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some of you are saying enemies to lovers when you mean rivals to lovers and some of you are saying enemies to lovers when you mean enemies with benefits. but these are all distinct categories

22degreehalo

See, I feel like there are actually a ton of different archetypes here?

* in-universe-acknowledged Worthy Adversaries who would stop at nothing to kill the other but genuinely respect each other

* metanarrative Worthy Adversaries who genuinely despise each other but are explicitly designed to be matched. Usually a lot of obsession going on.

* stories where the hero genuinely hopes to save the villain (usually in more fantastical stories where the bad guy's actions don't hit too close to home)

* stories where the villain is far more powerful than the hero (who might be just a normal person) and likely kidnaps them or whatever

* people on opposite sides of a conflict who genuinely like each other and wish they didn't have to fight

* two people who personally hate each other but are extremely attracted to each other (and usually end up realising they both judged the other based on their biases) (I think THIS is what a lot of people say is really 'rivals to lovers'...? But I'm honestly not sure.)

* two people who personally hate each other but slowly over time come to understand one another better (arguably should be classified 'enemies to friends to lovers' but not everyone is familiar with that term)

I guess if I had to have an opinion, there are two things that people tend to lean on to define 'Enemies to Lovers': either being on Opposite Sides in some greater conflict, or personally disliking each other. That's why it's hard to sum up easily what does or doesn't qualify, because most EtL ships will have some degree of both going on, and it's only in the extreme cases that people start disagreeing.

#fandom #I mean not necessarily but. close enough as a tag

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crippled-peeper

“you’re a grown ass man and you need help doing that?” some grown ass men are disabled ma’am

crippled-peeper

adult men who are disabled deserve compassion and understanding and support and not just endless verbal abuse from sheltered privileged assholes who think they are punching up let’s be so for real

#gender #ableism

demonius-darkblade

I hear being kind is punk but is it ska? Is being kind ska? I don't care about being kind unless it's ska.

#me #personally from my experience being upbeat is ska #you can be kind of you want but that's your decision 😊

choco-cheese

been playing a lot of sudoku lately…

chuuphic

#laugh rule

markovchaingang

every so often i am reminded that the average leftist's conception of positive masculinity is "someone who can calmly and coolly dispense violence against the people that *i* want them to"

#flashing back to will smith slap wank... 😔#gender

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losing at ⚢chess to various pokédogs: a yuri metaphor

arcanine: you've fallen for some class s "girl roommates kiss in school before they grow up to find men" nonsense. rough.

granbull: it was a well-written & bittersweet yuri tragedy-- had the themes down pat, even if it didn't end up at love in the end. a happy end would have ruined the setup, anyway.

houndoom: you thought a masc woman meant the writer knew what GL was. it's either a taming-of-the-shrew epilogue or a bury-your-gays downer. sucks!

manectric: look i don't even know why you're even here. you're addicted to squeezing blood from a stone by digging for scraps of yuri subtext in most garbage haremslop webnovels imaginable. please. you don't have to do this.

lucario: masterful gambit it was. hard to even be mad. completely and utterly demolished. "yuri webtoon that hard pivoted to het past the paywall"-tier situation. outplayed, pure and simple.

stoutland: the author's held your hand and gently deconstructed the trappings of romance, with you, the reader, still caught in the trap. they've asked you what it means to desire, to find romance, to move through a society as a woman seeking love at all. the female leads have scattered to the four corners of the earth, each representing a shattered preconcieved notion you had about the world around you. you might be aro now.

furfrou: you've been gachabaited.

I just don't really understand how people view 'female villains' as some kind of inherently misogynistic choice indicating that the writer hates women.

Because female villains are really, really uncommon.

For a long ways back, you pretty much never see a woman character as the main antagonist of a story! They could only ever be the sultry side-villain who has an erotically-charged affair with the hero, or the poor brainwashed Mad Scientist's Beautiful Daughter who completely changes sides once she falls in love with the hero!

And that wasn't because those authors were great about women. It was because they didn't take women seriously! They didn't consider women a threat! Women were small and helpless; a hero who beat one up was a jerk, and a hero who couldn't beat one up was laughably pathetic!

And you especially never see or saw female villains with genuine moral conflicts - characters who can't be easily reduced to 'pure evil' or 'actually sweet and good and kind deep down.' Because even now we still struggle with the idea that women have the same level of internal world as men, and thus the same capacity to be confusing and nuanced and weird and partially wrong.

Even in the case of 'the stereotype that all girls hate each other' like... first of all idk guys I feel like I see 'we are Both Women so therefore we are Obviously Friends :)' way more often, in a really dismissive and underexplored kind of way. But when women are portrayed at being at each other's necks, it's always considered a shallow and petty thing: more laughable or irritating than an actual problem.

How often are female characters actually taken seriously enough to be powerful and use that power badly? How often are female characters treated as human beings with their own lives and identities and feelings, and also the one who Fucked Up in a situation? Or the previous, but as actually a Bad Partner for reasons beyond 'Women are such nags! You've got to man up and show her that you're the one wearing the pants in the relationship or they'll never respect you!'

(Because. Unpopular opinion. But men who are taught things like that aren't really being privileged. Because it is very very bad advice that will likely make them unhappy and lonely.)

I just don't see it very often in stories for women to be treated as people capable of sincerely hurting others? And I feel like that's happening even less nowadays than it used to. Because 'girls support girls' (HA.) and we don't need 'manpain' or 'men who constantly need emotional labour' or whatever.

memecucker

Guys I found it, I found the ultimate “cultural Christianity brainrot”

Not being a young earth creationist is cultural Christianity

j4v4r10

You believe in germs, I believe illness is caused by imbalances in the four humors. There's nothing wrong with me believing that, we're both equally correct, and it's awfully CHRISTIAN of you to try to convince me otherwise......

#people really just say things huh #religion

not-terezi-pyrope

GPT 5.6 Sol beat Pokemon FireRed and became champion using solely screenshots of the game, and no special harness or help. Fable apparently also did this, but OpenAI have a video.

These things can just play, understand and win video games now.

When are we going to admit that we have AGI? Like, probably not human level AGI. But these agents can apply general reasoning effectively to any presented problem. This is general intelligence - we have independently acting artificial agents that can apply an artificial general intelligence.

I think we're just not seeing and realizing the inevitable consequences of that yet because the rollout is so new and these AIs are not integrated into general life as much as they at some point will be.

Also, the people who think that AI is suddenly going to disappear when the financial bubble pops are equally absurd. This is a real tangible technological leap that's been achieved here, it's not a hype-driven scam like NFTs. People are still going to be using and pushing this even if the companies currently developing the technology have financial trouble, these assets won't vanish.

sysid-ace

🌂 i look forward to twitch pokemon speedrun races between differently characterized models with loads of dumb fandom shit around all of the Stars and so on once LLMs start fading in how politicized they are

🌂 probably 5 years on from the bubble popping, if i had to guess

22degreehalo

@sysid-ace You almost certainly are already aware of this video, but in the unlikely case that you aren't:

#ofc it isn't QUITE the same but #yeah. funny ais playing games sounds so fun...!#fwiw I neither agree not disagree with the top post because I do not understand enough about llms/AGI to have an opinion #AI

butch-king-frankenstein

unfortunately this comment a TERF made on one of my posts is genuinely hysterical

#laugh rule #slur #why does this sound like a 4chan meme

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smuganimebitch

the entire phonics vs whole language discussion seems strange to me. It's a bunch of people who only have a lay understanding of the topic strongly asserting the phonics position. I have literally never seen anyone earnest defend the whole language position which makes it feel more like a just-so theory about why education standards have dropped. the advocates for whole language are not people, they're faceless institutions and bureaucrats that foolishly threw away perfectly good ways to teach children to read for, apparently no reason at all? i don't know. the entire narrative just stinks and feels too clean and simple. people are saying outright that whole language was introduced specifically to make american teenagers illiterate as some kind of conspiracy and why not? with the way the story is presented it really does sound like one

sysid-ace

🌂 Do you care for dialogue here, or are you just going to view it any input of ours as:

a bunch of people who only have a lay understanding of the topic strongly asserting the phonics position

🌂 I figure I should ask, save us both some time if so, get cracking if not.

smuganimebitch

Well I mean, I'm pretty sure phonics is well supported by science as a critical component for teaching people to read so I don't really need to be convinced on those grounds. What's bugging me more is the historiography of the whole thing: whole language had smart, credentialed people who found it convincing. surely they must have been responding to real problems in education at the time and probably had reasons to think the way they did.

sysid-ace

🌂 whole language, by my understanding, is something that strongly appeals to the intuitions of teachers doing actual classroom work, and something that also seems to create immediately and very rapid results in many kinds of struggling students but in actuality is poisoning their ability to read

🌂 both of these characteristics are bad (or good) enough for explaining how whole language learning was adopted, but you also have to remember that that latter point, the seemingly very good results (that only closer examination would reveal to be false) was very appealing to any budget or manpower strapped schools, and then (this part isn't me supposing it, it's uncontroversial) it spread through something resembling word of mouth to other schools as well

22degreehalo

IIRC (and I'm 90% certain this came from a /r/AskHistorians post but I can't seem to track it down rn :/) phonics was being pushed during an especially conservative US government (Bush 2?) and 'whole language' appealed as a more liberal-seeming alternative, and unfortunately it turned out that this time the conservatives actually got it right.

But overall, yeah, the people pushing this as a broad explanation for all of their cultural pet peeves... Like, no, people struggling to read at all are probably not the ones putting 'bad takes' on Tumblr.

The truth is that people have always had bad opinions on things, and that media literacy has never been good. See: the Satanic Panic of the 80s.

But even if young people today are struggling more... have we really forgotten Covid, already? And I'm referring to both post-viral brain fog and other symptoms as well as to the extreme difficulties many schools had during that period.

And like. I also am a lay person with no specialised knowledge! (I brought it up once to my grandmother, who is a teacher - and this is in Australia anyway fwiw - and she immediately got very irritated and insisted that it was only taught that way for a very brief time for very small groups. Is that true? IDK!) But, at the very least, from the perspective of someone who also tends to be skeptical about these things, it does seem as though this is a thing that did actually happen and probably cause some minimal kind of an effect...?

#language #but no yeah the 'destroying everyone's reading comprehension was the point' people are...#conspiracy theorists. lmao.

geyfrog

Referring to someone as your “partner” sounds as if you are deliberately obscuring their gender and may subtly out you. “My ex”, however, is entirely unobtrusively gender-neutral. #breakupallrelationships

22degreehalo

@funnier-when-aromantic

shuttershocky-deactivated202512

Western passport holders will never understand. To go anywhere with a third worlder passport like a Filipino one, you need your tax returns, certificate of employment, bank statements, marriage certificates, sometimes a recommendation from a citizen of the country you want to travel to, everything possible to prove that you have a job and a family at home and you're not planning to be an illegal immigrant, JUST to get hit with a rejection because the embassy didn't believe you had enough proof.

Did you have travel plans? Already booked the plane tickets and hotels? Fuck you, better hope they issue refunds (they don't).

bloodmech

Americans and Western Europeans will never understand how insanely hard and bothersome it's to travel anywhere with a weak passport, let alone immigrate.

You want to study abroad? Show us proof that there is a quadrillion dollars in your bank account. Oh, an average monthly salary in your country is $400 and you plan to work when you arrive? You can't do that, silly, a student visa only allows you to work 2 hours every third Wednesday, and if we find out that you're working a second more we will deport you.

You want to work abroad? Better be a programmer, then of course you are welcome. Doctor, scientist, white-collar or, god forbid, blue-collar worker? You can fuck right off, your visa application goes straght into trash.

But if you marry one of our first-world citizens, then fine, you can come. Because we can't upset them, after all, they are a real person, unlike you.

xantissa

EU Advice to people who have friends in places with weak passports- go to your department of foreigners and ask for something that called Formal Letter of Invitation or something similar. It usually is called something similar and costs a few euro/whatever currency you have. It will not be more than a fancy coffee at Starbucks or such place.

You will have to prove that you can afford a guest, have some income and also usually take responsibility for possible deportation cost.

But if you really are inviting a friend over, they will give you a formal document you can send to your friend. Then the friend applies for a visa while attaching the Very Official document with it. They will get the Schengen visa and most probably will get it expedited too.

It's some effort, but if it's for a friend it's worth it. And it's way less costly than the ridiculous loops the friend is being forced to go through and pay for multiple 3rd party services just to get a freaking visa for a month.

onecells

YOU🫵'RE 🫵 NE->XT.!! moTHERFUCKER!!!!

GET LOVED!!!!!!!!!!

#laugh rule

Feeling bad... 😔

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sandersstudies

My favorite part is when the kitty runs to the window and looks out like “the outside stuff????? It is inside?????”

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i had to

naamahdarling

Y’all this is a great video to study to observe the body language of a very happy but also very excited cat. Lots of people see videos of excited cats doing things like climb rock climbing walls or get on small boats and think they are angry or scared, when they aren’t. Here’s a good example of happy excitement and tension in a cat where the cat’s pleasure is easy to see. The cat’s tail is lashing and its ears are going backward and forward like crazy, but the cat is not angry, it is merely off its shits because snow is just incredible. This is a wildly playful cat which might play-attack a hand or other animal because it is so excited, but not out of anger. Note the zoomies at the end to burn off some of that energy!

Think about it. When we humans do something fun and very physical, our bodies are often tense, at the ready, and a lot of our body language does look kind of aggressive or even scared. Cats are the same! Animals at play or investigating new things often show some tension, but tension is not the same as anger or fear!

#cats

what-even-is-thiss

You’d think that once you finally get long term access to a cat and your yearning to have cat access is fulfilled that you’d become slightly less obsessed with seeing people’s cats but no if anything it gets worse

what-even-is-thiss

Now that there are two whole cats in my life I have become even more obsessed with cats. Tell your cats I said hi.

what-even-is-thiss

I am reminded every day why I love cats because they’re right there, doing cat things, being absolutely adorable and committing cat crimes. They are friends with me and are so soft and also sharp.

#cats

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