If I didn't love you, letting you go wouldn't be this hard because for there to be grief there must first have been love.
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If I didn't love you, letting you go wouldn't be this hard because for there to be grief there must first have been love.

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Have you ever noticed how everyone has impeccable advice for burdens they've never had to carry?
The moment you let someone peek behind the curtain, everything changes.
You confess something you've kept under lock and key for years, and suddenly your grief becomes a public problem waiting for a practical solution. You're told not to dwell on what isn't real. You're told time heals. You're told to let go. As though pain came with an instruction manual. As though every heart broke along the same fault line.
It's never that simple.
Sometimes people don't need answers. They need witnesses.
Someone willing to read them the way they would read a favorite novel. Slowly. Without skipping ahead. Without circling every flaw in red ink. Just listening. Not listening for a chance to respond, but listening for the quiet architecture beneath the words.
That, I think, is its own kind of love.
Or maybe it's simply respect.
I believe we're in a permanent state of becoming. Every year leaves fingerprints on us that the previous version of ourselves could never have imagined. We spend so much time trying to become someone new that we rarely notice the parts of ourselves that never actually left.
Then an old photograph appears.
Not as nostalgia, but as evidence.
Somewhere inside us still stands the red door we walked through as children without hesitation. We no longer remember the street, or the house, or what waited on the other side. We only remember that once upon a time it opened effortlessly.
Perhaps the keys are still there.
Forgotten inside a dusty drawer no one has touched in years.
Perhaps they no longer belong to that door.
Perhaps they were never meant to.
Breathe.
Some seasons make everything ache.
Maybe that's because we insist on asking one word to hold an impossible number of lives.
Love.
Such a small arrangement of letters for something that refuses to stay in a single shape.
The ancient Greeks seemed to understand this long before we did. They never expected one word to carry every shade of human attachment. There was éros, all longing and fire. Philia, the quiet devotion between friends. Storgē, the tenderness that grows inside a family almost unnoticed. Agápē, love that gives without bargaining for anything in return. Even xenia, the sacred obligation between stranger and host, suggested that connection itself deserved its own language.
Other cultures arrived at similar conclusions.
Portuguese gave us saudade, the peculiar feeling of someone's absence becoming another way they remain with us.
The Yaghan language, spoken by the Indigenous people of Tierra del Fuego at the southern tip of South America, offers mamihlapinatapai, the suspended moment when two people long for exactly the same thing, yet neither finds the courage to make the first move.
Japanese has koi no yokan, the quiet certainty that love has not arrived yet, but has already begun.
Perhaps the problem has never been love itself.
Perhaps we've simply been trying to fit an entire emotional universe into a word far too small to contain it.
And maybe that is true of so many things.
Not everything asks to be solved.
Some things only ask to be understood.
Le Hermit
To a friend who's gotten so good at avoidance they do it subconsciously so well to the extent they forget someone exists:
I've learned that the opposite of love isn't hate, it's indifference.
I know you didn't mean to avoid me. I know you were burnt out from all the care you've already over extended to me. You were always more to me than the care labour you offered me. Maybe I didn't remind you enough of that. When I first heard that you didn't even want hear about me from other people, I thought I did something terribly wrong that you were too afraid to tell me. Even though you now recognize your avoidance for what it is, I still wonder if I did something terrible that you're still too afraid to tell me. I never would have guessed that you're actually so triggered by my choice, to go through an accountability process with our friend who violated me. Or that you spiralled into such shame about not being able to be there for me that you'd progessively disappear from my life. From rescheduling, to forgetting to reply to texts, to forgetting my birthday and to forgetting I exist.
The thing about the isolation produced by both violence/trauma and carceral society is they both produce the effect of progessive forgotteness. I too have progressively forgotten a lot of people I once knew, some of whom were once my closest friends. I wonder how much indifference and forgetfullness go together? Because when you finally remembered I exist and picked your phone, you told me you loved me just like you always used to. This time it hit different. It felt hollower.
I don't know how much of that interpretation is about my heart being closed off from all the hurt and grief or how much of it comes from sensing some indifference in your voice.
“People think being alone makes you lonely, but I don’t think that’s true. Being surrounded by the wrong people is the loneliest thing in the world.”
— Kim Culbertson
Explain me this... how the fuck am I walking through the produce section to find myself staring whistfully at your favourite fucking fruit? After all this time and all this rage, I'm standing in front of some fucking stall wondering if I should buy some just in case you decide to get back to me or our facilitator? You know what the saddest part is? Motherfuckin fruit wasn't even on saleeee!

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Anna Akhmatova, from a poem titled "White Flock," featured in An Anthology of Contemporary Russian Women Poets
Fortesa Latifi, from The Truth About Grief.
“People start to heal the moment they feel heard.”
— Cheryl Richardson
Kasa no Iratsume, from a poem titled "Look at my keepsake and think of me," featured in Japanese Women Poets: An Anthology
Yes, still...
— Clementine Von Radics, from In A Dream You Saw A Way To Survive; "The Fear" (via lunamonchtuna)

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Reminder to self after a full year of organizing a process around my own living nightmare
When you tell me a label of someone or a label of their behaviour or a label of their beliefs without providing me with any information as to what they did or said that led you to this conclusion, then I don't have enough information to form my own belief or opinion... and that's fine I take a lot with a grain of salt anyway. But if you're expecting me to take some sort of action, then I need more information so I can make an informed decision. I cannot be who I am in community if I'm supposed to think half the people in it are bad people who I should be avoiding because someone told me they're bad. If that upsets you, then please consider this, someone has told me that you're bad and that I should stay away from you too. And guess what, I assessed the information and then spoke to you directly and evaluated for myself that the other people's judgement of you was ignorant and uncalled for. I can't live by deferring to people's judgements of each other and unthinkly comply with the demands of every grieved party.
María Casares, from a letter to Albert Camus, featured in Correspondance, 1944-1959
We got couples counseling and family counseling, can we get a friends and community circle counselor too please?

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Another thing I learned:
I can actually tell the difference between someone hurting me or exerting some form of control as some misguided protective effort because they care about my wellbeing and someone doing the same thing but because of misguided perception that my best interest are competing with their interests.
Mornings are the hardest. I wake up every day feeling like I just got up after a thorough beat down. I ache and groan and wail and replay the events in my head until I can muster a sliver of will to claw my way back to life. I spend the rest of the day stumbling around, two parts inside me fighting between the overwhelming desire to collapse into giving up and survival instincts desiring to live life... until a stalemate is reached. Then repeat the next day.