I'm always going to see bands and I make friends with them and will travel pretty far to see them multiple times on one tour. I love doing that. It makes me happy to spend so much time around amazing people and get to meet the other bands on tour. It almost becomes like a family to me :) I never hookup with band guys and don't plan to. That's just not my style. (Cont)
(Cont) We just hang out, talk, drink, etc. but people seem to get the idea that I’m throwing myself at them and sending a bad message to them and other people and creating a bad rep for myself. I don’t see why this is and it’s very upsetting when people see it this way. Why can’t people get that girls can hang out with band guys and be on their bus and buy them drinks and do all this stuff with them without it meaning they’re hooking up. They can just be friends
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Hi
I totally get that. Even if you do sleep with people, who’s business is it but yours? I think that if people learnt more about what it is to be a groupie, or any woman around music, they would spend less time name calling. It truly is ignorance. Or jealousy - either is not cool. Surround yourself with positive people, that’s all you can do.
I find it ad that people think groupies are only around because bands just want sex. We’re not being “used” like they seem to think. I’ve never had to buy my way into someone’s friendship (a so called friend of mine once asked if I had to give blowjobs to hang out with my musical friends - wtf?). We buy people drinks sometimes, so what? It’s a very small gesture of thanks for the great music we get to hear and experience. but they don’t get that - or they dont’ even want to learn. So frustrating!
In the end, just keep doing what you’re doing! Remember there’s people out there that don’t judge you (including a tonne of groupies online that you’ve never met).
Rachel xx
