I understand and sympathize with the way you might assume/have been taught that all abuse is done maliciously and purposefully – but if someone tries to actually explain to you in clear language the ways in which abuse is most often a symptom of systemic power imbalances, and therefor an incredibly easy dynamic for someone to create and take advantage of without being consciously aware that they're doing this, especially if they're uneducated (the way most people are!) about the full array of actions that are abusive and harmful to inflict on someone they have power over – and you hear this and your take away is "well they're obviously lying about being a #victim, because everyone knows the only correct way to be a victim is to assign the trait of unending and uncomplicated Evilness onto your abuser" and "well they're actually probably an abusive groomer with the unending Evilness trait themselves, and they're just training people into seeing their actions as acceptable", well I don't know. I kind of wish you'd die I think.
