My Autistic Dance

Is There Anybody Out There? – Insecurity

When you’re autistic you get used to being let down, to having your hopes dashed. (more…)

#Autism Eclipse – The Dark Side of Passing

A Facebook post earlier got me thinking about the effort we expend in passing as non-autistic. The lengths we go to to conform. And what that costs us. (more…)

Family, Like Home, Is A Feeling

Some places feel right. They’re comfortable, they support you and suit your needs. They feel like home, even if you don’t live there. There’s even an expression, to “feel at home” that expresses this emotion of being where you belong. (more…)

In #Autism We Trust

Trust underpins most relationships, but it’s fraught with anxiety. It’s certainly something I’ve struggled with.  (more…)

#Autistic Resonance – Dancing to the Same Beat

“I do not ask the wounded person how he feels, I myself become the wounded person.” ― Walt Whitman, Song of Myself Almost all my friends are autistic: this wasn’t deliberate choosing on my part. No, there’s a deeper reason. (more…)

Dancing Into The Future

Those of you who’ve visited my blog before will remember it as Married, With Aspergers and you might be wondering what’s happened. It’s still me writing, all the older posts are still here. But the old title no longer felt relevant to the direction my life is taking now. I identify as autistic and use identity-first language when referring to myself, so it was out with the “With Aspergers” for a…

I’d thought about leaving so many times. Going back through some old posts last night, even back to when I first started blogging, it was abundantly clear to me that I had been feeling depressed, lonely and trapped for years. It was something I discussed occasionally with people I trusted. Not that I had many of those. But I was always more scared by the uncertainty of the unknown than I was of…

Ten Things That Might Mean You’re Autistic

This post started life as a cynical attempt at clickbait. I was intending to just make a bunch of stuff up in the hope you’d come here and, er, do what exactly? Read it, I guess. Didn’t really think this one through, did I? (more…)

Empathy Is Hard When You’re Autistic

Everybody knows autistic people are cold and emotionless. That we’re locked away inside our minds, cut off from human contact and feeling. (more…)

In a week and a half it will be Autism Acceptance Month. Yes, I say Acceptance, not Awareness. That’s important. Anybody can be aware of autism but accepting it? That takes effort. Effort that a lot of people show no willingness to make. Another year passed. More autistic kids dead, abused, at risk. Where’s the awareness of this: this is the real tragedy of autism. We’re ignored. Ignored when we…