if it's meant to be, then it will be; ✮˚.⋆

Why?

Because I just had to have this conversation with a moot ive followed for months recently that I thought was Black or brown because their pfp was a face shot of a brown character. So because I never had a reason to DM them like “Hey comrade, you’re Black right?” given they was visually publicly portraying themselves as someone brown, I was casually acting to others as if they was as well and considering them among non-white community members. Which led to awkwardness when I brought them up as that publicly only to receive a DM profusely apologizing to me for accidentally misleading me because they were white and European lol.

If your only visual representation is a person of color and you don’t expressly state you aint one somewhere, a lot of people will assume on first inspection that you’re a person of color as well and aint gonna go like searching your personal tag to find a picture you posted where your hand is petting your cat to confirm your racialization.

@demilypyro is so correct

being transmisogynistic, exorsexist, intersexist, etc towards the people around you wont only hurt them but you as well

Also, the way you're making the shaming of trans men out to be a PRIVILEGE that's strictly reserved for trans women is so fucking weird. Clearly it's not the disrespect itself that you don't tolerate, or else you wouldn't excuse it as long as it's a trans women doing it. No, the only reason you're attempting to prohibit everyone else from doing it is because you view it as a privilege and not inherently morally wrong.

That is why they have the permission in the first place.

Not only a double standard but very blatantly transmisogynistic.

Jokes on you but every "go kys" makes me more determined to live lol, and I'm more than happy to do so alongside those of my trans sisters who still show me the same amount respect that I do them. We will all be trans and happy together, despite everything... despite the hatred that people have for us, which unfortunately includes an alarming amount of our other trans siblings.

So none at all, got it, thanks for making that abundantly clear.

Now fuck off, you victim blaming misogynistic sack of shit.

How am I victim blaming? I don't understand. Literally all I'm saying is that I do, in fact, respect trans women. Whether I'm good at actually showing them respect is another thing entirely, but from what I've gathered so far I'm not too bad? I'd love it if you pointed out what exactly I've said so far in this conversation that was wrong, and also explain why if you can. I'm always, always trying to be better and to learn.

don't think about them overhearing ted telling karen that she needs him and so do the kids, that she wouldn't be able to take care of them or even herself if she didn't have him and his wealth to rely on. don't think about karen bursting into tears and collapsing in ted's arms because she knows that it's true, knows that there's no escaping this situation. don't think about karen sobbing uncontrollably, unaware that her kids are awake and that they can hear everything, and ted halfheartedly patting her on the back while not doing much to actually comfort her, but karen takes what she can get.

don't think about mike looking up at his sister, wide-eyed and confused, and asking her: "why is she crying? is it that time of the month again?", not even knowing what 'that time of the month' means but simply parroting his father because that's all he knows to do.

don't think about nancy thinking back to when she walked in on karen and joyce in the living room the other day, hugging each other tightly with tears in both of their eyes, and whispering: "i think it's the pregnancy hormones" because that was karen's response when nancy asked her why she was crying.

don't think about mike frowning in confusion because he doesn't know what that means, but instead of asking further questions he just shifts his focus back onto what's going on in the living room. don't think about nancy suddenly standing up and hurriedly making her way back to her bedroom, tears welling up in her eyes as she thinks to herself that she doesn't ever want to end up like her mom, doesn't ever want to need someone the way her mom needs her dad.

Also, the way you're making the shaming of trans men out to be a PRIVILEGE that's strictly reserved for trans women is so fucking weird. Clearly it's not the disrespect itself that you don't tolerate, or else you wouldn't excuse it as long as it's a trans women doing it. No, the only reason you're attempting to prohibit everyone else from doing it is because you view it as a privilege and not inherently morally wrong.

That is why they have the permission in the first place.

Not only a double standard but very blatantly transmisogynistic.

Jokes on you but every "go kys" makes me more determined to live lol, and I'm more than happy to do so alongside those of my trans sisters who still show me the same amount respect that I do them. We will all be trans and happy together, despite everything... despite the hatred that people have for us, which unfortunately includes an alarming amount of our other trans siblings.