happymess

*drowns myself in romanticized idealizations*

*holds your hand and swings it a little bit when we walk*

Hard pill to swallow: not everyone is replaceable and it’s okay to miss or yearn for a type of relationship you had that you haven’t been able to find a substitute for. Different relationships trigger different parts of yourself and wanting those parts to be stimulated again, excited even, isn’t a crime or a symptom of unhealthy attachments. Considering there are few people on this Earth that we genuinely connect with on visceral levels, treating them post-relationship as if their impact on you was worthless and not one of a kind will only disappoint you. It doesn’t allow you to savor or treasure the connection in ways we probably should, nor does it promote healthy attachment or detachment going forward.