Reasons why someone may identify as bi lesbian (a valid identity!):
a bi woman who experiences rare attraction to men but never enough to date one.
a bi woman who was attracted to a man only once in her life, so he is like an exception.
a woman who is bisexual but monoromantic towards women, or biromantic but monosexual towards women.
a bi woman who is only attracted to non-men and occasionally fem(me) men.
a bi woman who doesnât date men and doesnât intend to ever do so.
a lesbian who formerly was bisexual and now her identity has shifted, and she wants her label to reflect both.
a late-in-life lesbian who is married to a man but is comfortable staying with her husband because of their unique love/companionship.
a poly lesbian whose partnerâs partners (whom they may rendezvous with) may rarely include men.
a lesbian who does not identify as âmonosexualâ or âmonoromaticâ despite only being attracted to non-men, since she feels that she is attracted to multiple non-men genders.
a lesbian in a relationship with a trans man.
a âstraightâ trans man who formerly identified as a masc lesbian and remains in a relationship with a lesbian.
a bi transmasc who prefers to date other transmascs as well as women.
a transfem bi woman who strongly identifies with centering her life around womanhood and wlw love.
a bisexual woman using the pre-separatism meaning of âlesbianâ, back when it was an umbrella term for all sapphics.
a bi butch or a bi femme (as both these terms in the sapphic context can be synonymous to lesbianism).
a bi sapphic that has reclaimed the term âdykeâ, which can also be synonymous to âlesbianâ as well as âsapphicâ.
*I use âwomanâ and âshe/herâ in these examples but this may apply to any genderqueer sapphics as well!
Yes, many of these experiences can be described by using one of âbiâ or âlesbianâ, rather than both in combination. Lesbianism includes many genders plus trans folks! Bisexuality includes all genders including trans folks! Lesbianism is considered monosexual identity, but also in some ways multisexual, and âbi lesbianâ is often used by those who strongly identify with being mspec. Labels are for our comfort in identifying ourselves and our lived experiences, as well as to accurately communicate our identities to others. We shouldnât police them! Queer people are deviant and complex by nature! Rigid rules are for the patriarchy, not us. Labeling conventions are fully arbitrary and we should prioritise what will maximise queer folksâ happiness.
Folks spend a lot of (misplaced) energy hating on the label âbi lesbianâ and want to eradicate it by claiming it is TERF propagandaâhowever thatâs not very nuanced. There are queer elders who use this termâshould we really have the audacity to tell them how to live? Ironically itâs gender essentialist in and of itself to try to put people in a box. We should remember that bisexuals and lesbians originally were all just âlesbiansâ (ie in the same way we use âsapphicâ as an umbrella term today), and it was TERF rhetoric in second-wave feminism that resulted in lesbian separatism. A simple label used by a tiny minority canât cause all kinds of scary lesbophobia, biphobia, and transphobia (as it is, endosex allocishetero people can barely tell bisexuality from lesbianism anyway and donât know a thing about trans people either ;n;)âIf it is a possibility, thatâs our job as a community to fight back misinformation. :)
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