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Good Behavior Requires A Smart Environment

We usually think of the environment in terms of the landscape, biological systems and the behavior of weather. In general, we prepare for what the seasons bring through the year. When in Oklahoma during the winter, it is wise to keep coats and window scrapers handy. In southern Florida, we pack the sunscreen. Each environment requires a certain plan.

The environments of home, school and work are…

Fred And Wilma Help With Child Behavior Health

Ever hijack a train? I haven’t, but the part of ourselves that goes unchecked will do this to our brains. Ever want to do something scary and hold off, making some sort of excuse? I have. So I talk about it with someone and do the thing. However, young clients have a more direct reasoning for avoiding the scary stuff. It has a lot to do with trust issues. What!? Children who come to counseling…

The jungle we often see portrayed in movies and television would scare the hell out of most people. It’s understandable. There are wild animals in there. Who would want to mess with tigers and lions? Those beasts will eat you. Everyone knows this. No one has to be convinced. The jungle is a killing field.

Of course in everyday life, we experience a different kind of jungle. Neither the assaults…

Dog Ownership and Goals Management

I have always found that in order complete a desired goal or take care of business, there are behaviors which need to be trained and ingrained. These are necessary and exclusive to the related tasks. Why? Because achievements big and small take persistence, commitment and a sense of ownership of the daily efforts. A person’s desire can only do so much. A goal-setting behavior that is repeatedly…

davidpeace:

Excellent post on the subject of determination.

Originally posted on Darla Carmoney LLPC:

Today’s blog is about determination. I have seen people change their lives through determination. I, myself, have used determination before my back surgery to get up everyday and walk even though it took me a long time to get from point A to point B, I still got up and did what I had to do. Even…

It feels good to write a post about how I conquered my social awkwardness. And you wouldn’t believe the freedom it brings! I used to be the guy who searched for an elusive item at the store and grow frustrated, not wanting to bother with asking a clerk or any other store worker. I didn’t want to face someone’s manner of impatience. Now, I don’t give myself two seconds to look for anything. There…

Freedom tastes better every day!

How to Crush a Monster

Stop covering your head when someone yells at you in anger.

Stop thinking you have to hit the person who is threatening you. It’s fine for a two-year-old. Little bitty kids don’t have a grasp on the difference between words and reality. 

Monsters come in many forms. Anything that invokes fear and anxiety is a monster. 

Communicate your fear or uncertainty to the very next pair of ears. If one…

How to increase confidence.

You know the phrase “Knowledge is power.”

The awareness of your family members’ personality traits is knowledge worth seeking. And it just takes a little more effort to pay attention.

Quite a few people, especially kids in a chaotic home environment have the unfortunate life of being sideswiped by peoples reactions to emotional triggers. Mom flies off the handle when things don’t go a certain way.

The Big Feet of Ego

No matter where you are from or how you were raised, you have a personal set of values.

It does not matter what family you were raised in.

It does not matter what your parents and siblings like to do or don’t like to do.

It does not matter what your school colors are.  You alone have a unique set of values.

Your value system is what determines how you respond to situations in school and in social…

Focus on goals or stress?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K6elow7Fk1s

We equate stress with obstacles, so it is a natural tendency to wear stress like a pair of glasses, only seeing the very part of life that get in our way.  What we end up missing out on, are the precious parts of life.

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A lesson in Love: A Boy, A Fire and the Matchsticks

A lesson in Love: A Boy, A Fire and the Matchsticks.