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REFUSE to CONFORM to SOCIETAL NORMS, GENDER ROLES, or the HARRY POTTER EPILOGUE

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“they never explicitly looked at the camera and said ‘i am experiencing immense grief’ so how was i supposed to know??” i don’t know what to tell you, man. if a story doesn’t spoon-feed you the character's internal emotional state like a jar of mashed peas, you guys just willingly starve. subtext is not a myth, i promise it won't bite you.
hot take in a roundabout way i think that's also why so many of us opt out of becoming parents ourselves
Does anybody know how to fix it
Start disappointing people and not backing out of it when they are upset, reject feeling ashamed of everything including of yourself, start saying No to things you do not want to do not just things you're scared of, do more of those things you're scared of but wish you could do, make your own plans and execute them, decide to do or not do something without basing it on who will Dislike it.
Free Will takes practice, and the chance of making someone somewhere Slightly or even Very Disappointed In You. But you're an adult and you can't be made to stand in a corner anymore.
"Six weeks into the term, I assigned my rhetoric and writing students a 20-page article. It was the same length I had assigned for five years and the same length I had read without complaint as an undergraduate a decade ago. Not one student finished it.
When I asked why, a student answered honestly: It was too long, and she kept losing track of what the paper was about. This was not a remedial class: These were students who had cleared the admissions process and written essays good enough to get them here. Yet a routine academic reading assignment had defeated them.
Every generation of professors has complained that their students cannot read. The lament is usually overblown, but data have caught up to anecdote, and what I am seeing in my classroom is no longer a hunch. There is a measurable, generational collapse in sustained reading and writing, and the academy is responding to it with improvisation and exhaustion rather than the structural overhaul it requires.
In February 2024, Adam Kotsko, who teaches in the Shimer Great Books School at North Central College, wrote in Slate that students who once handled 30 pages of reading per class meeting now seem “intimidated by anything over 10 pages and seem to walk away from readings of as little as 20 pages with no real understanding.” Crucially, he added that this is “not a matter of laziness on the part of the students” but of underlying skills they were never given a chance to build.
The Chronicle of Higher Education’s 2024 investigation found the same pattern across institutions as different as the Stevens Institute of Technology and Wellesley College, where the average SAT exceeds 1400. Nicholaus Gutierrez, an assistant professor at Wellesley, told The Chronicle that the baseline for what students consider a reasonable amount of work has dropped so noticeably that he has cut his readings accordingly; a 750-word essay now strikes many students as long. At Stevens, the science and technology studies associate professor Theresa MacPhail described following the mantra of “meet your students where they are” for so long that she has begun to feel “like a cruise director organizing games of shuffleboard.”
Worse, the national data tell the same story in colder language. On the 2011 National Assessment of Educational Progress (NAEP) writing assessment, which is the most recent comprehensive writing benchmark, only 24 percent of 12th graders reached the Proficient level, and just 3 percent reached Advanced; another 21 percent scored below Basic. The reading side of the ledger is worse, and getting worse fast: The 2024 NAEP results released in September 2025 show 12th-grade reading scores at the lowest level recorded since the assessment began in 1992. Thirty-two percent of 12th graders now score below NAEP Basic in reading, meaning that, in the assessment’s own language, they likely “cannot draw general conclusions based on concepts presented explicitly in a text.” And yet more than half of these same seniors reported being accepted to a four-year college. That last sentence is the whole problem in one line: We are admitting a cohort that cannot read at a college level and are pretending otherwise.
Why is this happening? One reason, of course, is smartphones.
I came into teaching as a skeptic of the anti-smartphone argument: I had a phone in my pocket throughout high school and college in the 2010s, and I read long books anyway. I now think I was wrong, because the neuroscience has caught up. In a 2017 paper, Adrian F. Ward and colleagues at the University of Texas at Austin’s McCombs School of Business showed that the mere presence of a participant’s smartphone — whether that be face down, powered off, untouched, or across the desk out of vision — measurably reduces available working memory and fluid intelligence on cognitive tests, with the largest effects on the most phone-dependent users. A 2022 study by Motoyasu Honma and colleagues at Japan’s Showa University used near-infrared spectroscopy to compare reading on a smartphone with reading the same passage on paper, and found that smartphone reading produced overactivity in the prefrontal cortex, suppressed sigh generation, and led to general lower comprehension scores; the authors argued that the sigh inhibition and prefrontal overload were causally linked to the comprehension decline.
So when a student tells me they “kept losing track” of a 20-page article, I have to acknowledge that they may be describing a measurable neurological condition. The neural pathways that support sustained attention are built by use, and they atrophy without it. Your body is a use-it-or-lose-it system, and the brain is no exception.
Another reason for the decline in student reading capability is increasing reliance on generative AI. In June 2025, Nataliya Kosmyna and colleagues at the MIT Media Lab released a preprint titled “Your Brain on ChatGPT.” They divided 54 participants into three groups writing SAT-style essays — one using ChatGPT, the second group using a search engine, the last group using nothing — and monitored brain activity with a 32-channel EEG. The ChatGPT group showed the lowest neural connectivity of the three, with up to 55 percent reduced connectivity compared with the brain-only group, and “consistently underperformed at neural, linguistic, and behavioral levels.” Eighty-three percent of LLM users could not quote a single line from essays they had written minutes earlier. When the LLM group was forced to write without AI in a follow-up session, their brain activity did not bounce back to baseline; the researchers coined the term “cognitive debt” for the lingering deficit.
This is the first neurophysiological evidence that early reliance on LLMs measurably alters the brain’s engagement with writing tasks, and it is consistent with what those of us in front of classrooms are watching happen in real time. When I assign analysis, I am not trying to extract a polished product; I am trying to put the student’s mind through resistance in order to make it stronger. Offloading the struggle to a chatbot does not “free students up for higher-order work.” It deprives them of building the strength to do any substantial cognitive work at all.
There is a final factor that is contributing to this decline in reading skills, and that is that the students arriving in my classroom today are the first cohort to have experienced Common Core-influenced reading instruction across the entirety of their K–12 schooling. Whatever the standards’ original intent, the on-the-ground implementation in many districts replaced sustained reading with the practice of pulling “evidence” from disconnected short passages, the same format used on the standardized tests that increasingly determine school funding. The education scholar Natalie Wexler, among others, has documented this pivot in detail: Students drilled on “finding the main idea” in two-paragraph excerpts never build the stamina or background knowledge that longform reading requires. The pandemic then added fuel to a fire that was already burning. NAEP scores for 13-year-olds dropped sharply in 2022 and have not recovered. A 2023 EdWeek survey found that 24 percent of secondary-school administrators described pandemic learning loss in English and language arts as “severe or very severe.”
In July 2025, the journalist Mary Harrington argued in The New York Times that “thinking is becoming a luxury good.” The ability to read deeply and reason at length is fragmenting along class lines as ultra-processed digital media replaces text in everyday life, much as ultra-processed food has replaced cooking. Her longer treatment of the subject in First Things makes the more provocative case that we are witnessing the end of print culture itself, and with it the end of the cognitive substrate on which modern liberal democracy was built.
I see this stratification in the classroom and on the page every week. My students from districts that protected sustained reading through small class sizes, strict phone policies, and faculty who refused to teach to the test all arrive with their attention relatively intact. My students from districts that surrendered to devices and standardized testing arrive cognitively winded. A democracy that requires a literate electorate is now training one fraction of that electorate out of literacy while marketing to the other a “deep work” lifestyle as a luxury good. The students who cannot read a 20-page article today are the voters who will not be able to read a bill, or the jurors who cannot follow a closing argument, tomorrow.
I do what I can in my own classroom to address the problems. I break 20-page articles into two halves and assign the first half with explicit analytical tasks. I require exploratory writing before formal drafts. I model (visibly, on the board) how to track an argument across pages or distinguish a source’s claim from my own analysis. I make structured peer review explicit, because the workshop format I used to take for granted now collapses into “this is good” and “maybe add more details” the moment I step back.
But I want to be plain about the limits of what an individual instructor can do, and all of these solutions have costs. Scaffolding a 20-page article into halves compromises the integrity of the argument I am asking students to engage, just as modeling note-taking in a credit-bearing rhetoric course is using a college slot to teach a middle-school skill. None of the syllabi I teach are designed to deliver this type of cognitive rehabilitation, and pretending otherwise has produced credential inflation. We cannot keep conferring degrees on students who cannot do what the degree is supposed to certify.
I’m afraid I don’t have answers. I do, however, have some questions that may point us in the right direction. If higher education is going to respond to the reading crisis as a structural problem rather than a private burden carried by composition instructors and adjuncts, it has to stop avoiding the following questions: If a majority of incoming students cannot read at a level the curriculum requires, are we admitting students we cannot serve, or offering a curriculum we cannot provide?
Why are first-year writing and reading-intensive general-education courses still the most adjunctified, lowest-paid, highest-load corner of the university, at the precise moment when their work has become the most important work the institution does? What is the responsible institutional response for AI usage: Is it a syllabus statement, or a sequencing principle that requires students to demonstrate the cognitive work themselves before AI assistance is permitted?
Why are most college classrooms still phone-permissive by default? K–12 districts from Florida to California are now banning phones bell to bell; higher education has somehow lagged behind the public schools. Universities benefit from a pipeline they did not build and refuse to repair. What would it mean for a university system to invest seriously in the reading instruction happening in the high schools that feed it, rather than treating remediation as something to be quietly outsourced to first-year composition instructors?
The thing I am no longer willing to do is pretend this is a temporary adjustment period, or that “students will adapt.” They will not adapt on their own. The conditions that produced this collapse are still in place: the phones, the algorithmic feeds, the test-prep excerpts, staffing models that load the reading-intensive work onto the most precarious faculty, and now the chatbots that finish students’ sentences before they’ve even begun to think of them. If we want literate citizens, we will have to rebuild the conditions for literacy deliberately, against the grain of every incentive currently pointed the other way. I know the academy has the will to do that. It also has the obligation."
— Tyler Jagt, 1 June 2026, "My Students Can’t Read"
The generational collapse in literacy is measurable, persistent, and likely to get worse.
whether you see mike as straight or gay, it's very interesting that his and will's experiences are the opposite despite the ultimate ideal for them (normal masculine heterosexual boy with a girlfriend) being the same. will's seen as a weak and sensitive queer boy while mike's seen as a defective and undesirable straight boy, before either of them are even really old enough to express significant interest in/be expected to have serious relationships.
mike hasn't been told he's a sensitive and weak fag who's gonna be assaulted and left for dead, and that he deserves it. but will has. and will hasn't been told girls are grossed out by him, that he's ugly, awkward, desperate, and hopeless. but mike has. will's father and his peers expect him to be gay, while mike's father and even his friends expect him to fail to get a girlfriend. this is the root of their respective shame and how they go about proving those assertions wrong (will by repression, mike by performance), and it informs their relationships with attraction and their views on queerness.
mike is prepared to combat homophobia against will and being much more comfortable initiating physical contact — even hand holding — and intimate conversations, but he also holds deep insecurity that girls are grossed out by him, that he's not good enough for el and if she becomes “normal” she'll see it, despite a notable disinterest in girls compared to his peers (other than will) which likely makes him feel immature and weird. mike approached girlfriends as a necessary step toward being normal, which is one of his core struggles, alongside being needed. he doesn't want to be normal or for things to change, but for a time he bows under the pressure to conform, thinking that's how it must be. he lets himself be unabashedly happy with will but can't manage to feel that comfort in a heterosexual relationship that only exists to soothe his insecurities. straight or gay, by dating el he's ultimately trying to seem cool and grown up and "normal".
will is the opposite — he feels intense shame for his attraction and thus polices himself around mike, pulling away when mike initiates, because mike doesn't mean it like will does, and will won't let himself profit off of mike's innocent kindness and friendship. mike makes him feel like he's not a mistake, like he's better for being different, and loving him almost, sometimes, feels okay because it's mike. but the shame he's internalized inevitably crashes down and he diminishes himself to acceptability, without any predatory or greedy desires. will shrinks rather than expanding himself with lies, because he's already struggled with trying to meet expectations of stereotypical masculinity, and he's done with that, and nobody expects it of him anymore, although they see him as lesser for not meeting it. but mike never seems to mind that he's sensitive and soft, even thinks he's strong regardless, and jonathan helped will feel okay with being a "freak". so will's accepted that it's okay if he doesn't like sports or even girls like a normal boy... but that doesn't make it okay for him to like boys. if they knew, their tune would surely change — he should be ashamed for that. so any time he feels too happy for the "wrong" reasons he stifles it, because in his mind his queerness comes with an obligation of misery.
mike strives toward amatonormativity and heterosexuality because people still expect him to want it. unlike will, they haven't yet placed him in a different box. instead they just view him as failing to meet the standard. so he tries to prove them wrong so people don't think less of him for his failure or realise how broken he is for his disinterest, and so he himself can feel worthy and avoid facing the latter. this is why will scared mike in s3 — he didn't try to conform like mike did. mike was abruptly faced with exactly what he wanted to be, but felt the weight of expectations will's no longer burdened by (oblivious to the fact that will's burdened by very different, derogatory expectations), and he didn't understand how will could just... seemingly not care. so he projected feeling broken onto will, because will didn't want to grow up and be normal and date girls, and mike wasn't ready for things to change either but he was supposed to be. will was messing with the natural order of things, and the world wasn't ending, and that was fucked up because mike was trying so hard and will was just... fine as he was. there was possibly even resentment that several girls have liked will, and even though he didn't jump at these chances none of their friends ever gave him shit for it, while girls never liked mike until now, so he leapt to prove that he was wanted and cool and the first of the boys with a girlfriend, and he was still somehow getting made fun of.
meanwhile, mike, too, is doing something that seems infuriatingly easy to will — whether he's queer or not, mike was absolutely romantic toward will due to his lack of the hyper-aware shame drilled into will's brain. and that's so fucking confusing for will, who feels so guilty for wanting it while mike does this like it's NOTHING and will forces himself not to let it mean anything. because mike's not like him, he clearly wants the normal things will doesn't pretend to want, and he could never, ever be broken enough to want what will is so deeply ashamed of actually wanting. will feels guilty and stupid and selfish for even considering mike could be like that for a second.

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[looking myself in the mirror intensely] its okay to make an ugly drawing. its okay to make an ugly drawing. its okay to make an ugly drawing. its okay to even make several ugly drawings in a row. or on the same page next to each other perhaps in some sort of sequential art format
never met a sentence i couldn't make incredibly long
men will say “princess treatment ❤️” and then it’s just how i normally treat the cashier at the store
i laughed for a good five minutes 🤣🤣🤣
i do not “delete sentences” when they start “hindering the plot” i COPY PASTE THEM into a SEPARATE DOC made just for keeping all my USELESS LINES that i will also NEVER USE so therefore i should JUST DELETE THEM but i DONT because id FEEL BAD if i did
You don't actually have to kill your darlings. You can just put them in the oubliette #myoubliette

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attaching something to an email is so scary. what if i accidentally put hard-core porn in there. i don't think i have any downloaded but what if i do and i attached it to the email. what then.
it’s quick, it’s easy and it’s free: pouring river water in your socks
why would i do that lmao
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Mj Mike who starts noticing Will being more avoidant, skipping class which is unusual for him, how he barely has time to hang out anymore, constantly tired, increasingly looking more injured, until one day he comes with a limp in his left leg. Mike immediately starts questioning about him what happened, feeling so anxious for him and worried, but Will just gives him a bad excuse and leaves so fast Mike can’t keep up.
Later that day, when Mike is on his way home, he suddenly gets pulled into a dark alley with a knife pointed at his throat, the voice of the man wielding it demanding he’ll give him all the money he has on him. A terrified Mike can’t see another way to get out of this situation safely, so he starts reaching for his wallet. All of a sudden, THE spiderman somehow manages to disarm the mugger and tie him up with his webs. All of this happens so fast, and in the next second Mike has spiderman all over him, checking to see if he’s hurt. After he’s sure Mike is unharmed, he walks with him a little and offers him a “lift” home. That’s when Mike notices it. He’s limping on his left leg.
I’ve been obsessed with this tiktok for days now
Person: "Hello sir." he pets the frog with one finger.
Person: "Have a good day. Actually wait a minute. You missed a bug, but I got you home boy. Hold on." he picks a bug up and throws it next to the frog.
Frog: turns around and eats the bug.
Person: "OHHHHH-" sings high pitched and angelic like he witnessed a miracle.

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IT’S LITERALLY HAPPENING LMAOOOOO
None of the pieces of wood that Dean shaves off land in the trash can he has placed in front of him.