VivreMorte

thigh kissing is nice, ass grabbing, thigh gripping, a little passionate teasing takes you far and honestly gets her wetter by the minute 

slow down, take your time at first, dont just dive in, enjoy your meal

that rapid flicking thing doesnt do much for me (i cant speak for every girl) but slow runs across the clit are lovely, just focus on the clit, let your fingers do some work if you get tired or something 

1. Stop the fucking flicking shit.

2. Focus on the CLIT. Suck it, circle it. Engulf it. If she moans, keep doing that.

3. But pls, do visit thighland. Inner thigh licking and kissing will set us on fire.

4. What is this fingering shit? Massage the gspot or get out. We feel nothing with that little stabbing motion. Also, stop sticking your 2 inches of tongue in there. Come back up to the clit.

5. LONG stokes with the tongue.

6. Stop humming. Most of us use vibrators so that little humming trick you learned from GQ will pale in comparison.

7. Speaking of vibes, the reason you’re in our bed is because you can do 1 thing our wands and rabbits can’t do. And that’s grab us. Grab us, squeeze us, we want to feel your hands on our body.

8. If you can reach, grab a titty.

9. Some women are self conscious about how they look/taste/smell down there. Or worry about taking too long to orgasm, so let her know you’re enjoying it. Moan, groan, sound like you’re eating a plate of ribs

I love leaving marks on sexual partners.

Seeing the bruise rise under my hand and then watching it bloom and the fade over the coming days is an almost temporal pleasure.

And I love a bit of choking in sex too; the feeling of life under my hands as it heightens my partner’s pleasure is intoxicating.

However, I don’t have the same love affair with bruises around the throat. You know the ones I mean, there are often photos on here of a cute, slender neck with a vivid violaceous ring around it, tinged with green. It’s objectively stunning.

The unfortunate fact, however, is that the colourful contusions actually demonstrate a lack of skill at best or, at worst, a lack of care. This is because erotic asphyxiation should at no point involve enough force to cause the rupturing of capillaries under pressure from a hand. In fact, that amount of force can have dire consequences.

The pleasure that comes from choking doesn’t derive from having the throat squeezed or indeed having the “air” cut off. The pleasure comes from a lack of blood flow to the brain resulting in a momentary deprivation of oxygen which causes feelings of lightheadedness and a rush of euphoria when oxygen returns. This has the flow-on effect of massively increasing the rush of pleasure from an orgasm.

But the trick to cutting off the blood flow is a gentle squeeze of the carotid artery (located either side of the neck). This requires a frighteningly small amount of pressure and can be done with the absolute minimum of contact. Around 5-10 seconds of firm pressure can almost lead to unconsciousness.

It’s exceptionally effective.

Conversely, choking someone by compressing the windpipe can be truly dangerous. It requires quite a bit of force, a fair bit of time and can result in the actual windpipe collapsing if done too hard. A collapsed windpipe can lead to lifelong injury or even death. You’ll know if you’re doing it because your partner will start to cough. Often, this form of choking results in the deep bruising around the throat which is so popular on Tumblr photos.

So, next time refrain from wrapping a meaty paw around some poor sub’s/top’s throat when trying to choke them. Instead, taking a cool, calm, surgically precise approach to the experience. Take pride in understanding the human body and for not taking a hammer to try to do key-hole surgery.

And for those who enjoy the theatrics of heavy handed choking which makes them look mean, tough and sexy? Consider Sharon Stone in Basic Instinct or Al Pacino in The Godfather; control over oneself is the most intimidating quality of all.

Play safe.

Yours,

The Gentleman