Dreads and dreams

Build a life that is unmistakably yours. Form your identity. Explore and refine your taste. Know what moves you, what inspires you. Be your own muse, go to shopping malls and smell new perfumes/try the clothes on instead of getting your inspiration online. A woman without a strong sense of identity risks losing herself in this world.

I remember my mother once saying that she had "nothing." That sentence has stayed with me. Many women were robbed of their identity whether by marrying the wrong man or by being reduced solely to the roles of wife and mother. They were never truly given the opportunity to explore their womanhood in all its depth.

get dolled up to stay home. to read a book at your local park. to the beach. to the grocery store. to the movies. to play your favorite video game. you have the urge to always look your best because it’s a part of who you are. you don’t do it for others. GET DOLLED UP. what are you waiting for? what are you afraid of? again, who are you doing this for?

the aesthetic tax never feels like one purchase. it is matcha, nails, pilates, the cute errand outfit, and then the receipt starts acting like a group project. soft life, but with the numbers visible.