“Dave”

Yes, because physical and mental abuse are distinctly different, but like I’ve already shown, “narcissistic” abuse is not. Ironically, you just want to be special and set yourself apart from fellow victims of abuse. You also likely seek comfort in the idea that your abuser was innately flawed because you don’t want to accept any personal blame (rightly or wrongly, depending on the validity of the abuse allegations in question.)

"Narcissistic abuse isn't real because victims are to blame"

It's really fucked up especially because the person @aftonsreprise responded to has a blog dedicated to CHILDHOOD ABUSE. Interesting. I would really like to know what blame @nothing0fnothing should have taken in any scenario as a goddamn child.

Narcissistic abuse is perpetuated for a different purpose, enacted in a different manner and has different effects on the people who survive it than non narcissistic abuse. In every way it is different and it is valid for survivors and specialists to acknowledge this.

The only people who would ever imply anyone, but especially a child, had any personal blame in being abused is an abuser.

Abusers hate that we are a community. That we lift each other up and we help each other recover. They hate that together we can spot patterns so that individually we can deny would-be abusers the chance to harm us in the future. They hate that we share resources like studies and guides and personal experiences.

It takes abusing someone to make someone an abuser, by the way. Not disagreeing with you and your mutuals on fucking Tumblr.

Show me where I specifically accused you of claiming "your parents 100% did not abuse you". I did not. You're a liar. You're lying now. If you wanted to take accountability for what you said, you'd scroll up 2 inches, past the multiple people confirming me and my recap of what you said, and read your own words for yourself. They're unedited. You decided to post them publicly. They're attached to this response as I type it.

How are my disorders contradictory…? I have 2 from separate clusters that don’t contradict. I have been abused in life too, as have a lot of people diagnosed with a personality disorder.

Yes, because physical and mental abuse are distinctly different, but like I’ve already shown, “narcissistic” abuse is not. Ironically, you just want to be special and set yourself apart from fellow victims of abuse. You also likely seek comfort in the idea that your abuser was innately flawed because you don’t want to accept any personal blame (rightly or wrongly, depending on the validity of the abuse allegations in question.)

"Narcissistic abuse isn't real because victims are to blame"

It's really fucked up especially because the person @aftonsreprise responded to has a blog dedicated to CHILDHOOD ABUSE. Interesting. I would really like to know what blame @nothing0fnothing should have taken in any scenario as a goddamn child.

Narcissistic abuse is perpetuated for a different purpose, enacted in a different manner and has different effects on the people who survive it than non narcissistic abuse. In every way it is different and it is valid for survivors and specialists to acknowledge this.

The only people who would ever imply anyone, but especially a child, had any personal blame in being abused is an abuser.

Abusers hate that we are a community. That we lift each other up and we help each other recover. They hate that together we can spot patterns so that individually we can deny would-be abusers the chance to harm us in the future. They hate that we share resources like studies and guides and personal experiences.

It takes abusing someone to make someone an abuser, by the way. Not disagreeing with you and your mutuals on fucking Tumblr.

I’m not calling myself a freak though… It’s not hypocritical for me to come across as somewhat normal when I don’t pride myself on being the opposite.

I didn’t mention myself being “weirder” in any capacity. I don’t really care for the concept; this isn’t a freak-off in any direction.

I’m not calling myself a freak though… It’s not hypocritical for me to come across as somewhat normal when I don’t pride myself on being the opposite.

Yes, because physical and mental abuse are distinctly different, but like I’ve already shown, “narcissistic” abuse is not. Ironically, you just want to be special and set yourself apart from fellow victims of abuse. You also likely seek comfort in the idea that your abuser was innately flawed because you don’t want to accept any personal blame (rightly or wrongly, depending on the validity of the abuse allegations in question.)

"Narcissistic abuse isn't real because victims are to blame"

It's really fucked up especially because the person @aftonsreprise responded to has a blog dedicated to CHILDHOOD ABUSE. Interesting. I would really like to know what blame @nothing0fnothing should have taken in any scenario as a goddamn child.

Show me where I said that they deserved the abuse, past or present. I critiqued the label they chose in reference to the abuse. I never said that your abuse was not real or that your abusers do not have NPD. I never said that you deserved abuse or could have prevented it. I also never said that an abuser should be protected simply because they have NPD.

"you don't want to accept any personal blame" - that's the exact line putting the blame on @nothing0fnothing you know it

I don’t give a fuck about Tumblr users that “think being hurt and not wanting to open up anymore is a full blown disorder”, but you’re wrong if you think that that the “real” narcissists are the ones posting about how to improve. There are serial killers who have been diagnosed with NPD, and there are decent people who have been diagnosed with NPD.

I said the real SELF-LABELLED Narcissists are posting about improvement. The ones that don't claim the label but do have NPD are absolutely the scary kind that refuse to acknowledge the damage their disorder causes untreated.

This is all anecdotal bullshit. The world does not revolve around you or your experiences.

I acknowledge there are good people with NPD, and those are people doing work to better themselves - not sitting on Tumblr spreading toxic ideologies.

Someone can work to improve themselves and also post on Tumblr disagreeing with you at the same time. In fact, if you’re talking about me, I’m not even diagnosed with NPD, and I do not self-diagnose.

Yes, because physical and mental abuse are distinctly different, but like I’ve already shown, “narcissistic” abuse is not. Ironically, you just want to be special and set yourself apart from fellow victims of abuse. You also likely seek comfort in the idea that your abuser was innately flawed because you don’t want to accept any personal blame (rightly or wrongly, depending on the validity of the abuse allegations in question.)

"Narcissistic abuse isn't real because victims are to blame"

It's really fucked up especially because the person @aftonsreprise responded to has a blog dedicated to CHILDHOOD ABUSE. Interesting. I would really like to know what blame @nothing0fnothing should have taken in any scenario as a goddamn child.

Show me where I said that they deserved the abuse, past or present. I critiqued the label they chose in reference to the abuse. I never said that your abuse was not real or that your abusers do not have NPD. I never said that you deserved abuse or could have prevented it. I also never said that an abuser should be protected simply because they have NPD.

"you don't want to accept any personal blame" - that's the exact line putting the blame on @nothing0fnothing you know it

I don’t give a fuck about Tumblr users that “think being hurt and not wanting to open up anymore is a full blown disorder”, but you’re wrong if you think that that the “real” narcissists are the ones posting about how to improve. There are serial killers who have been diagnosed with NPD, and there are decent people who have been diagnosed with NPD.

I said the real SELF-LABELLED Narcissists are posting about improvement. The ones that don't claim the label but do have NPD are absolutely the scary kind that refuse to acknowledge the damage their disorder causes untreated.

This is all anecdotal bullshit. The world does not revolve around you or your experiences.

Yes, because physical and mental abuse are distinctly different, but like I’ve already shown, “narcissistic” abuse is not. Ironically, you just want to be special and set yourself apart from fellow victims of abuse. You also likely seek comfort in the idea that your abuser was innately flawed because you don’t want to accept any personal blame (rightly or wrongly, depending on the validity of the abuse allegations in question.)

"Narcissistic abuse isn't real because victims are to blame"

It's really fucked up especially because the person @aftonsreprise responded to has a blog dedicated to CHILDHOOD ABUSE. Interesting. I would really like to know what blame @nothing0fnothing should have taken in any scenario as a goddamn child.

Narcissistic abuse is perpetuated for a different purpose, enacted in a different manner and has different effects on the people who survive it than non narcissistic abuse. In every way it is different and it is valid for survivors and specialists to acknowledge this.

The only people who would ever imply anyone, but especially a child, had any personal blame in being abused is an abuser.

Abusers hate that we are a community. That we lift each other up and we help each other recover. They hate that together we can spot patterns so that individually we can deny would-be abusers the chance to harm us in the future. They hate that we share resources like studies and guides and personal experiences.

It takes abusing someone to make someone an abuser, by the way. Not disagreeing with you and your mutuals on fucking Tumblr.

Yes, because physical and mental abuse are distinctly different, but like I’ve already shown, “narcissistic” abuse is not. Ironically, you just want to be special and set yourself apart from fellow victims of abuse. You also likely seek comfort in the idea that your abuser was innately flawed because you don’t want to accept any personal blame (rightly or wrongly, depending on the validity of the abuse allegations in question.)

"Narcissistic abuse isn't real because victims are to blame"

It's really fucked up especially because the person @aftonsreprise responded to has a blog dedicated to CHILDHOOD ABUSE. Interesting. I would really like to know what blame @nothing0fnothing should have taken in any scenario as a goddamn child.

Show me where I said that they deserved the abuse, past or present. I critiqued the label they chose in reference to the abuse. I never said that your abuse was not real or that your abusers do not have NPD. I never said that you deserved abuse or could have prevented it. I also never said that an abuser should be protected simply because they have NPD.

"you don't want to accept any personal blame" - that's the exact line putting the blame on @nothing0fnothing you know it

I don’t give a fuck about Tumblr users that “think being hurt and not wanting to open up anymore is a full blown disorder”, but you’re wrong if you think that that the “real” narcissists are the ones posting about how to improve. There are serial killers who have been diagnosed with NPD, and there are decent people who have been diagnosed with NPD.

Yes, because physical and mental abuse are distinctly different, but like I’ve already shown, “narcissistic” abuse is not. Ironically, you just want to be special and set yourself apart from fellow victims of abuse. You also likely seek comfort in the idea that your abuser was innately flawed because you don’t want to accept any personal blame (rightly or wrongly, depending on the validity of the abuse allegations in question.)

"Narcissistic abuse isn't real because victims are to blame"

It's really fucked up especially because the person @aftonsreprise responded to has a blog dedicated to CHILDHOOD ABUSE. Interesting. I would really like to know what blame @nothing0fnothing should have taken in any scenario as a goddamn child.

Narcissistic abuse is perpetuated for a different purpose, enacted in a different manner and has different effects on the people who survive it than non narcissistic abuse. In every way it is different and it is valid for survivors and specialists to acknowledge this.

How so? You can’t just say things and have them be true.

Yes, because physical and mental abuse are distinctly different, but like I’ve already shown, “narcissistic” abuse is not. Ironically, you just want to be special and set yourself apart from fellow victims of abuse. You also likely seek comfort in the idea that your abuser was innately flawed because you don’t want to accept any personal blame (rightly or wrongly, depending on the validity of the abuse allegations in question.)

"Narcissistic abuse isn't real because victims are to blame"

It's really fucked up especially because the person @aftonsreprise responded to has a blog dedicated to CHILDHOOD ABUSE. Interesting. I would really like to know what blame @nothing0fnothing should have taken in any scenario as a goddamn child.

Show me where I said that they deserved the abuse, past or present. I critiqued the label they chose in reference to the abuse. I never said that your abuse was not real or that your abusers do not have NPD. I never said that you deserved abuse or could have prevented it. I also never said that an abuser should be protected simply because they have NPD.

Yes, because physical and mental abuse are distinctly different, but like I’ve already shown, “narcissistic” abuse is not. Ironically, you just want to be special and set yourself apart from fellow victims of abuse. You also likely seek comfort in the idea that your abuser was innately flawed because you don’t want to accept any personal blame (rightly or wrongly, depending on the validity of the abuse allegations in question.)

"Narcissistic abuse isn't real because victims are to blame"

I never said that the abuse wasn’t real or that you are to blame for the abuse though.