A righteous husband should care for his appearance, fulfil his wife's emotional and physical rights, treat her gently, and never use religious work or acts of worship as an excuse to neglect his family.
💠The most beautiful homes are not necessarily those filled with possessions, but those filled with affection, consideration, obedience to Allah (subhanahu wa ta'ala) and secret acts of worship.
🔰True righteousness is found in giving every rightful person their due while maintaining a sincere and unbroken connection with Allah (subhanahu wa ta'ala). A beautiful marriage and a devoted spiritual life do not compete with one another; when guided by the deen of Allah (subhanahu wa ta'ala), they strengthen and elevate one another.
🤲 Allah (subhanahu wa ta'ala) grant our brothers righteous wives who are a comfort to their eyes, grant our sisters righteous husbands who honour and cherish them and make our homes places of love, tranquillity, worship and obedience.
💥A righteous spouse helps you fulfil the responsibilities of this life while preparing beside you for the Hereafter.
[Related by Ibn al-Jawzī رحمه الله in Ṣifat al-Ṣafwah]

















