be here now

““I’m going to tell you something: thoughts are never honest. Emotions are.” - Albert Camus ”

My therapist gave me a sheet of paper with a list of legitimate rights. We seem to forget we have these rights sometimes, so I thought I’d share it.

“If you’re in a toxic or unhealthy relationship, remember that while it’s NEVER okay for someone to treat someone else poorly, you chose (and continue to choose) to be in that relationship. You’re also choosing, right now, whether or not to set boundaries, say enough’s enough, or walk away. Choose wisely and always look out for yourself.”

Note to self

“Please don’t ever stay with the wrong person based on the fear of how much it will hurt to leave, especially when you know it’s the right thing to do, when you know eventually you will be much happier without him”

“Sometimes you just have to let people go. You come to a point where it’s painful to hold on any longer, so you have to make a choice. Is the pain worth it? And sometimes it is, but most of the time it’s not. You have to tell yourself that love shouldn’t be causing you that much pain, and you just keep telling yourself that until you believe it.”

“You have to trust that whatever happens, you’ll cope. I think sometimes we’re so busy clinging to the present that we don’t lift our heads so see what might be out there. We think safe is what we know, but sometimes the unknown turns out to be the better option.”

“Just be the best you can be. And if you can do that, fuck, man, I think we’ll be all right.”