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7/14/2022 Growing my family never told me, “I am so proud of you” or “You are doing a good job”. I could never do anything to please them and that was so discouraging. I graduated from my school and it was “Well you are you are a single mom”. I started a business it was “Well you didn’t buy a house”. Nothing was enough. I didn’t realize how much negativity my family spoke over me until I became…

I took myself out of that victim mindset and took charge of my life. I fought and defeated the demons in my head. I rescued myself from toxic situations and environments. I am my own Hero.

6-25-2022 “Be patient and tough; someday this pain will be useful to you.” Usually when I get hurt or someone cause me pain; I want to fuck them up and get even. But after doing all that my body is fatigue, mentally I am drained. This shows when I don’t let that hurt go, I give that thing, person, or situation power over me. I noticed when we get hurt; that pain that we feel is not for us to…

I wrote 10 pages in my journal today,And each page was soak with tears.Tonight before I go to bed, I want to remind all my black Queens to love yourself please. And I don’t mean dress up, get cute and go on dates only but to love yourself unconditionally. Love all of you, your past, your present and who you will become in the future. Be patient with yourself and show yourself grace like you do…

TAKE ACTIONOne thing I learned through this journey I had to stop saying it and start doing it. Years I talked to family members, friends, co workers about what I wanted to do but I was just blowing hot air in a tied down air balloon. Because deep down inside I was afraid. I was afraid of what people would think. I was afraid of failure. I was afraid of change. But once you start living for…

06-01-2022 Bye Old Me ✌🏿 I have a love-hate relationship with people. I care about them but some people are so damn negative. Negativity can be so draining so I spend a lot of time alone. I love my energy now and I love to submerge myself in it. I remember the times when I was negative, sulk in my misery and stayed in this victim mindset. People will always feel sorry for me or I bond with…

5/16/2022I have memory loss due to depression. I used to black out by drinking alcohol and taking pain killers; so I could be numb to situations and forget certain things that happened to me. In my healing journey I been going back to my past and healing my inner child and my teenager self. I had to remind my 6 year old self that not everyone will abandoned and you have people that love you. I…

“It’s not how you start but how you finish” In all honesty I never saw myself here…. I could not imagine it. It is so surreal. I am so used to the struggle and not completing things because of putting others before myself. I am so used to blaming my past and playing the victim role. Finally, I have this huge accomplishment under my belt that I been working so hard after giving up so many…

Celebrate every win big or small Stay away from people, who make you feel you are bragging when you celebrate your achievements who make you feel like your achievements are too small to be celebrated Seeing posts of people graduating, getting married, starting a business, buying a home, budgeting, setting boundaries and all that over good stuff warms my heart. Every accomplishment have a…

3/31/2022 Everyday for the past two years, I compliment or say something nice to at least one stranger, even if I am having a bad day. In a world full of negativity, I try to spread some positivity. You never know who needs to hear some kind words. Throughout these two years of doing this, I had made some genuine connections and amazing conversations. I high key suggest trying to say something…

3/25/2022 Being the caretaker of my grandma since I was a high school has taught me a lot about myself. My grandma literally went from an adult back to a child in a blink of an eye. You really have to take care of yourself as a whole. Physically, get active even if it’s only 15 minutes a day, take care of your skin, eat your fruits and vegatables, and STRETCH! Mentally, stop stressing over…

3/19/2022 “Respond with love to those who are evil” My grandma Growing up with my grandma, I always heard her telling people that were nasty towards her or do her wrong, “I will pray for you”. Now growing up hearing this you would think I would be like my grandma but nah. I always wanted all the smoke and always let people get me out of character. But that became energy draining and I now I…

3-16-22 Set Boundaries Last year I realized I had a toxic trait of “People pleasing” to fill the void of loneliness so people will stay in my life. I would give my last, overplay my role in people lives, and always be there for everyone. Like, I had a good heart and good intentions but I didn’t have any boundaries. I would give, and pour to everyone and put myself last because I didn’t want to…

There is 8 more days till Spring, and time is about to change so we get longer days. I love spring, the is more sun, it’s refreshing and it’s just a new beginning. For me, Spring is when my New Year starts. So out with the old and in with the new! Here is a list of things you can do to get ready for the new season… Declutter your room, closets, cabinets by donating, trading, selling or throw…

“Don’t let a man tell you twice that he doesn’t want you.”

3/10/2022 “Don’t let a man tell you twice that he doesn’t want you.” As a child I always wanted to be a daddy’s girl and to be loved by my father unconditionally. But instead I was the child that was begging for her father’s love and attention. I never knew why my dad wasn’t really in my life, and why my sister from another mother got to be the daddy’s little girl. As a child I always begged…

3/7/2022DON’T doubt yourself! Don’t ever give up on your dreams. Don’t ever quit your goals. Yes you may fail 100 times but you will achieve everything if you don’t quit. So keep going, keep pushing and show up for yourself every day. That hard work and consistency you put in everyday, you will always reap the awards. Your goals is really like a garden. In a garden you have to plant the seeds,…

3/6/2022 Grateful for My Past 🌬 🌿✨ That time when I was homeless with no job sleeping on people living room floor. That time where I was desperate for love, that I let a man physically and verbally abuse everyday because I didn’t want to be alone. That time I was molested by my uncle, and no believed me. That time I tried to take my life by overdosing on oxycodone. You see I am grateful for…