Chlokek

(purple=me, red=transmasc friend of mine)

sometimes it is genuinely sobering to be confronted with how little the average transmasc knows or thinks about the transmisogyny present in scociety and especially in systems that have power over us.

I don't say this to dunk on or insult my transmasc friend, he's a genuiniely wonderful person, I'm just baffled by the ignorance at play here.

he describes himself as an actuvist for trans rights. he didn't know about v-coding, or about trans women being denied access to domestic and sexual abuse help services for women, he didn't know how fucking bad the state of femenizing healthcare is because like many others, he heard "testosterone is a controlled substance and estrogen isn't" and concluded from that that getting on E must be easier, no further research needed.

but the most important part? when I pointed this out to him, he admitted his bias and promised to do better. he recognized how he had been ignorant of transfem's specific struggles because of his own marginalized status and reaffirmed his support.

I am so used to being met with hostility when discussing transmisogyny that this(the bare fucking minimum) was a genuine positive surprise to me in the moment.

the argument specifically from Black women that they suffer, cis or otherwise, from the masculinizing perceptions of dominant white society and are thus, at the very least, affected by transmisogyny, is i think pretty fair!

it is a bluntly all or nothing terminology and while i see a ton of people with a slew of opinions i think are misguided to outright classically misogynistic complain about the terminology i dont think that means it is immune to valid criticism.