Baeblade's garbage blog

If "transfem" catches on as a label amongst nonbinary afab people, it will make it impossible for us to know who is a safe person to talk about transfem issues with, and who isn't. It will isolate us from having our own community. This was literally the intended function of the term when it was invented by terfs, to make it so transfems can't talk about their experiences. I know the people earnestly identifying as "afab transfem" don't intend for this, but it is what will happen if it catches on.

If you are someone who wants to identify this way anyways, please please please think about why the label calls out to you. If it's because you feel like "not quite a woman," realize what that reveals about how you see us. Transfems don't exist to be your "genderfuck goals," and if you yearn to be seen as an aberration like us, fortunately for you, you'll never know what it's like.

Today I'm thinking about how anglocentric queer communities do not view identities and positionalities as descriptive terms outlining their material circumstances and relationship to society, but rather as items on a menu that are meant to be selected from freely, to build one's Personal Brand and aesthetics.

In such an environment, any assertion of the materiality of a construct, the tangible reality it is meant to connote and communicate, registers as a violence, as "gatekeeping", because the identity was never supposed to be about conveying one's particular state of abjection. It is a toy in a basket, and pleas to consider the meaning of phrases are parsed as slapping one's hand away from something shiny.

So I said, "My ideal dose is basically that I'm holding an erlenmeyer flask of pure estrogen and someone offscreen yells, 'Doctor, you can't!' and I say, 'Just watch me!' and then I drink it and contort violently around and then fall out of frame and when I pop back into frame I'm played by Anne Hathaway."

firefox has very strong anti-tracking protections

advertisers keep trying to find ways around those protections

instead of wasting time and resources fighting all the ways these problems pop up, firefox is trying to remove the need for advertisers to track you at all

if you have this setting on, and you click on an ad (it's only when you click on an ad and interact with the ad's website - it's not counting misclicks), firefox will make a note of it (this is only stored in your browser, firefox is not selling this part)

firefox then encrypts all that data so it can't be traced back to you, before sending those notes to people who count them up

the advertisers will then periodically receive a report that says "hey, x amount of people clicked on your ad in this time frame. you can use this data to decide if this is the right place to put your ad"

hopefully this will get the advertisers the information they want without having to tell them anything about your specific browser history

if this still makes you uncomfortable, the way to opt out is very easy (go to settings -> privacy and security -> web advertising preferences, and uncheck all the boxes)