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    One good thing that comes from Charllete giving me and Michael the silent treatment is that it is silent. No yelling across the house or hallway from room to room. Just nice silense      It is nice to not be yelled at.      She knocks the door and gets mad when Michael is sleeping and not jumping at her calling. Like can’t hte man take a nap? Maybe? Geez. 

       This morning I and my boyfriend decide to go to the Farmers Market in the area we live in. Mid to North Florida. After breakfast, we head out. We forgot to let his mom know (who lives with us). Not a big deal right...? Apparently, this was a horrible idea.        At the Farmers Market, he gets a phone call. When he tried to answer he didn't hear anything - ie: it kept ringing. I aks if I should call her and see what’s going on. Mist this she leaves a message which has to listen to twice for 2 reasons; 1) it was a little bit noisy and 2) he can’t believe what happens. I listen b/c maybe I can figure this out. I listen and she is basically yelling at him for not giving her the courtesy of letting her know we were leaving and for exactly how long and whatnot. I am in disbelief b/c why would he have to let her know every single move he makes. And if it was just a matter of letting her know - it was an honest mistake in not informing her, nothing nefarious or bad meant from it. Just forgetfulness.        I call her because I just want to make sure she is well. She starts saying in a heated tone that she didn’t know we were leaving and why didn’t we say anything. I start my reply saying it wasn’t on purpose it just happened but she interjects by yelling that it is a courtesy and unfair and she is self quarantining herself -because she is of age where the COVID-19 could seriously affect her and all these things. I ask her to please not yell at me while she is saying all those things to me and I repeat myself again. Mind you I haven’t yelled at her and at one point took the phone away from my ear and the people around me could hear her side without it being on speaker. I promise it was that loud. I tell her (in a firm voice) she is double my age and could have grandkids and I need her to act like she is. It isn’t fair that I (someone who is somewhat childish) has to tell someone else this, it really isn’t fair. I honestly don’t want anyone to tell me I am childish anymore. And the kicker is -drumroll please- she hangs up on me. Honestly, as my eyes are naturally brown.          So my questions I have from today: 1) Why was she yelling? And how does asking her to not yell at me make her want to yell more? (As a military brat; how does she have less composer than someone half her age?) 2) Why did she hang up on me? What did that prove? 3) How is she in quarantine? Especially when two who live in the house have to go outside with one having a job that deals with people?        Edit: She has essentially locked herself in her room. basically coming off as childish. On the good note, she isn’t yelling from across the house for whatever reason whenever she wants. 

    So because of the COVID-19, the coffee shop I work at says we aren’t allowed to make drinks into personal cups/ mugs. Fine. I thought that even if they made it into a plastic cup I could just pour the drink into my own cup and be done with it. That way at least I wasn’t wasting a straw or whatever.      I put my cup into the back where all our drinks go and about half-way into the shift my manager- Brittany comes over (I am in the drive-thru) and starts -just shy of yelling- saying we aren’t allowed to have personal cups and it is against policy and all that. So I ask “Even though they didn’t make it in the drink I’m still not allowed to have my cup?” And mind you this is in front of everyone -partners and guests alike- She just looks at me like I said something weird or dumb/stupid. I just go and grab another cup with a straw and change it.       Mind you haven’t done anything to be called out in front of everyone. Nothing. If she had something to say she (the manager) could’ve pulled be off the floor or waited until my break. Geez...       I also can’t respect someone who has to yell in front of everyone to make a point. I have been raped twice in my life and neither of those people yelled at me. If you are telling me you can’t be more respectful than rapists than I can’t respect you. Just saying

     So at work, I am on drive-thru window speaking to a customer and her app wasn’t working for a moment and I started to chat her up. While that was happening Cat (the ASM) barked What the issue was. I (admittedly) barked back that I was talking to the customer and trying to distract her a little so she wasn’t thinking about the app not working to give her phone a chance to catch up.       Cat says it wasn’t right of me to bark back at her especially in front of customers.  My only thing is I matched her voice when talking to her. Meh I guess 

Fear is the enemy 

          At work today I had a co-worker come early and was getting a drink. I was on the bar and making most drinks going through to the DT (drive-thru). She starts calling my name but I can’t really hear her because I am wearing a headset. After a few times, I take the headset off and ask her what is happening. I can’t hear two sets of things at the same time (well it is very difficult for me). She says it is fine and got the message across with the person who came on the other bar to help with cafe drinks.          Later I ask her that if she knew that it is hard for me to hear at times and she didn’t really say anything and that I am sorry if I came across as mean since I was a bit frustrated since I was trying to hear the headset and her reply is that she doesn’t take things to serious and that it was fine. But I don’t think she got what I was trying to say. 

      So I posted a picture in a group I am in (on facebook no less, lol) and got booted out for it. Got some flack for it that I could see before I couldn’t read the comments on the post. But at the same time, I hold no foolhardiness that I get that I posted something I probably should’ve read the room/page better and basically now getting the consequences of that. And even though it was just a post and just one thing. I guess I am learning. I also must be careful of what I post. Also in the sense, if I generally upset someone or anyone by the post I made I am generally and wholeheartedly sorry.       I am mildly curious about it all but not enough to go asking back into the group. I guess I am surprised at how fast it happened...? Not super surprised but enough. I guess I expected I would get some flack for it but not booted from the group. O-well.       Side Note: Some of the insults were a little fun and well insulting. But only one I knew actually got under my skin for a second. But I guess the fun is over..? We shall see what the future holds.       Personal Note: I say this as someone who doesn’t want to start controversy or fight or make waves. And I say this as someone who is really sensitive. But I also am proud of myself for not taking it super seriously and am hopeful that it will not get as worse as my brain is trying to tell me. I am anxious but I guess that is to be expected for me, lol. This is my speel I guess. Hopefully not too long of a rant.      Edit: I found out that someone was being nice to me was letting me know about the post I made. I am happy that someone was nice enough to explain to me the reason why. Even though the end result ended up the same for now since I hadn’t seen it until now. Even if I had been able to do it might have happened anyway.

All the things

       I always wonder why people expect other people to do work for them without any incentive? Like would it be nice of them to do you a favor; yes, yes it would. Are they obligated to do anything; no, no they are not.       Thought of the day: Why does someone feel like they are owed something just because they are related to a person? Where does this expectation come from?        I don’t know. Maybe I am becoming more cynical as I get older...? I don’t mean to be. I just wonder why so many people have this thought that just because someone you know has something that you are entitled to it. 

Plus things I wish I could say 1) Why? 2) What size? No not the drink; what size? No not how many sugars; What size? Not how many drinks you have in your order. What size is the first drink 3) Name for the order, please. That’s great that that’s it for the order but may I have the name so the bar person can call? 4) Sorry, we are out of *insert Item*. Customer: you guys are out of everything! Me: *looks at full pastry case with display breakfast items minus one item* okay because we don’t have the 20+ items that are in the case correct? *obvious confusion on my face* 5) *checks bill for authenticity* Customer: I just made that *laughs*. Me: Because I haven't heard that joke every time I have to check a bill ever. So funny *awkward forced laugh* 6) Was that hot or iced? No, I don’t need you to repeat the entire drink. I just need to know if it is hot or iced. Saying obviously after the 3rd or 4th time doesn’t make it so. I can not read your mind.  7) Please don’t mumble. I get people can be shy and not generally speak loudly but I can’t hear you if you whisper 8) On the other side: please don’t scream. This happens a lot in DT. If you are in the passenger seat. Let the driver speak for you.  9) Please don't randomly touch me. I don’t know you. friendly or not it is weird and awkward.  10) If you are at the head of the line and still don’t know what you want. Please step aside for the person behind you.     On this note: if you are in DT and have no idea what you want; why are you in DT? I am generally curious. is there something stopping you from coming inside when you knew you were coming to said establishment beforehand? You had intent enough to go somewhere knowing what they sell but forgot once you got to said place?  11) If this is the first time at an establishment: why are you going through DT? Please be honest. It is not helping yourself to hold up everyone behind you.  12) Even if you don’t like/respect the person behind the counter you should like/respect the people behind you and not waste those people's time by you wasting their time when they could very easily know what they want. I personally don’t mind answering questions but just be thoughtful about the person that stands behind you as well.  I wish customers would actually listen to the things cashers say/ask them. Things would go so much faster and easier