Education

Interaction with the Sr. Mae

It wasn’t my first time to interact with a religious person. My TREDONE professor is a nun and when the TREDONE curriculum required us to have a community service, I rendered my service into the nearest convent in our place. However, I realized that I never had a one-on-one or heart-to-heart conversation with them. I never had the chance to ask them about their life, about their choice.

That’s why i am thankful for LaSallian Mission Week for giving us the opportunity to have a little personal interaction with them. Our interaction was short because I only had a time to go there around 5:00pm and Sr. Mae told me that they were just waiting for the bus that will fetch them. And so, I decided to ask the important questions that I really wanted to know.

Just a brief introduction about her. She is Sr. Mae. She’s an alumna of De La Salle University. She worked for a while before she responded to the calling of God. She is currently taking her masters degree of education. She told me it is her passion to teach. 

I asked the most obvious question: “Why did you choose that vocation?” She said that it wasn’t really her 100% choice but it was purely God’s. And there, she told me her story. When she was a child, she really admired the nuns for their self-less act. The thought then hit her. “Should I be a religious person? But I had dreams for my family.” That time, she chose her family, but the thought still haunts her. And the years passed by ~ She had a one-week boyfriend when she confessed to the priest. The priest told her (non-verbatim) “Are you really sure you’re going to be a nun? I can see that you will become a nun.” She cried and the supposed-to-be 15minute confession with the priest became an hour. And the rest is history....

I also asked her if ever she had regrets or doubts. “REGRETS? NONE AT ALL.” But she told me she had doubts. (Only little doubts) And every time she had doubts, she just think that she is in LQ with the Lord.

The last question I asked is “What keeps you holding on to your vocation?” I liked what she answered in my question. She told me that to be honest, she doesn’t really know what keeps her holding on but she knows that whatever it is, it brought her to the right path.

This short interaction with a religious person made me realize a lot of things. I realized that we, human beings, may have plans but there is only one person who can assure you what’s best for you, it is God. You may have everything planned already but God’s plan will always prevail because it is best for you. And so, from that day on, I prayed to God: “I will leave it up to You.”

Analysis (Part 2 of 2)

Concept # 51: Mentor (person who serves as a role model to help other employees gain valuable advice on roles to play and behaviors to avoid)

Rancho is the group’s mentor. He supports his friends and gives advice about their problems. He is the problem-solver and his friends run into him when they need him. He also teaches them his perceptions of life, satisfaction and happiness. he inspires them to do what they want and to never give up.

Concept:  Role Conflict (feeling that arises when others have different perceptions or expectation of a person’s role)

This happens to Farhan. His father wants him to become an Engineer but he really wants to become a wildlife photographer. Because of that, his father persuaded him to go to an engineering school even though he does not want it. In the end, Farhan admitted to his father what he really wants and his father refuses to accept it at first. (1:59:20 to 2:02:50)

Concept # 52: Status System (hierarchies of status that define employee rank relative to other in the group)

Analysis (Part 1 of 2)

Concept # 45: Status Symbol (Visible external things that attach to a person or workplace and serve as evidence of social rank)

This was shown in the movie by Professor Virus, the head of the school. He has this astronaut ballpen found in his suit pocket which symbolized excellence and he is to give to a student who he found extraordinary (21:21 to 22:00). He later gave it to Rancho when Rancho helped Pia’s sister to get birth (2:35:00 to 2:37:00). Lastly, this was shown by Pia’s supposed-to-be-husband, Suhas, wherein he thinks that it is humiliating if his visitors found that Pia is wearing an ancient cheap watch (47:30 to 48:00). 

Concept: Autocratic model (managerial view that power and formal authority are necessary to control employee behavior)

Their school policy exhibits an autocratic model. They believe that putting much pressure will result into a successful student. Therefore, students need to follow or else they will rusticated from the school. The school is also pushing the students to perform good in school so that they will become an Engineer someday.Through that, it will reflect the school’s reputation especially that they ranked the first to be the finest Engineering school in their country.

Concept:  System Model (Managerial view that employees are concerned about finding meaning at work; having a work context infused with integrity, trust, and a sense of community; and receiving care and compassion from managers)

Their friendship is a system model. Even though sometimes it is Rancho’s fault that Raju and Farhan gets into an accident, they never blame each other. There are many times that their friendship was tested yet in the end, it is still the three that goes together in the end. Also, even though Rancho is not seeing the two anymore, he is letting the kids in his new owned-school see his friend’s works such as Raju’s Concept # 46 blog (online diaries or journals created and updated frequently by individuals to express their personal thoughts, musings, and commentaries on topics of interest) and Farhan’s book about animals. Their group has find meaning in life because of the challenges they have faced that apparently, gave them lessons.

Concept # 47: Jargon (specialized language of a group)

The three friends’ jargon was “aal izz well”. They learned it from Rancho who thinks that saying that would calm one’s feelings. He also believed that it will make you feel secure every time you are scared .That is why the group says it every time they encounter a problem for it is belived that it gives courage in facing such problem. (30:00 to 31:00)

Concept # 48: Difficult task (occasionally managers are charged with performing distasteful tasks that predictably result in conflict)

There was a conflict between Professor Virus and a student, Joy Lobo. Joy Lobo thinks that he will be graduating soon because he has only one but hard project. However, Professor Virus thinks that his project is unrealistic and stupid and even told Joy Lobo’s father through the phone that he will not graduate that year (27:00 to 29:00). Because of the difficulty of requirements and tasks, Joy Lobo chose to end his life (35:00 to 36:00).

Concept # 49: Different sets of values (people hold different beliefs and adhere to different value systems) & Contrasting perceptions (people perceive things differently as a result of their prior experiences and expectations)

These are the two main reasons why there is a conflict between Rancho and Professor Virus. Professor Virus values power and excellence while Rancho values passion and life. Also, they have contrasting perceptions on how to teach the students. Professor Virus believes that putting pressure would make students work. However, Rancho thinks that they should just take things easily and peacefully. They should not make it hard for the students to study.

Concept: Achievement Motivation (is a drive some people have to pursue and attain challenging goals)

Chatur used this motivation to get what he wants ten years after college. He wanted to become rich and to prove to the three idiots that he can stand alone. He worked hard and as a result he got his own mansion and Lamborghini. Enjoying winning achievement through his own effort is also a sign that he is achievement-motivated. (1:04:00 to 1:06:30)

Concept: Credibility Gap (there is a difference between what someone say and does) 

This happens to Rancho when he advised his friends to follow their real dreams and to be confident with themselves where in fact, he can’t be confident enough to express his feelings for Pia. He also told Raju that he is just a coward but Rancho too was a coward for not admitting his feelings to Pia.(1:40:00 to 1:42:00)

Concept # 50: Intrinsic Motivators (internal rewards that a person feels when performing a job)

Film # 15: Three Idiots (2009)

Last but definitely, not the least for it is my most favorite movie forever.

Farhan Qureshi (R. Madhavan) narrates the misadventures he had with his friends, Raju Rastogi (Sharman Joshi), and Ranchoddas "Rancho" Shamaldas Chanchad (Aamir Khan), who were all students at the Imperial College of Engineering, one of the best colleges in India. Farhan wants to become a wildlife photographer, but is pursuing an engineering degree to appease his father. Raju works towards the degree because he needs to improve his family's financial situation, and Rancho is unique in actually taking joy in building machines. Rancho incurs the wrath of college's dean, Professor Viru Sahastrabuddhe a.k.a. 'Virus' (Boman Irani), by giving creative and unorthodox answers in class and living by the philosophy that one should pursue excellence, not success, as success will happen if excellence is achieved. Rancho later blames the rote-learning mentality promoted by the institution for the suicide of fellow student Joy Lobo.

Virus is described as a real hardass - so hard, in fact, that he caused his son's suicide by his pressure, and cares nothing about it. He has trained himself to write simultaneously with both hands, and has a 7.5-minute power nap every day at the same time, during which his servant shaves him.

Rancho's signature motto is "All is well", a chant used for the theme song of the movie, and which has magical effects at several plot points.

Virus's model student is Chatur Ramalingam (Omi Vaidya), not-so-affectionately known as "Silencer" for his silent but malodorous farts. Chatur impresses his professors by excelling at rote recitation. When given a chance to present a speech praising Professor Sahastrabuddhe (Virus) before the college faculty and donors, he chooses to present the speech in formal Hindi, despite his limited fluency in the language; he overcomes this by having a librarian write the speech, which he memorizes without comprehension. Rancho modifies the written speech by replacing praise with obscenity; Chatur obliviously memorizes and delivers the modified speech. Rancho is thus able to humiliate Chatur while simultaneously demonstrating to Raju and Farhan the limitations of learning by rote.

Meanwhile, Rancho falls in love with Virus' daughter Pia (Kareena Kapoor), a doctor, whom the trio meet when they gatecrash a wedding, unaware that the bride is Virus's other daughter, Mona (Mona Singh). Rancho is horrified to find that Pia is engaged to a mindless and money-mad man, Suhas (Olivier Sanjay Lafont), and offers to demonstrate to her that her fiancé only cares about the value of things. "He'll tell you how much his shoes cost himself," he promises. He spills mint sauce on Suhas' shoes due to which he yells, "My $300 shoes! Italian leather!" wails the fiancé.

The trio get up to all kinds of boyish japes, usually in tit-for-tat reactive revenge for some action of the disciplinarian Virus. Finally, Farhan and Raju pee on the door of his house but Virus sees Raju and the next day he calls Raju to his office. Virus tells Raju to type a letter to his parents informing them about his termination from college and unable to handle it Raju commits suicide by jumping from the window. He is taken to hospital and due to his injuries he can hear people but cannot respond or move his body. Finally Raju recovers and realizes that he has always been afraid with the challenges of his life. Raju goes for a job interview which every engineering student has to do for their future job before graduating. He eventually gets accepted but virus gets furious when he discovers this and in revenge Virus writes the questions for Raju's final exam so that Raju will fail, and cannot graduate. Meanwhile Farhan is convinced by Rancho to go tell his dad what he really wants to be is a wildlife photographer. Therefore Farhan goes to his father, Mr. Qureshi (Pareekshit Sahani)and is able to convince him. Fearing that Raju will not get the job he needs so that his sister can marry and his crippled father be supported, Rancho and Farhan steal the questions, but they are caught later and Virus sentences them to expulsion.

Virus's daughter Pia reveals that she gave the keys of his office to Rancho and Farhan so they can steal the questions. When virus asked her the reason then Pia angrily tells him he was responsible for the death of her brother. Her brother had wanted to pursue literature and become a writer; however, under Virus' insistence he failed the ICE exam three times and committed suicide, unable to bear the pressure placed on him by his father – who has always thought his death an accident.

The three earn a reprieve when Virus' pregnant elder daughter Mona goes into emergency labour; as Virus tries to rush her to hospital a heavy storm cuts electricity. Pia, the only person with medical expertise, has left the house and is unable to return owing to the thunderstorm. Rancho and his friends rush Mona into the college common room where they deliver the baby via Voice over IP to Pia, during which Rancho restores power using car batteries and a power inverter he has devised himself to convert a vacuum cleaner as a suction device.

After the baby is apparently stillborn, Rancho resuscitates it by using his signature quote "All is well" and the apparently moribund baby responds and wakes. In gratitude Virus allows the trio to take their final exams. Rancho attains the top ranking in the institution and is awarded Virus's prize pen, retained for an especially-capable student.

But the trio have discovered a mystery - Rancho is not Rancho: another man with the same name now has credit for his study and exams.

Ten years later, Rancho has vanished without trace. In their search for him, Raju and Farhan take Pia from the middle of her wedding to Suhas, and drive her to Ladakh, where they see inventions resembling those of Rancho at a creative village school. Accompanying them is Chatur, who has managed to freeload onto Raju and Farhan over the course of their journey. The four find the man behind the distinctive inventions, who turns out to be Rancho. When they ask him to reveal his real name, he identifies himself as Phunsukh Wangdu, Chatur's prospective business partner and a world-famous, reclusive scientist. Upon learning this, Chatur is horrified and begs Phunsukh/Rancho to establish the business relationship – just after he had forced him to sign a declaration of defeat and attempted to humiliate him, apparently to no effect.

The film ends with Chatur chasing Rancho and his friends and this scene resembles the philosophy of Rancho that "Excellence ke pichhe bhaago, kaamyaabi jhag maar ke pichhe aayegi" (Run for the 'Excellence' and 'Success' will anyhow chase you).

SOURCE: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/3_Idiots

Film # 14: 10 Things I Hate About You (1999)

Meet the Stratford sisters: pretty and popular Bianca, who has never had a date; and Kat, her older sibling, an ill-tempered harridan whose acerbic wit is matched only by her steadfast determination to alienate any guy who might be remotely interested in her. Unfortunately, strict rules in the Stratford household forbid Bianca from having a boyfriend until her odious sister has one of her own-a situation that seems highly improbable considering Kat is a social disaster. Bianca's desperation for romance turns into a convoluted scheme to match Kat with her male equivalent--a guy whose reputation is so infamous, Kat might rise to the challenge and find him worthy of her concealed charms. Mating mayhem ensues when Patrick Verona -- a sullen young man with a mysterious past -- is bribed by Bianca's wannabe boyfriend to woo and win Kat, in order to clear the way for Bianca to begin dating.

SOURCE: http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0147800/?ref_=ttpl_pl_tt

Analysis

Concept # 41: Legitimate Power (power that is delegated legitimately from higher-established authorities to others)

Mr. Stratford, the siblings’ father, has the legitimate power over them. Since he is the father of the two, the siblings are bound to obey his rules specifically (in the movie) the dating rule. He does not allow his younger daughter, Bianca, to date unless the older one, Kat, will (Conditional stroke)

Concept # 42: Personality clashes (source of conflict; not everyone thinks, feels, looks, or acts alike)

This is why the two sisters are always fighting. Kat doesn’t want to do what everyone does. she hates prom, parties, dating and people. Unlike her sister, Bianca wants to be in. She wants to do what everyone is doing such as parties, prom and dating. The two are very different that’s why they usually fight. 

Concept # 43: Contrasting perceptions (people perceive things differently as a result of their prior experiences and expectations)

This is the source of conflict of Kat and her literature black professor. They view things differently. They have contrasting opinions in a certain literature piece. One day, Kat suggested a certain literature concept about their homework because she thinks it is better but her professor doesn’t think it is so the professor sent her out of the room.

Concept # 44: Coercive Power (capacity to punish another, or at least to create a perceived threat to do so)

In line with concept # 43, Kat’s professor has the coercive power to sent her out of the class because he is a professor who students obey or else their grades will be affected.

Concept: Hidden agenda (private emotions and motives of group members)

Film # 13: Beastly (2011)

Kyle Kingson (Alex Pettyfer), the arrogant and vain son of wealthy and equally arrogant and vain news anchor Rob Kingson (Peter Krause), bullies the witch Kendra Hilferty (Mary-Kate Olsen) who magically transforms handsome Kyle into a bald, tattooed, and scarred shell. If Kyle does not find someone who loves him by the next spring he will remain in this ugly state forever. Kyle is taken to live in a private house with their maid Zola Davies (Lisa Gay Hamilton) and the blind tutor Will (Neil Patrick Harris). Both are a comfort to Kyle when his father begins to neglect him.

As spring draws closer, Kyle finds himself infatuated with Lindy Taylor (Vanessa Hudgens), a girl from whom he had kept his distance at his former school. He sees her father, a drug addict, engaged in an altercation with two drug dealers and shoots one dead while the other vows to kill Lindy. "Hunter" (Kyle) persuades Lindy’s father to allow her to move in with Kyle. Lindy is furious about hiding and doesn't speak to Kyle. But, eventually, Kyle reveals his state, and they begin to warm up to each other. Kyle writes a letter professing his love for Lindy but does not give it to her for fear of rejection. He visits Kendra to plead for more time; she refuses, but agrees to restore Will's vision and grant green cards to Zola's three children in Jamaica if he gets Lindy to fall in love with him.

The criminal who threatened Lindy’s life lands in jail. Lindy’s father overdoses and is in the hospital. Kyle permits Lindy to leave and see her father and drives her to the station. He gives her the letter but regrets doing so as she tells him he’s a good friend. Lindy calls him after reading the letter, but being heartbroken Kyle does not answer the phone. Persuaded by Will and Zola, Kyle goes to meet Lindy one last time before she leaves on a school trip to Machu Picchu. Kyle tells her to go, and as she leaves, Lindy professes her love for "Hunter" (Kyle), saying the words "I Love You" to break Kyle's "Hunter" curse. Kyle’s normal self is restored, and Lindy runs out looking for "Hunter". But Lindy does not recognize him until she calls Hunter's phone, and Kyle's phone starts ringing. When Lindy realizes that Hunter is in fact Kyle the two share a passionate kiss in the side of the street.

Will wakes up one morning and can see again and Zola finds three green cards for her children in the mail from the government. Kendra approaches Rob Kingson's office as a new intern, implying that Kendra will likely do the same thing to Rob as she did to Kyle. Then, in the credits, we see Lindy and Kyle on holiday together in different countries

SOURCE: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Beastly_%28film%29

Analysis

Concept # 38: Narcissism (a personality trait, often negative, that causes a person to focus on their own needs and self-importance, personal gains and favors to the detriment of others)

Kyle is a narcissistic person. He thinks highly of himself that he tends to bully or outcast the lower or ugly-looking ones. He is so sure of himself that he already knew he will win in the election. He acquired it from his father, news anchor Rob Kingson, who is also narcissistic. He just thinks of himself that he should have a good image (face-saving) so he hid Kyle, his own son, when he transformed into a beast.

Concept # 39: Punishment (Unfavorable consequence that accompanies behavior and discourages repetition of the behavior)

Film # 12: Divergent (2014)

Set in a futuristic dystopia where society is divided into five factions that each represent a different virtue, teenagers have to decide if they want to stay in their faction or switch to another - for the rest of their lives. Tris Prior makes a choice that surprises everyone. Then Tris and her fellow faction-members have to live through a highly competitive initiation process to live out the choice they have made. They must undergo extreme physical and intense psychological tests, that transform them all. But Tris has a secret that she is Divergent, which means she doesn't fit into any one group. If anyone knew, it would mean a certain death. As she discovers a growing conflict that threatens to unravel her seemingly peaceful society, this secret might help her save the people she loves... or it might destroy her.

SOURCE: http://www.imdb.com/title/tt1840309/

Analysis

Concept # 35: Formal groups (Groups established by organization that have a public identity and goal to achieve)

Sixteen-year-olds are to decide whether they want to stay or transfer from one faction to another. An aptitude test will be given to them to help them in their decision. There are five formal groups or faction in the movie: Abnegation, for the selfless; Amity, for the peaceful; Candor, for the honest; Dauntless, for the brave; and Erudite, for the intellectual. 

Concept # 36: Manipulation of people (The use of organizational behavior knowledge and techniques to make people act in unethical ways or for one’s personal gain)

Jeanine, the Erudite leader, manipulated the Dauntless to attack the Abnegation. The Erudite are in conflict with the Abnegation because of the rumors that the latter is hoarding supplies. Also, Erudites are against Abnegation leadership in the city's government. There, Jeanine used the Dauntless initiates to kill the people in Abnegation. 

Concept # 37: Organizational Silence (consciously or unconsciously withholding information about potential problems or issues)

Film # 11: A Walk to Remember (2002)

In Beaufort, North Carolina, a prank on a student goes terribly wrong and puts the student in the hospital. Landon Carter, a popular student with no defined plans for the future, is held responsible and forced to participate in after-school community service activities as punishment, which include starring as the lead in the school play. Also participating in these activities is Jamie Sullivan, the reverend's daughter who has great ambitions and nothing in common with Landon. When Landon decides he wants to take his activities seriously, he asks Jamie for help and begins to spend most of his time with her. But he starts to develop strong feelings for her, something he did not expect to do. The two start a relationship, much to the chagrin of Landon's old popular friends and Jamie's strict reverend father. But when a heart-breaking secret becomes known that puts their relationship to the test, it is then that Landon and Jamie realize the true meaning of love and fate.

SOURCE: http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0281358/

Concept:  Credibility Gap (there is a difference between what someone say and does)

It happened in Jamie’s father. Jamie’s father is a reverend and he teaches about faith. However, he does not have faith in Landon. He does not believe that Landon is a good influence to Jamie.

Concept # 33: Face-saving (drive to maintain a desired image)

This happened to Landon. When Jamie approached him at school with his friends, he dumped Jamie even though they are talking outside the school. It is because he is saving his image to his friends. He thinks that his friends will tease him because he is talking to the girl they bully within their group.

Concept # 34: Hidden agenda (private emotions and motives of group members)

Film # 10: The Proposal (2009)

When high-powered book editor Margaret faces deportation to her native Canada, the quick-thinking exec declares that she's actually engaged to her unsuspecting put-upon assistant Andrew, who she's tormented for years. He agrees to participate in the charade, but with a few conditions of his own. The unlikely couple heads to Alaska to meet his quirky family, and the always-in-control city girl finds herself in one comedic fish-out-of-water situation after another. With an impromptu wedding in the works and an immigration official on their tails, Margaret and Andrew reluctantly vow to stick to the plan despite the precarious consequences.

SOURCE: http://www.rottentomatoes.com/m/10010458-proposal

Analysis

Concept # 29: Electronic Grapevine (this system can speed the transmission of more units of information within electronic grapevine in a very short time.)

This happens inside the office. whenever Margaret arrives, someone will send a message using their computers and everyone will act busy and seriously. Also, this happened when Andrew sent a message to everyone that Margaret’s not in a good mood or angry. Everyone was able to know what’s happening by using electronic grapevine. Another example of grapevine is when someone told everyone that Andrew’s going to marry Margaret using the computer.

Concept # 30: Theory X (traditional set of assumptions about people; most people dislike work and will try to avoid it if they can)

Margaret is a Theory X manager. She believes that employees are lazy and irresponsible that’s why she fired this certain employee when he wasn’t able to do what she assigned him to do. Margaret thinks that she is avoiding the task that’s why he didn’t do it. 

Concept # 31: Autocratic Model (Managerial view that power and formal authority are necessary to control employee behavior)

Margaret is using her power to fire the people she doesn’t want. She is also directive. She always designates and assigns tasks to Andrew. We can also see that Andrew is obeying her orders that he even gave up his grandmother’s birthday because Margaret threatened him.

Concept # 32: Threats to Status (a source of conflict wherein someone threatened someone’s social rank in a group)

Film # 9: The Blind Side (2009)

Based on the true story of Leigh Anne and Sean Tuohy who take in a homeless teenage African-American, Michael "Big Mike" Oher. Michael has no idea who his father is and his mother is a drug addict. Michael has had little formal education and few skills to help him learn. Leigh Anne soon takes charge however, as is her nature, ensuring that the young man has every opportunity to succeed. When he expresses an interest in football, she goes all out to help him, including giving the coach a few ideas on how best to use Michael's skills. They not only provide him with a loving home, but hire a tutor to help him improve his grades to the point where he would qualify for an NCAA Division I athletic scholarship. Michael Oher was the first-round pick of the Baltimore Ravens in the 2009 NFL draft.

SOURCE: http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0878804/

Analysis

Concept # 25: Discrimination (biased treatment of other individuals or groups)

Big Mike, or Michael, felt discriminated at first. He even expressed his thoughts by writing on a paper saying that all the things he see is white; white people, white walls, white paper. He was also discriminated by most of his teachers thinking that he cannot make in on his academics just because of his past records. The two little white girls who are playing on the swing also ran when Big Mike said ‘hi’ to them. (13:50 to 14:50)

Concept # 26: Coach (leadership role in which a leader prepares, guides, facilitates, cheers and directs the team but does not play the game.)

This is portrayed by Burt Cotton, the coach of Wingate Christian School. He instructs the team, especially Michael, of what to do with their match with the other school while he, himself, is not playing for the team. He also prepares them by training them at their football field and cheers them on the game proper.

Concept # 27: Supportive Model (managerial view that leaders should support employees in their attempts to grow in their jobs and to perform well.)

This model is exhibited by the football team that Michael joined into. His coach, being the leader, supports the team, especially him, in their game. He even calls Michael, ‘son’. Another application is their team is strongly motivated because of status and recognition. It would give their school an honor and recognition if they won the game so they really need to support one another and do their best.

Concept # 28: Devil’s advocate (person who challenges the ideas of others, probes for supporting facts, provides constructive criticism, and challenging logic so as to improve the quality of a group decision)

Film # 8: I Am Sam (2001)

Sam Dawson (Sean Penn), a man with a developmental disability, is the single father of Lucy (Dakota Fanning), following their abandonment by her mother, who is revealed to be a homeless woman who "just needed a place to sleep". Despite his limitations, Sam is well-adjusted and has a supportive group of friends with developmental disabilities, as well as a kind,agoraphobic neighbor Annie (Dianne Wiest) who takes care of Lucy when Sam cannot. Though Sam provides a loving and caring environment for precocious Lucy, she soon surpasses his mental ability. Other children tease her for having a "retard" as a father, and she becomes too embarrassed to accept that she is more intellectually advanced than Sam.

On the advice of his friends, Sam approaches a high-powered lawyer, Rita Harrison (Michelle Pfeiffer), whose brusque manner, fast-paced schedule and difficult personal life have earned her a reputation as cold and unfeeling. In an attempt to prove to others that she is not heartless, Rita surprisingly agrees to take on Sam's case pro bono. As they work together to secure Sam's parental rights, Sam unwittingly helps Rita with her family problems, including encouraging her to leave her philandering husband and repairing her fractious relationship with her son. She and Sam have an emotional moment together when they reveal that they never feel good enough.

At the trial, Sam breaks down after opposing counsel convinces him that he is not capable of being a father. After the trial, Lucy resides in a foster home with Randy Carpenter (Laura Dern), but tries to convince Sam to help her run away, and continually escapes in the middle of the night to go to Sam's apartment, whereupon he immediately returns her. Ultimately, the foster family who planned to adopt Lucy decide to return her to Sam, with an arrangement that Randy will help him raise her.

The final scene depicts a soccer game, which Sam referees and in which Lucy participates as a player. In attendance are the foster family, Sam's friendship group, and a newly-single Rita with her son.

SOURCE: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/I_Am_Sam

Analysis

Concept # 22: Role Conflict (feeling that arises when others have different perceptions or expectation of a person’s role)

This is what happens between the people around Sam. His friends, neighbor, lawyer and even himself thinks that he can be a father to Lucy despite his disability. They think that only Sam can give the love of a father that Lucy can receive. However, the foster family who plans to adopt Lucy obviously did not think that Sam can do it. They believe that if Sam loves Lucy he should think that Lucy deserves better. Through that, the conflict was brought to the court.

Concept # 23: Credibility Gap (there is a difference between what someone say and does)

This exists when the lawyer, Rita, told her colleagues that she is taking Sam’s case pro borno even though she is not (well, at first) She also did this when she told her colleagues that everything is just okay when in fact, she just scolded her secretary the moment before. This also happened to Sam when he really wants his daughter to be with him but he’s giving up and not trying anymore.

Concept # 24: Emotional Intelligence (a combination of abilities-to be aware of and understand one’s own feelings, to realize why one is feeling that way, and to manage one’s emotions effectively as well as manage the feelings of others)

This was exhibited by Rita. She knows in herself that something is wrong within her family and marriage yet she was still able to control her emotions at work. Also, she knows how to manage Sam’s feelings knowing that he has some disabilities. 

Concept: Personal barriers (communication interference that arise from human emotions, values, and poor listening habits)

Film # 7: The Amazing Spider-Man (2012)

Peter Parker (Garfield) is an outcast high schooler who was abandoned by his parents as a boy, leaving him to be raised by his Uncle Ben (Sheen) and Aunt May (Field). Like most teenagers, Peter is trying to figure out who he is and how he got to be the person he is today. Peter is also finding his way with his first high school crush, Gwen Stacy (Stone), and together, they struggle with love, commitment, and secrets. As Peter discovers a mysterious briefcase that belonged to his father, he begins a quest to understand his parents' disappearance - leading him directly to Oscorp and the lab of Dr. Curt Connors (Ifans), his father's former partner. As Spider-Man is set on a collision course with Connors' alter-ego, The Lizard, Peter will make life-altering choices to use his powers and shape his destiny to become a hero.

SOURCE: http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0948470/

Analysis

Concept # 19: Filtering (reducing a communication to a few basic details that can be remembered and passed on to others)

This is what Dr. Connors did to Peter when they first met. He filtered the information he told Peter about his work with Peter’s father as if there is no problem between the two. Because of that, Peter helped Dr. Connors solve his experiment believing that Dr. Connors is a good friend of his father.

Concept # 20: Grief (complex set of emotional, physical, and social responses to a substantial loss in one’s life)

This is what Peter Parker (even me, while watching huhuhu) felt when Uncle Ben died. It affected him so much that he almost punched his bully schoolmate even though that schoolmate only wanted to say sorry about his loss. This is also what Gwen felt when his father died. 

Concept # 21: Mutual Trust (mutual faith in the responsibility and actions of all parties involved in are relationship)

FILM # 6: She’s Out of My League (2010)

Kirk Kettner (Jay Baruchel) is a twenty-something TSA officer employed at thePittsburgh International Airport along with his friends, fellow TSA officer Stainer (T. J. Miller), airline reservations agent Devon (Nate Torrence), and baggage handler Jack (Mike Vogel). Kirk has a poor track record with dating and is hoping to reconcile with his self-centered ex-girlfriend, Marnie (Lindsay Sloane), who despite having broken up with him two years earlier, and having since found a new boyfriend Ron (Hayes MacArthur), has remained close with Kirk's parents (Debra Jo Rupp and Adam LeFevre), brother Dylan (Kyle Bornheimer), and pregnant sister-in-law-to-be Debbie (Jessica St. Clair).

At work one morning, an attractive young woman, Molly McCleish (Alice Eve), arrives at the passenger terminal to board a flight to New York City. While proceeding through the TSA security checkpoint, Molly's striking looks attract unwanted attention from several male TSA officers who try flirting with her awkwardly. Kirk is the only TSA officer to treat Molly courteously. On the airplane, she realizes that she accidentally left her cellphone in the airport security area. Calling up her phone, Kirk answers and arranges a time to meet the following evening so that Kirk can return it.

When Devon and Kirk arrive at the Andy Warhol Museum, where Molly, alawyer-turned-event planner, is managing an event, Kirk collides with Molly's sister, Katie (Kim Shaw) and spills his drink on the museum director. Kirk takes the blame for the incident to protect Katie, after which a grateful Molly offers Kirk tickets to a Pittsburgh Penguins hockey game at the Mellon Arena. When Kirk and Stainer meet Molly and her best friend Patty (Krysten Ritter), who develops an immediate mutual loathing with Stainer (he subsequently refers to her as "The Hamburglar"), at the game, Kirk, still convinced Molly is not interested in him, assumes Molly meant to set him up with Patty, until Patty explicitly tells him of Molly's interest.

The two begin to date after this, with Kirk confiding in her his dream of becoming a pilot someday, though Stainer predicts their relationship will fail as he deems Molly a "10" in a scale of attractiveness, and Kirk only a "5", telling him a girl he loved once broke up with him for this very reason. Patty, for her part, believes Molly had only chosen Kirk because he was a "safe" choice after being hurt by her last boyfriend, Air Force pilot Cam (Geoff Stults), who assumes Kirk is a waiter and attempts to order drinks from Kirk when they first meet.

Molly then invites herself to Kirk's family lunch, where she charms his family and even Ron after highly intimidating the men of the house with her looks. Molly's attentions to Kirk stir jealousy in Marnie, who feels upstaged by Molly's attractiveness, and takes a sudden interest in Kirk again.

After returning to Molly's apartment, Kirk ejaculates prematurely in his pants when things start to heat up, just as Molly's parents (played by Alice Eve's real-life parents, Sharon Maughan and Trevor Eve) arrive for a surprise visit. Desperate to conceal the stain on his pants, Kirk seems discourteous by avoiding to stand up and shake hands, and quickly leaves Molly's apartment. Molly grows cool to Kirk after this, believing he fled to avoid meeting her parents. At Jack's urging, Kirk admits the true reasons for his leaving, and their relationship resumes.

During a date, Kirk suggests to Molly that she throw a birthday party for Katie (with music provided by Stainer's Hall & Oatestribute band, "Adult Education"). Kirk is troubled, when Molly is intentionally vague about Kirk's line of work to her parents. To add to his troubles, Molly's macho ex-boyfriend Cam shows up and messes with Kirk by deliberately alluding to Molly having some sort of "defect".

After the party, both of them go back to Molly's apartment and make out where Kirk discovers Molly's "defect" is slightlywebbed toes, which Kirk considers so minor that he decides that she is indeed too perfect for him. Molly is upset that Kirk is so insecure that he felt he could only be with her if something was wrong with her. After telling Kirk that she and Cam had broken up because of his own insecurities, with him even cheating on her, she admits she had indeed asked Kirk out because she considered him safe and breaks up with him.

Kirk leaves and later resumes his relationship with Marnie, planning on a family trip to Branson.

Stainer and Patty realize their mistake in telling Kirk and Molly it wouldn't work out; Stainer tells Kirk that he is a "10" too. They pull Kirk off his plane as the aircraft prepares to depart to Branson as he tries to leave with his family and Marnie, while Patty brings Molly to the airport. Kirk rejects Marnie during an unorthodox airport pursuit and meets Molly in the airport where she tells him that he is out of shape and she asked him out because she thought he was safe and wouldn't hurt her. She then continues to tell him that she doesn't care what he is employed as and that she misses him and wants to be together with him. Kirk and Molly then make up and resume their relationship, even if their friends don't approve it.

Later, as a surprise, Kirk is seen walking on the airport Tarmac with Molly where he takes Molly on a trip in a small plane, with him as the pilot. The couple are last seen happily together in a small plane taking off from Pittsburgh airport.

SOURCE: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/She%27s_Out_of_My_League

Analysis

Concept # 16: Informal Groups (emerge on the basis of common interest, proximity, and friendships.)

Kirk, Stainer, Devon and Jack are having an informal group within their work. Even though they have different tasks or jobs, they are always together when it’s break time or even outside the company. Also, this informal group even helped Kirk and Molly to get back together tin the end. Even though it is not part of their job and even though they violate the  rules, they still did anything they can just to make Kirk and Molly be together again.

Concept # 17: Avoiding (physical or mental withdrawal from the conflict)

This is what Kirk and Molly did to their problem at FIRST. Kirk gets back to his ex-girlfriend, Marnie, even though he know in himself that it is still Molly who got his heart. Molly was just continuing on her work as an event planner even though she knows in herself that she is not okay. If not for their friends plan, they would not be back together and would be both lose in the situation.

Concept # 18: Status anxiety (feelings of being upset because of difference between their actual and desired status levels)

FILM # 5: Love Happens (2009)

Burke Ryan (Aaron Eckhart), is a successful Ph.D. and author of a self-help book that gives advice about dealing with the loss of a loved one. He writes the book after his wife dies in a car accident as a way to deal with the grief. While giving a workshop in Seattle, where his wife was from, he meets Eloise (Jennifer Aniston), a creative floral designer who owns her own flower-shop. It seems, however, that Burke has not been following his own advice, and in fact has not been dealing with the loss of his wife. In the end, he confesses to an audience that he was driving the car, and not his wife, as he previously maintained. Due to this, he blames himself for her death. Eloise, along with his wife's father (Martin Sheen), help Burke move past his wife's death. Burke goes to Eloise, telling her that she had spent the last few days getting to know the part of him that was not available and wondered was she interested in getting to know the part of him that was available.

Source: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Love_Happens

Analysis

Concept # 13: Framing (Using rich, colorful, carefully selected language to shape the perceptions of recipients of a communication)

Burke Ryan was framing his words during his speech and workshop. This is because he doesn’t want the truth about his wife’s death to spill out. He is also doing this because he wants to motivate the people at the same time. His task is to help the people move on from their loss so he is doing inspirational speeches to change people’s feelings and to enlighten them.

Concept # 14: Charisma (leadership characteristic that inspires and influences employees to take early and sustained action to carry out a vision)

Burke Ryan became the people’s leader in moving on because he has this charisma. He is always smiling and he is always there to inspire and motivate people to move on. He was able to influence people of this A-okay thing. He made people follow him because of his charismatic character. 

Concept # 15: Confronting (facing conflict directly and working it thorough to a mutually satisfactory resolution)

Episode 1

Concept # 12: Body Language (people communicate meaning to others with their bodies in interpersonal interaction)

It was shown in the episode when Ted’s best friends are telling him the signs on when to kiss the girl he just met named Robin. His friends told him that the long handshake and their close distance while Robin’s looking at Ted’s lips are the signs that Ted should kiss Robin. There we can see how Robin used her body language to tell Ted that it’s time for him to kiss her. It was just sad that Ted didn’t get that. Instead of being a sign, it then became a barrier.

Episode 3

Concept: System Model (Managerial view that employees are concerned about finding meaning at work; having a work context infused with integrity, trust, and a sense of community; and receiving care and compassion from managers)