So I guess I should make it official since it’s been like this for a while but just never made a post about it. This blog is pretty much closed, or archived if that’s the way you want to see it.
I first made this blog as a way for me to explore my own identity when I came out as ace but also to help others and give back to the community. Over time I no longer personally needed it but was still happy being there for others. Other mods joined for various amount of times but al left though that’s pretty much on me as I did not wish to relinquish control once the one mod who I actually knew left I was the only one answering questions.
As for my personal journey I pretty much just identify as queer and in person if I feel like it, gay. I still see myself as part of the ace community but over time as I became more open in person, found more queer friends and discovered more about myself I no longer needed to differentiate. I still consider all aces part of the queer community and people who pull receipts on a few homophobic, transphobic, racism (etc.) aces as a way to exclude everyone or more often, “just the cishets” seem to forget the huge amount of racist, biphobic, transphobic gay people. Different parts of the community all have the issues and I don’t think we should have to pull out a bunch of research explaining many who identify as ace used to fit under the bi label and so on.
There is a lot more I could say, but I think the main thing is remember to speak with people you can trust, if you don’t have someone, try and find someone new, family or irl/online friends. There’s a lot of family I’m not out too and some people I’m partially out too and feign ignorance to educated them (which I shouldn’t have to but at least it works). It’s a crazy world and it’s not always great but I’ve been able to surround myself with people I love that understand or at least try. Remember the loud voice of a handful of terfs or aphobes don’t represent what the world is like.
I wish you all well in this new year and hope you all find happiness even if it’s in small ways. The final thing I would like to share is on NYE I went to a party and got to kiss two girls who both know I’m queer so TWENTYGAYTEEN is real.
Peace!
