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Got a willing partner? Consider planning your Shagadelic Escape. I cannot think of a better way to grab some peace and pleasure in these uncertain times.

🌈 🧡 Tanya's Tips: There is nothing better than the "Gift of Time". Forget the expensive gifts consider planning a 'Shagadelic Escape' with your special person.

You can find my "Tips for a Shagadelic Escape" by following my YestoSex newsletter here or Substanck (TanyaGriffin) or subscribe at oOYes.love / YestoSex.love.

YestoSex - Tips for Shagadelic Escape link to Substack or oOYes.love 🌈🧡 There's no better gift than that of your TIME!

During these uncertain times we can all use a Shagadelic Escape. I can think of no better gift than the gift of time.

Tips for a Shagadelic Escape

Contemplating a Shagadelic SxXcation?  

I have spent years now dialing in altered states and daily partnered pleasures. This has taught me the value of establishing routines and rituals that shape and reshape my relationship with bliss and longevity.

It has changed my perspective to time and how I choose to spend it and allows me to show up and remain deeply present.

Scheduling regular Shagadelic experiences drives intimacy, gives room for new kinks and lets you live life ecstatic.

It lets you BE yourself while letting your partner BE.

The GIFT of Time 

Give the gift of time. Nothing lasts longer or is more memorable. 

By my 50’s, I finally understood that “time” is my most valuable asset. For most of my life I was along for the ride. I let stress and obligations dictate time spent. Pleasure and flow states were not balls I considered juggling. 

It took me years of practice to figure out how to dial in pleasure and practice flow states. It came after the kids were grown and after experience taught me to value time well spent above all else.  

While kids, work, stress, illness, aging parents and finances can each feel like insurmountable hurdles, not finding ways to channel time into flow, to each other, builds resentment and compounding stress in your most important relationships. 

Time is illusive. I find it slows down and speeds up relative to flow states — those quiet spaces where all your energy moves in one direction. 

By embracing time and building routines that let you “drop in” you can learn to embrace bliss and dance together.  

Together, you can remind each other to ‘keep on dancing’. 

SxX ‘n Drugs 

If shame does not follow your SxX ‘n Drugs and you enjoy playing with your person then read on my friends! 

Humans figured out early on how well these go together. So well we waged a 100 year WAR, prohibited, shamed and stigmatized. We used fear mongering to scare each other.  We proselytized that sxX was bad while demanding procreation. We got very comfortable with hypocrisy and contradiction and threatened that altered states involving drugs were dangerous and liable to kill.   

In the 1960’s cannabis and psychedelics bubbled to the surface. The sexual revolution was embraced by a generation ready to indulge in pleasure and enlightenment. 

Timothy Leary’s voice carried. The option to Turn On, Tune In, and Drop Out was real.  Rock ‘n Roll led the way while scenes from Haight-Ashbury showed that peace, love and togetherness was possible, until it wasn’t. Until we allowed excess and fear to shame pleasure and enlightenment. 

I think it’s time to take it back.

Let’s Dance 

If inspired and ready to explore a Shagadelic escape and you have a willing party to play with I’ve got some dance moves and venue suggestions to share. 

Set Your Intentions 

Be open about expectations and get ready to focus on each other. This is not a square dance. 

Prepare to TANGO – No Work, No Phones. No Others.

The best dancers all plan, practice, and dress for the occasion. 

Then comes the dance —  the surrender. The surge of dopamine, serotonin and endorphins that leave you feeling groovy. 

Dial in Your SPACE

Whether settling in for a long night, a long weekend or taking a much needed shagadelic sxXcation get ready to pack your bags and prepare for your “bed-in”. While protesting may not be at the top of your shagadelic escape agenda, sending good vibes and prayers to the Universe against sexism, racism, systematic poverty and the War on Drugs can be time well spent between shagging in the sheets.

John & Yoko's Bed-In

March 1969 - Amsterdam/Montreal Honeymoon - Bed-In | Yoko Ono and John Lennon spent their two week honeymoon protesting and shagging.  A “Bed-In” is a nonviolent protest against WAR. 

Pack your Bags to Stay in Bed

Plan and pack so your space is your oasis.  Keep food and water handy. Lube and toothbrushes are a must. 

Everything else can follow your kinks… lingerie, butt plugs, handcuffs, roll play, this is all up to you. If breaking out some brand new kinks that requires any dexterity consider practicing before your escape.

Lighting, Music and Film 

The less you leave to chance the better the dance. 

Lighting 

Whether vacation or staycation make your space your own. 

Dialing in your lighting just makes sense. It allows you to set and change the mood. I’ve invested in Smart Bulbs throughout my home to control color and hue. Light up your ceiling, get psychedelic ceiling lights and don’t forget to bring them with you when you travel. This is a great way to dial in your space no matter where you land.

Lighting up our psychedelic ceiling at our Oregon cabin

Keeping the lighting low with red and orange hues helps me feel good and makes everyone look better. If broadcasting to your TV and shooting some videos while you play, getting the lighting right is especially important. 

Dial it in before you Drop In. 

Tanya’s Tips: Keep the lights low. Following in Keith Richards footsteps, when traveling, pack some scarfs or lingerie to drape over all the lamps. While possibly a fire hazard there is no better way to set and control the mood. 

Set and Setting 

Dial in your space but don’t overcomplicate it.  

A new destination, having nature to lean on is good and can help set the mood. This said, if taking your dance horizontal then your top priority should be the comfort of your bed and not leaving it.  

If you set your space up for success before the dance begins you’ll have everything you need to focus on each other and fully drop in.

Tanya’s Tips: When planning your shagadelic escape pick states where your drugs are at least semi-decriminalized. I live between Colorado and Oregon. My “go to” destination is our cabin near the Oregon coast. Off the beaten path with hiking and walks on the beach it is secluded no need to mingle with others. 

Know Your Drugs 

If bringing psychoactive substances to your altered states dance party and new to the experience please educate yourself. Make sure your drugs are safe and tested before you dance. If stacking different drugs (recreational, prescribed and supplements) know what works well together and what is contraindicated. This is not a discovery you will want to make during your escape. If new to this party start slow, track and stack wisely. 

Less is often more when it comes to psychedelic substances. When dialing in drugs for a prolonged dance the objective is to find your sweet spot. 

Getting lost in a free fall is counterintuitive to dropping into an elevated sexual experience. 

For regular trippers dialing in optimal experiences comes with practice understanding dosing, application, stacking and contraindications.

Tanya’s Tips: If you are looking for a deeper dive into the interplay of psychoactive substances and flow states and navigating dosing, application, stacking and contraindications  Let’s Talk. Follow oOYes | YestoSex for upcoming interactive WeFloYo events.

Breaking it Down – 3-Day and 7-Day “Trips” 

If Shagadelic escapes are within your reach now is the time to make it happen. 

If time eludes you start with a 3-Day Staycation and build your way to that week of bliss. 

During these uncertain times why not follow John & Yoko’s lead and drop in your own “Bed In”.  This focus on each other, on pleasure and intimacy, can jump start routines, prioritize oOrgasmic pleasure and pave the way for dialing in ‘flo states’. 

Dialed in and practiced regularly you’ll always have something better to do! 

Let’s Go…

Take the Weekend — 3 Days to Play

Bring a willing partner and commit to intimacy. 

Pack for a Bed-In. There should be no reason to leave. 

Prepare to dial in your space — Lighting, Music, Film and Food. 

Plan your fun and drugs wisely.

Try new Kinks and don’t forget the Lube. 

Bed-In for the Week - 7 Days Bliss

Tuesday = Travel + Unpack Supplies + ‘Set Up’ then ‘Drop In’ for SxXPlay

Wednesday = Keep food and drugs handy.  Today’s dance stays horizontal.

Thursday = Reset. Get your steps in then back to bed.

Friday = Recovery time from sxX and drugs. If engaging others, now is the time. 

Saturday = Move, Engerize, Sightsee and Regain your strength for round ll.

Sunday = If others were invited say “Goodbye” and take the night. 

Monday = Sleep in. Play hard and take it to the hole!

Tuesday = Morning play optional. Prepare for afternoon travel.

Must Have SxXcation Supplies:

Lube and Lingerie 

Lighting - Warm and Psychedelic

TV - Stream Films and Broadcast Mirrored Video

Create sexytime playlists 

Coffee in Bed and keep food light and handy  

Know your Drugs 

Oh Yes, It just doesn’t get any better than this! This week’s saying goes to the Irish poet, Oscar Wilde. “Sing the body electric”. 💃 🕺 💃 🕺

🌈 🧡 Tanya’s Tips: Looking to Sing Your Body Electric? I got you! Start by practicing daily oOrgasmic pleasure.

Know yourself. 🌈 Surrender. 🧡 Repeat. The magic happens when you can do this while playing together.

🌈 🧡 Tanya's Tips: Let them BE then BE yourself. The magic happens when you can do this while playing together. Know yourself. Surrender. Repeat.

YestoSxX continues to be shadow-banned! 🌈 🧡 When honest talk about health, wellness and Flow States is shamed while pedophiles prevail we have a problem.

It's time to fight censorship and say "NO" to tech BRO bullies!

Last week's YestoSex article was shadow-banned so trying it again. Tune in tomorrow for "I've Cracked the Code on Flow States". 🌈 🧡 This is a deep dive with Tanya's Tips you do not want to miss! Follow and Share YestoSex for a deep dive into SxX, Drugs and Rock 'n Roll as it relates to Science 🌈 Shame 🧡 Culture.

Got a partner you love who loves you? Take the time to Show it! Daily expressions of love and kindness just makes each day Better!

Tanya's Tips: In these troubling times we could all use a little LOVE and HAPPINESS. Bring it. Show it. Why not?🌈🧡

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If you follow YestoSex you know my film and music recommendations lean into artists that shock, twist and rewire one’s thinking. Films shamed, censored and banned by the powers-that-be while delivering cinematographic brilliance and often a cult following.

This week’s Director Pick – Ken Russell –  is no different.

We're getting rid of alcohol and THE DEVILS (1971) - Now Streaming on Criterion Collection

Introducing THE DEVILS, Ken Russell’s 1971 scandalously salacious film now streaming on Criterion. Known for his historical dramas, this X-Rated masterpiece was banned for its cruelty, orgiastic sexuality, and blasphemous 17th-Century Catholic church shenanigans.

If this is enough to deter you, I get it, my intention is not to offend. If this is the case, may I suggest, instead, indulging your "Trick and Treat" time with Russell’s lighter, comedic, supernatural horror film, The Liar of the White Worm (1988). While still serving up a taste of blasphemous religious horror this one debuts Hugh Grant and will help ease you into Russell’s visually stunning yet shocking imagery.

If religious horror is not your jam I suggest saving Russell for your next date night and opting instead for his 1969, academy award winning, romantic drama, Women In Love. This adaptation of D.H. Lawrence’s novel will take you on a historical romp through bohemian politics and 1960's sexual revolution.

Tanya’s Tips: If blasphemous horror is not your jam check outlast years YestoSex Halloween Gaillo pick: Gaillo Films to Shag Thru.

Ken Russell - Director Pick

Following in the flamboyant and visually stunning footsteps of Italian Director, Federico Fellini, Russell couples British wit and fantasy with liberal adaptations of historical texts. Tracing back to his early days at the BBC, he began his directing career creating adaptations of 19th Century composers. 

His love for music resonated again with his 1975 film, Tommy based on The Who's 1969 rock opera.

Russell’s indistinguishable, hands-on direction is characterized by his desire to shock and awe audiences and critics alike.  A true iconoclast, he rejected commerciality and spoke truth to rigid social hierarchies that wreaked of the putrid ‘status quo’.

Building on his successes, global media giant Warner Brothers gave him a long leash and relative budget that may never be seen again in filmmaking. While Warner Brothers were not able to censor Russell's provocative tone and cinematography they continue to censor and hold for ransom the uncut version of THE DEVILS. 

While I have not seen it, I understand this uncut gem has found its way to streaming on Shudder. Be careful what you wish for. The cut version offers a punch the average film connoisseur may find challenging to stomach. 

THE DEVILS

Circling back to this historical psychological horror film starring Vanessa Redgrave and Oliver Reed, THE DEVILS had the singular fate of winning a silver ribbon for best foreign film from the Italian National Syndicate of Film Journalists in 1972 while simultaneously being banned throughout Italy.

Oliver Reed and Vanessa Redgrave - THE DEVILS (1971)

Adapted from Aldous Huxley's 1952 non-fiction novel The Devils of Loudon and John Whiting's 1960 play; book, play and film were all inspired by the notorious case of supposed sexual frenzy and demonic possession in 17th-Century France whereby a charismatic Catholic priest, Urbain Grandier, was accused of bewitching nuns. 

Russell comments that THE DEVILS takes its inspiration from his own Catholic faith. 

It's about the degradation of religious principles," he says. "And about a sinner who becomes a saint."

Born and raised a Catholic, the making of THE DEVILS would end Russell’s journey with Catholicism. 

Trick or Treat 

If you have not had the pleasure of indulging in Ken Russell’s films including familiars like Altered States (1980) or Omnibus (1968) and Savage Messiah (1972) you are in for a treat! 

If you love films as much as I do I’ve got yet another treat for you..

Ready to dial in movie night this weekend? Try ditching the alcohol for cannabis or even micro-dosed classical psychedelics. A good alternative to alcohol both cannabis and psychedelics, dosed properly, can help elevate your senses and let you drop into movie night. 

Remember, if new to recreational drugs, start slow.  Track your dosing. You will only get better with practice.

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