Going through some private messages and emails and wanted to share a few, but before that I want to let you all know that I’ll be interviewed by another blogger very soon and I will post the link to that as soon as I can. Hopefully it will have some helpful information for you all. With that being said, let’s get into some questions.

dirtymindseeyoho says.. “You have a lot of good information about hotwifing on your blog, gonna use some of your ideas thanks”

Well dirtymind, thank you for the kind words. It’s great to know that I have support of followers like you afterall, this blog was intended to not only digest my journey to get my wife to have some open sexual experiences, it was meant to help others who have the same fantasies. I also appreciate the followup message you sent;

“I got her to submit to me last night… she actually said I submit to you I will do whatever you want me to and i will let you do what you want to do to me. I am yours. It was so hot and erotic first we were just playing around I told her to get on her knees then suck my dick and then I told her I have always wanted to slightly control her in the bedroom and I asked her how she would feel about that so then she proceeded to give me one of the best cock sucking I  ever had.  And then I made her beg me to let her come and I did that with my fingers”

Now some of  you might be thinking “what does that have to do with hotwifing?” and the answer is that if you can be open and honest with EACH OTHER sexually then you can openly discuss your fantasies without fear of being rejected or viewed differently in the eyes of your spouse.

jonesalley38 says.. “Hello I’m trying to get my fiancé into the bdsm lifestyle but she’s extremely strong willed and prudish woman but the other night when we had sex I tried something new, I was sucking and pulling on her tits I decided to choke her, the next thing I knew she was guiding my hand between her legs I never knew her clit could be that swollen or pussy so wet. I at that moment realized that the only thing would be better than this moment is watching another man doing these things to her, I’m I wrong for thinking this way?”

Jones, I’m going to share with this group exactly what I said to you in our private chat. You’re absolutely NOT wrong for thinking like this. This is YOUR fantasy. It’s a feeling that turns you on, and it may or may not be something you can even control. HOWEVER, you need to be open with your fiancee and COMPLETELY honest with her. You can’t just say “hey I want you to have sex with another man”. From personal experience with my wife, who is the same as your fiancee with her strong willed and somewhat prudish mentality, you HAVE TO explain everything and hold nothing back. She has to know how sexy you think she is, and how much you love and trust her, and that will translate into her realizing that you’re not trying to trap her into letting you have sex with another woman later on. I’ve found that, at least in my case, if your wife/fiancee/gf has the slightest bit of doubt of your intentions then she’s likely to blow the whole thing off. Just be completely honest, and remember. REASSURANCE IS THE KEY!

And to wrap up this edition of Q&A, I wanted to share a brief conversation I had with a follower that I found to be pretty exciting. At least for him.

eaglesmit1 started out by saying .. “I’m freaking out! I just sent my new hotwife, (married for 30 years but new to this), out on her first date!”

howtotrainyourhotwifeYeah? Write me and let me know how it goes! I’d love to share your story. Good or bad

eaglesmit1 “Wanted to let you know that I’ll send some details on how it went - but for now: GREAT! Also, my wife and I tend to over-think things so we actually have a written agreement of OUR hotwifing rules. I’ll send that too.

eaglesmit1 “Not too familiar with Tumblr so I guess I can just write you here? Anyway, my wife and I agreed to try hotwifing. The very next day she set up an account on a dating website and found a guy to meet her for lunch. she left, anklet and all, and that was an exciting moment. An hour later she texted saying things were going great and she likes him a lot. After another hour, she asked me to join them - which I did. I found her sitting across from him at the table with her feet up in his lap. He was nervous when he saw me but calmed down once he knew I was ok.with it. He had to leave soon after but she walked him out to his car and was gone for the longest time, (I was so turned on). She came back and said they talked and kissed and he’ll be over Saturday night…”

This is the kind of thing I love to see from my followers, and for those of you who are new to hotwifing, you’re likely not going to tell your wife or significant other that you want her to have sex with another man and have her immediately agree and jump right into it. It will be a LONG and slow journey in most cases, so be patient and don’t rush it. Once you see progress being made, don’t try and push it too fast. If you do, and she becomes scared or annoyed then it could come crashing down on you and she might back off completely! So be patient and take babysteps!