Tips for Finding the Right Medication
If you do decide to pursue medication, the first thing to do is ask your doctor a lot of questions. Ask about side effects, ask about withdrawal, ask about dependence, ask about poop out (which is when some drugs like anti-depressants suddenly stop working). If you have an idea for something that might help, ask your doctor about it. Look on the internet, but don’t let everything on there scare you. I like one website, though I can't guarantee its reliability 100%, but it basically is anything you'd want to know about any medication a psychiatrist will give you: crazymeds.us
Going to any doctor is honestly worthless if you’re going to lie to them, so if you’re committed to this, you have to be committed to honesty, and that means about everything. This includes being honest about any alcohol/drug use, and if they ask if you can reduce your drinking being honest about your ability to do so. You also need to be honest about side effects when you have them; I say when, because you will get them. A lot of them will go away after a few days, but some won’t. It doesn’t help to deny the fact that a drug isn’t working or that its side effects are making your life hell because you think it might be the only solution, because it’s not. There are other ones out there (trust me, you’ll never get through all of them) so there’s no use sticking with one that doesn’t work.
When it comes to side effects, if you're not feeling any improvement in your symptoms ask yourself, "would my life be better without this side effect?" not "can I live with side effect?” It’s a different story if you do feel an improvement in your original symptoms, then you should ask yourself, “is this side effect better than living with depression/anxiety/bipolar/schizophrenia/ADHD/whatever-it’s-fixing?”
You should always tell your doctor about all your side effects no matter what, but there are a few that if they persist should probably be enough cause for you to change your medication (even if you think it’s OK):
·        Insomnia
·        Oversleeping (such that it interferes with daily life)
·        Loss of appetite that leads to significant weight loss
·        Increase in suicidality (this shouldn’t need to be said, but unfortunately not everyone will always realize that this is something that needs to be fixed and won’t just go away on its own)
·        Hallucinations (that you didn’t have before)
·        Mania (if you weren’t manic before)
There are also side effects that fall under the category of not-bad-enough-to-quit-your-meds that you might use as excuses, but shouldn’t:
·        Increase in weight/appetite
·        Decrease in appetite that doesn’t lead to weight loss
·        Some shakiness
·        Not being able to drink alcohol (not really a side effect, but still something you shouldn’t pick over not taking your meds)
Sometimes there are things that can help with side effects, sometimes you can just take a drug less and have the side effects go away but still have a therapeutic effect. Again, though, I’ll emphasize that you MUST talk to your doctor and be honest about everything.
When a drug isn’t doing what it’s supposed to, be skeptical of your doctor if all they want to do is increase your dose, especially if you have persistent side effects. You should also be skeptical if they are unwilling to try more than one drug or immediately switch from one drug to another; sometimes just adding something new will do more good than switching out the old one entirely. Ask your doctor if you have an idea about changing something; they should at least listen to you and explain why they’re prescribing what they’re prescribing. If they don’t do that, find a new doctor. If you don’t feel comfortable with their diagnosis, get a second or third opinion.
Don’t give up if the first, second or third doctor doesn’t work out. Don’t give up if the first, second, or third medication doesn’t work. For me, it took making appointments with more than eight different psychiatrists, actually seeing five of them, three failed medications, and finally a combination of five different medications that I take at six different times during the day to see a real improvement (and that’s slightly better than the stats I have with therapists, but that's for another post). It was all worth it though; I gave up several times throughout my life, and went years without medication when I could have had a HUGE benefit from it.
If you are going to take just a few ideas from this, you need to take these: ask questions, be honest with your doctor, and don’t give up. If you take just one thing from this, it’s don’t give up.It’s something worth repeating: don’t give up. Use it as a mantra if you’re trying to get past side effects, if you’re waiting on hold for a receptionist, if you leave another appointment disappointed, or if nothing seems to be working: don’t give up. Don’t give up. Don’t give up.Â