LOST

I feel empty

like something bled out slowly and no one noticed.

I stayed long enough, for my voice to stop asking, for my heart to stop expecting.

Even pain got tired of screaming and learned to sit quietly inside me.

This connection didn't end loudly.

It faded into silence, into unread feelings, into me staring at the ceiling wondering when I disappeared.

I didn't leave because I was strong.

I left because there was nothing left of me to give.

I carry no anger now.

g in right

h in hour

b in thumb

w in answer

k in knock

This kind of man really does want love.

He likes the idea of closeness, partnership, and being cared for. But only when it feels safe and easy for him. He wants to be loved without having to open up. He wants connection without having to change or try harder. He wants the good parts of love, without the work that real love needs.

This is very hard for the anxious partner.

Because she feels bad for needing closeness, and guilty for asking for love. She stays, hoping he'll change, while slowly feeling smaller and more invisible.

What He Actually Wants

• To be loved without pressure

• To be admired without changing

• To feel close without feeling exposed

• To be understood without having to understand you

He wants the benefits of a relationship without doing the emotional work that comes with it.

What He Tells Himself

• "She's too emotional."

• "She wants to control me."

• "I just need space."

• "I'm not ready for something heavy."